FAMILY
OBLIGATIONS
. . . a spiritual life which does not include . . . family
obligations may not be so perfect after all.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 129
I can be doing great in the program--applying it at meetings,
at work, and in service activities--and find that things have
gone to pieces at home. I expect my loved ones to understand,
but they cannot. I expect them to see and value my progress,
but they don't--unless I show them. Do I neglect their needs
and desire for my attention and concern? When I'm around them,
am I irritable or boring? Are my "amends" a mumbled "Sorry,"
or do they take the form of patience and tolerance? Do I