OPEN-MINDEDNESS
We have found that God does not make too hard terms with those
who seek Him. To us, the realm of spirit is broad, roomy, all
inclusive, never exclusive or forbidding to those who earnestly
seek. It is open, we believe, to all men.
AS BILL SEES IT, p. 7
Open-mindedness to concepts of a Higher Power can open doors
to the spirit. Often I find the human spirit in various dogmas
and faiths. I can be spiritual in the sharing of myself. The
sharing of self joins me to the human race and brings me closer
to God, as I understand Him.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
But even faith is not the whole story. There must be service.
We must give this thing away if we want to keep it. The Dead
Sea has no outlet and it is stagnant and full of salt. The Sea
of Galilee is clear and clean and blue, as the Jordan River
carries it out to irrigate the desert. To be of service to
other people makes our lives worth living. Does service to
others give me a real purpose in life?
Meditation For The Day
Seek God early in the day, before He gets crowded out by life's
problems, difficulties, or pleasures. In that early quiet time
gain a calm, strong confidence in the goodness and purpose in
the universe. Do not seek God only when the world's struggles
prove too much and too many for you to bear or face alone.
Seek God early, when you can have a consciousness of God's
spirit in the world. People often only seek God when their
difficulties are too great to be surmounted in any other way,
forgetting that if they sought God's companionship before
they need it, many of their difficulties would never arise.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may not let God be crowded out by the hurly-burly
of life. I pray that I may seek God early and often.
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As Bill Sees It
Progress
Rather than Perfection, p. 167
On studying the Twelve Steps, many of us exclaimed, "What an order! I
can't go
through with it." Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able
to maintain
anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints.
The point is that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The
principles we have
set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather
than spiritual
perfection.
<< << << >> >> >>
"We recovered alcoholics are not so much brothers in virtue as we are
brothers in our
defects, and in our common strivings to overcome them."
1. Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 60
2. Letter, 1946
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Keep It Simple
AA states that
resentments is the "number one offender" among our members, that it
puts more alcoholics in the graves than any other thing.---Stools and
Bottles
We can get high on anger. That's why it's dangerous. We get a false
sense of power from being angry. Our anger turns into resentments.
Resentments turn into hate. Hate eats at our spiritual core.
We can get rid of resentments and hate through prayer and helping
others. That's why we we're to pray for those who have wronged us, so
our hearts don't fill with hate. This why, we use our energy in a
healthy way. And our serenity will grow as we see that anger no longer
has so much power over our actions.
Prayer for the Day
Higher Power, help me stop using anger, resentments and hate for
control over other people and advents I don't like.
Action for the Day
I'll list all the people I'm angry at. I'll say a simple prayer for
each of them.
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Walk In Dry Places
Solving our common problem
Recovery
Twelve Step programs bring together people who admit certain behaviors
that society often views with pity or contempt. Some of these
behaviors, such as alcoholism and gambling, are heavily stigmatized.
Though we often talk about "our common problem", the thing we have most
in common with each other is that we're human beings who share the
human condition. No one is really immune from the similar
problems that beset us.
That's why somebody once remarked, only in half-jest, that "alcoholics
are like normal people, only more so." We have to remember
that the people around us are no different from us in that they are
subject to such feelings as pride, resentment, self-pity, and
discouragement.
Our common problem is really that we're human beings who need a
spiritual life in order to become our true selves. This can turn
a problem into a new life if we accept the program.
Today I'll look upon all people with understanding and acceptance.
Everyone shares the same feelings that drive me, and everyone
deserves my warmth and understanding.
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Each Day a New Beginning
Wisdom never kicks at the iron walls it can't bring down. --Olive
Schreiner
God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change. Many
times--yesterday, last week, today, and even tomorrow--we'll come
face-to-face with a seemingly intolerable situation. The compulsion to
change the situation, to demand that another person change the
situation, is great. What a hard lesson it is, to learn we can change
only ourselves! The hidden gift in this lesson is that as our
activities change, often the intolerable situations do, too.
Acceptance, after a time, smooths all the ripples that discourage us.
And it softens us. It nurtures wisdom. It attracts joy and love from
others. Ironically, we often try to force changes that we think will
"loosen" love and lessen struggle. Acceptance can do what our willpower
could never accomplish.
As we grow in wisdom, as we grow in understanding, as we realize the
promises of this program, we'll stand ready, as women, to weather all
our personal storms. Like the willow in the wind, we'll bend rather
than break. And we'll be able to help our sisters become wise through
our example.
My lessons are not easy. But they will ease my way. Better days begin,
today.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter 9 - The Family Afterward
So we think cheerfulness and laughter make for usefulness. Outsiders
are sometimes shocked when we bust into merriment over a seemingly
tragic experience out of the past. But why shouldn’t we laugh? We have
recovered, and have been given the power to help others.
p. 132
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
The Keys Of The Kingdom
This worldly lady helped to develop
A.A. in Chicago and thus passed her keys to many.
I didn't dare hope I might find for
myself all that these people had found, but if I could acquire some
small part of their intriguing quality of living---and sobriety that
would be enough.
p. 274
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Tradition Two
- "For our group purpose, there is but one ultimate authority - a
loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience."
This brings us straight to the question "Does A.A. have a real
leadership?" Most emphatically the answer is "Yes, notwithstanding the
apparent lack of it." Let's turn again to the deposed founder and his
friends. What becomes of them? As their grief and anxiety wear away, a
subtle change begins. Ultimately, they divide into two classes known in
A.A. slang as "elder statesmen" and "bleeding deacons." The elder
statesman is the one who sees the wisdom of the group's decision, who
holds no resentment over his reduced status, whose judgment, fortified
by considerable experience, is sound, and who is willing to sit quietly
on the sidelines patiently awaiting developments. The bleeding deacon
is one who is just as surely convinced that the group cannot get along
without him, who constantly connives for reelection to office, and who
continues to be consumed with self-pity. A few hemorrhage so badly that
- drained of all A.A. spirit and principal - they get drunk. At times
the A.A. landscape seems to be littered with bleeding forms. Nearly
every oldtimer in our Society has gone through this process in some
degree. Happily, most of them survive and live to become elder
statesmen. They become the real and permanent leadership of A.A. Theirs
is the quiet opinion, the sure knowledge and humble example that
resolve a crisis. When sorely perplexed, the group inevitably turns to
them for advice. They become the voice of the group conscience; in
fact, these are the true voice of Alcoholics Anonymous. They do not
drive by mandate; they lead by example. This is the experience which
has led us to the conclusion that our group conscience, well-advised by
its elders, will be in the long run wiser than any single leader.
pp. 134-135
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"The secret of self-confidence and courage hinges on the kind of
thoughts you think. In the long run, your subconscious will send
up to you what you send down to it. Take charge of your mind and
begin to fill it with healthy thoughts."
--Norman Vincent Peale
Act on God's will, and you will be led to better things.
--SweetyZee
Education is what remains after one has forgotten everything he
learned in school.
--Albert Einstein
"Don't talk about what you have done or what you are going to do
--do it and let it speak for itself."
--Martin Vanbee
Thank God For What You Have,
TRUST GOD For What You Need.
If every man would sweep before his own doors, the city would soon be
clean.
-- Italian Proverb
Those who dance are thought to be quite insane by those who cannot
hear music.
-- Maggie Erotokritou
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
LEARNING
"Anyone who stops learning is old,
whether at twenty or eighty.
Anyone who keeps learning stays
young. The greatest thing in life is
to keep your mind young."
--Henry Ford
My life is exciting today because I am learning and creating so much in
recovery. Even things that I thought I understood have a new "ring".
Words, ideas, relationships and the awareness of God are forever
changing - usually for the better.
Sobriety is not boring. It is not stuffy, rigid or restrictive - and
discussions (not arguments) within the fellowship of recovering people
produces fresh insights. Today I am involved in the life of God. I am
creating, healing and forever learning more about the mystery of love.
O Teacher of the Universe, let me seek beyond that which I
understand.
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There
is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in
Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but
according to the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in
Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death.
Romans 8:1-2
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your
enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who
persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes
his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the
righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what
reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if
you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do
not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father
is perfect.
Matthew 5:43-48
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Daily Inspiration
Nothing is more important than your own peace of mind and ability to be
happy. Lord, help me to remember that I must take care of myself
because only then can I care for others.
Confront your problems so they don't gather like weights upon your
back. Lord, help me to handle my concerns of today and lay them to rest.
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NA Just For Today
Accepting Life
"Some things we must accept, others we
can change. The wisdom to know the difference comes with growth in our
spiritual program."
Basic Text, p.92
It's relatively easy to accept the
things we like-it's the things we don't like that are hard to accept.
But remaking the world and everyone in it to suit our tastes would
solve nothing. After all, the idea that the world was to blame for all
our problems was the attitude that kept us using-and that attitude
nearly killed us.
In the course of working the steps, we
begin to ask ourselves hard questions about the roles we ourselves have
played in creating the unacceptable lives we've lived. In most cases,
we've found that what needed changing was our own attitude and our own
actions, not the people, places, and things around us.
In recovery, we pray for wisdom to
know the difference between what can and can't be changed. Then, once
we see the truth of our situation, we pray for the willingness to
change ourselves.
Just for today: Higher Power, grant me
the wisdom to know the difference between what can be changed and what
I must accept. Please help me gratefully accept the life I've been
given.
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
Being alive is being creative. You
need do nothing but affirm your aliveness. --Gay Bonner
What does it mean to be alive? Does it
mean merely breathing, eating, and moving around, or is there more to
it? Being alive can mean different things to different people. To some,
it's sewing a baby quilt for a new life about to be born. To others,
it's singing, or walking, or running. Still others find it in the
exhilaration of skiing, or the tropical splendor they find when scuba
diving.
Each of us has our own favorite
activity that lets us feel our creativity and vitality, that lets us
feel a part of the larger world. Two gifts these activities leave us
with are joy and energy. Joy is one of the most creative forces we can
call on, and energy gives us the power to do it well.
What will my creative activity be
today?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
It's not hard. When I'm not hittin', I
don't hit nobody. But when I'm hittin', I hit anybody! --Willie Mays
It seems like some days everything
goes our way. Everything falls together in a way that makes life easier
for us. Other days are just the opposite; on a bad day we seem to be
all thumbs. In our spiritual practice we know we don't control all that
goes on around us.
We all are vulnerable to accidents,
random misfortune, and illness. Yet, when we don't fight against the
events of our lives, somehow things go better for us. We can remember
that as difficult as a day may be, we are never alone because nothing
can separate us from our Higher Power. When we accept the bad things
that come, even though they are unfair, we give them less power in our
lives. Then we are free to go forward and leave more room for the good
things.
Today, I'll accept the problems I must
confront and leave room for the good things.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
The pain of love is the pain of being
alive. It's a perpetual wound. --Maureen Duffy
We live in one another's company. We
grow to yearn for one another's company at a deeper level. The yearning
reciprocated, opens the way to a love relationship, a relationship both
blessed and torn by intimacies.
It's human to long for love, to want
to shower it and receive it. But the pain of waiting for it doesn't
match the pain that accompanies its arrival. Love heightens our
sensitivities. Any separations, any discrepancies, physical or
emotional, wound the partners in love. The pain that accompanies never
having something is less than the pain of projected loss after its
arrival.
Love should bring only happiness, we
mistakenly think. But love, giving it and receiving it, beckons us to
bare our souls, to expose our hidden selves. The fear of rejection, the
anxiety that we'll be rejected "when they know the real me" is large
and looms over our shoulders.
How lucky we are to have this program,
these Steps, which if practiced in all our affairs will prepare us for
love and loving. They will help us to live with the pain of love,
knowing that it increases our humanity - that it deepens our
awarenesses and thus, heightens our appreciation of all of life.
The pain of love increases my rapture.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Feeling Good
Having boundaries doesn't complicate
life; boundaries simplify life. --Beyond Codependency
There is a positive aspect to boundary
setting. We learn to listen to ourselves and identify what hurt us and
what we don't like. But we also learn to identify what feels good.
When we are willing to take some risks
and begin actively doing so, we will enhance the quality of our life.
What do we like? What feels good? What
brings us pleasure? Whose company do we enjoy? What helps us to feel
good in the morning? What's a real treat in our life? What are the
small, daily activities that make us feel nurtured and cared for?
What appeals to our emotional,
spiritual, mental, and physical self? What actually feels good to us?
We have deprived ourselves to long.
There is no need to do that anymore, no need. If it feels good, and the
consequences are self-loving and not self defeating, do it!
Today, I will do for myself those
little things that make life more pleasurable. I will not deny myself
healthy treats.
Today I choose to see myself well and
whole. Today I put all my energy into positive thoughts, knowing that
my body is healthy and strong. --Ruth Fishel
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Journey To The Heart
Seek Freedom and Equality in Love
Are you deferring to someone in your
life? When we relinquish control of our lives to someone else, we also
relinquish responsibility for our happiness, our well-being, our joy,
our growth, and our choices.
It’s healthy and normal to want to be
nurtured. A partner can make our lives easier, take some of the load
off. We are sent helpers, friends, and lovers. The Divine arm of love
reaches out through people, through our loved ones, to bring us the
support we need. Opening to and receiving that support are essential to
well-being, to joy, to happiness. But there’s a difference between
receiving help and support and being controlled. There’s a difference
between surrendering to love and surrendering to control.
Relinquishing control can happen
subtly, but its effects are powerful. We begin to believe we’ve lost
our freedom. We begin to believe that someone has taken it away. We
feel stifled, repressed.
Don’t make other people responsible
for delineating your boundaries. It’s your job to take responsibility
for your choices, your comings, your goings, your well-being, your
path. If you feel you’ve relinquished your power, your freedom, take it
back. Take responsibility for yourself. You don’t have to defer to
anyone. The times of being controlled are past. You can accept
nurturing without being manipulated. You can accept love without being
controlled.
Set yourself free. Love exists only
where freedom exists. Create relationships that are equal. There you
will find love.
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More Language Of Letting Go
Deal with manipulation
A few years ago I was in Jordan on an
excursion through the Middle East. I wanted to go to Pakistan, but when
I got to the Pakistani embassy in Jordan, an official ordered me to go
to the American embassy, miles away, saying, “You have to get a piece
of paper from your government vouching for you. That’s the only way the
government of Pakistan will even consider your request.”
I went to the American embassy in
Jordan and stood in line there all day. Finally, when it was my turn, I
told the gentleman why I was there. “That’s ridiculous,” he said.
“There’s no such thing as an international voucher for people in the
United States. That’s what a passport does. It says the American
government is vouching for you, declaring you worthy and reliable to
travel abroad.”
He began to speak more quietly. “He’s
just messing with you,” he said, of the government official at the
other agency. “Sometimes they like to play games with people, show them
how much power they really have.”
I went back to the Pakistani embassy.
When I returned, there was an elderly Muslim man sitting in the waiting
room. He wore a turban. His head was bowed. He was reciting the Koran
and rubbing his string of prayer beads.
He helped set the tone and reminded me
of what I needed to do: calm down, be peaceful, stop resisting, and
harmonize with the situation. It didn’t matter if the visa man was
wrong and I was right. he had the power. I needed to go to him. I sat
quietly waiting for my turn. When I went up to the counter, I
deliberately acknowledged his point of view. Then I gently explained
that I didn’t get the piece of paper he asked for from the American
embassy, because that paper didn’t exist. I explained it was probably
the only time in my life. I’d be in this area of the world. I pointed
to the poster on the wall. “The Himalayas are so beautiful there,” I
said. “If I don’t go now, I don’t know that I ever will. You have the
power to say yes or no. And I have no choice but to go along with
whatever you say. It’s in your hands.”
He told me to go sit down. I did. Five
minutes later, he called me back to the stand. “Here,” he said, handing
me my passport. “Enjoy your visit in Pakistan.”
We have a right to get as mad as we
want, but sometimes harmonizing can achieve so much more than yelling
in indignation or even fighting back. Next time you find yourself in a
situation where you’re being manipulated, let go of your resistance and
practice harmony instead.
God, teach me the power of moving
gently, with humility and respect, through the world.
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In God’s Care
Once you accept the existence of God
– however you define Him, however you explain your relationship to Him
– then you are caught forever with His presence in the center of all
things.~~Moris West
Having our Higher Power is an
integral part of how we experience all the hours of a day (whether they
hold burdens or blessings) heightens our awareness of the fullness of
our life. Believing that God exists for us and in us profoundly changes
how we see every aspect of our day. The day and our place in the drama
that unfolds take on new meaning and purpose.
A number of us didn’t believe in God
when we joined a Twelve Step program. Or if we did, many of us believed
in a demanding or punishing God who had no relevance to our daily life.
What a difference it makes to let a loving God take charge of our
thoughts, attitudes, behaviors, and plans for the future. Nothing can
stir much fear in us when we remember that God is right here, now,
always.
Today God will be the center of all
my activities.
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Day By Day
Taking off the masks
We’re not much different from other
people (except that we couldn’t stop abusing mood-altering chemicals).
Like other people, we, too, wear masks. We’re afraid that others will
find out who we really are, especially since we no longer hide behind
chemicals.
But if we work the program, we will
get stronger, If we work the program, we won’t need our masks because
we will accept ourselves (and others) more.
Can I stop wearing my masks?
Higher Power, help me work the Steps
and to accept myself and my recovery.
Today I will practice treating myself
well. I will practice being myself with…
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Start with the Heart
Checking in with Your Heart Daily
Every day we experience a magical
twilight between our dreams and waking state. During this brief period
of time, our minds still remember that all things are possible. We can
smoothly transition into our physical world without losing a sense of
hope when we check in with our heart center first, before we even get
out of bed. Our heart center is the link between body and spirit,
instinct and inspiration. It doesn’t take long to hold a thought of
loving gratitude for the heart that beats within us. In a mere moment
we can review all that we want to accomplish in the light of love. When
we get into the habit of beginning our day from the heart, all of our
activities glow with the infusion of conscious intent and all
interactions are done with compassion.
We can restart our day right now by
imagining how love and inspiration feel. As light glows from our heart
center, radiating out through our bodies into the space around us, any
feelings of stress or frustration seem to melt away. Now, we see each
person we encounter as fellow travelers in the journey of life, and
every activity becomes part of a spiritual partnership. As conscious
participants in the cycle of giving and receiving, we share our light
with others as we become enlivened ourselves, with our heart leading
the way.
In the intersection where our body and
soul meet, our physical heart beats in time with the rhythm of the
universe. It does the physical work of supplying our body with life
force without our attention, but for its spiritual work, we need to be
conscious. When we concentrate on its rhythm and glowing light, we
remember that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Then
we know that we can choose any time to check in with our heart center,
and in doing so, experience the joy of being in love with life.
Published with permission from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
The Ninth Step of The Program is:
“Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do
so would injure them or others.” To make restitution for the wrongs
we’ve done can be extremely difficult, to say the least; if nothing
else, it deflates our egos and batters our pride. Yet that in itself is
a reward, and such restitution can bring still greater rewards. When we
go to a person and say we’re sorry, the reaction is almost invariably
positive. Courage is required, to be sure, but the results more than
justify the action. Have I done my best to make all the restitution
possible?
Today I Pray
May I count on my Higher Power to stop
me if I start to crawl out from under my Ninth Step responsibility. May
I feel that blessed, liberating wash of relief that goes with saying
out loud, to someone I have harmed, “I was wrong. I made mistakes. I am
honestly sorry.” May I not worry about cracking the brittle, cover-up
crust of my ego, because the inside will be more mature.
Today I Will Remember
Restitution is blessed.
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One More Day
We do not live an equal life, but one
of contrasts and patchwork; now a little joy, then a sorrow, now a sin,
then a generous or brave action.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
As our life experience unfolds, we
live some days to the fullest and others in a very minimal way. If we
focus too much on the less productive days or if we use them only as
substandard comparisons to our best days, we may lose sight of the real
value and meaning of the time we’ve been given.
A wholesome life, a productive life, a
good life — whatever we call it — is not a shimmering length of
perfectly woven cloth. It’s more like a patchwork quilt set together by
resourceful hands. We cannot choose to discard a bad experience or a
poor decision; instead, we piece it into the total colorful work that
is life.
Today, I will be more aware of how the
contrasts of my life create a unique and beautiful pattern.
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Food For Thought
Satisfaction Comes from Inside
Why do we continually expect to be satisfied by taking in and
possessing things from the outside? Amassing material goods and
possessions more often than not stimulates rather than satisfies our
appetite. What we do and contribute satisfies us more than what we have
and consume.
When we are at peace within ourselves and in contact with our Higher
Power, we make fewer demands on the outside world. When we are able to
use our abilities in productive work and can give of our emotional and
spiritual strength to other people, we feel replete.
Nothing from the outside can bring us happiness if we are at war with
ourselves. Chronic dissatisfaction indicates that we have not turned
our will and our lives over to God's care, but are still trying to run
the show egotistically. Complete surrender opens the way to
satisfaction.
I want to surrender to the inner needs of my spirit.
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One Day At A Time
MIRROR, MIRROR
"Beauty is eternity gazing at itself
in a mirror.”
Kahlil Gibran
As a child, I often looked in the
mirror and wished I were a boy. I thought I was ugly, had a deep voice,
and was a disappointment as a girl. Even as a young woman I could never
enjoy my appearance. I never saw the truth in the mirror. I would
always focus on my “problem areas” and feel devastated that this had
happened to my body. I felt totally helpless and wanted to cry; but I
didn’t cry ~ I ate instead. Compulsive overeating stripped me of my
true self. It made me incapable of seeing the truth, feeling the truth,
and perceiving the truth.
Since coming to OA the scales have
fallen from my eyes. By reading the Big Book, going to meetings,
interacting with my sponsor, and working the steps, I have been able to
see things as they are. Now I see my true self in the mirror and I can
deal with life as it is. I can feel my feelings and know that they are
neither right nor wrong and they will pass and change with the wind.
This healing has cleared space in my mind and spirit for me to connect
with my Higher Power. It has made room for me to grow, to love and care
for myself, and to appreciate the body God gave me. When I doubt my
perceptions, my feelings, or what I’m seeing in the mirror, I just
surrender and remind myself that God has given me new eyes and new
tools for living my life. The 12 Steps of OA shine a light into my soul
and show me the truth in all areas of my life and recovery.
One day at a time...
I will look at myself ~ in all areas
of my recovery ~ and know that what I am seeing is the truth because
the light of OA and the 12 steps are guiding my life today.
~ Karen
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
As we look back, we feel we had gone
on drinking many years beyond the point where we could quit on our will
power. If anyone questions whether he has entered this dangerous area,
let him try leaving liquor alone for one year. If he is a real
alcoholic and very far advanced, there is scant chance of success. -
Pg. 34 - More About Alcoholism
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Tomorrow is not a day to worry about.
Yes, there are possible adversities, burdens, and fears but the sun
will rise without our control and we know not whether it rises in
splendor or behind a mask of stormy weather. Therefore, we leave
tomorrow to tend itself.
Tomorrow is a day I will never meet so
I stay focused in this hour and tend to my needs now--not project about
unknown needs tomorrow.
Anger and Blame
Today, I accept my feelings of anger
and blame without beating myself up for them. Feelings aren't facts;
they are meant to inform me of what is going on inside me. When I
constantly judge myself for what I feel, I make my difficult emotions
much more complicated, and they last ten times as long. There is
nothing inherently wrong with any feelings - so what if I am angry and
feel like getting mad? Accepting this allows the feeling to pass
through me. Fighting it keeps me tangled up inside with no way out.
Judging myself doesn't help anyone, least of all me. Frightening
feelings are just frightening feelings. I do not have to overreact to
them.
My own feelings need not toss me in
every direction.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
There are many times when crying is
the appropriate thing to do. Tears let us know that you need to be
supported and consoled. Do not be afraid to cry. Do not be afraid to
support others when they cry.
Tears are liquid prayers.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
A good listener is not only popular
everywhere but after awhile he knows something.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I choose to see myself well and
whole. Today I put all my energy into positive thoughts, knowing that
my body is healthy and strong.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
The world is so full of a number of
things, I'm sure we should be as happy as kings. - Robert Louis
Stevenson.
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AA Thought for the Day
June 16
Solitude
In solitude, we take our inventories.
In solitude, we admit to ourselves the
exact nature of our wrongs.
In solitude, our spirits seek that
Power greater than we are;
in solitude, we seek through prayer
and meditation to be aware of God's will for us. . .
We are alone, but not lonely.
- Came To Believe . . ., p. 109
Thought to Ponder . . .
An open heart is never a lonely one.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
G R A C E = Gently Releasing All
Conscious Expectations.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Fun
"Every day, I feel a little bit more
useful,
more happy, and more free.
Life, including some ups and downs, is
a lot of fun.
I am part of AA which is a way of life.
If I had not become an active
alcoholic and joined AA,
I might never have found my own
identity
or become a part of anything."
1976AAWS, Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 417
Thought to Consider . . .
Joy is in knowing there is an answer.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
F I N E = Free, Independent, New and
Energetic
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Living
>From "Fear of Fear:"
"I can't afford resentments against
anyone, because they are the build-up
of
another drunk. I must live and let
live."
1976, Alcoholics Anonymous, page 325
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"Alcoholics Anonymous has an answer to
problems in sobriety, making sobriety, eventually, something wonderful
instead of something that can drive people to drink."
Tasmania, December 2006
"Solutions,"
AA Grapevine
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N'
Twelve Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"Most of us have been unwilling to
admit we were real alcoholics. No
person likes to think he is bodily and
mentally different from his
fellows. Therefore, it is not
surprising that our drinking careers
have been characterized by countless
vain attempts to prove we could
drink like other people. The idea that
somehow, someday he will
control and enjoy his drinking is the
great obsession of every
abnormal drinker. The persistence of
this illusion is astonishing.
Many pursue it into the gates of
insanity or death."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
More About Alcoholism, Page 30~
"The great fact is just this, and
nothing less: That we have had deep
and effective spiritual experiences
which have revolutionized our
whole attitude toward life, toward our
fellows and toward God's
universe. The central fact of our
lives today is the absolute
certainty that our Creator has entered
into our hearts and lives in a
way which is indeed miraculous. He has
commenced to accomplish those
things for us which we could never do
by ourselves."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
There Is A Solution, pg. 25~
"I pointed out that I had had nothing
to drink whatever for three years, and this in the face of difficulties
that would have made nine out of ten men drink their heads off."
-Alcoholics Anonymous p. 138 (To
Employers)
"And they have increasingly found a
peace of mind which can stand firm in the face of difficult
circumstances."
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions p.
104 (Step Eleven)
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
On studying the Twelve Steps, many of
us exclaimed, 'What an order! I can't go through with it.' Do not be
discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain anything like
perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints.
The point is that we are willing to
grow along spiritual lines. The principles we have set down are guides
to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual
perfection.
We recovered alcoholics are not so
much brothers in virtue as we are brothers in our defects, and in our
common strivings to overcome them.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me through the
difficulties, so that my victory over them may bear witness to those I
will help.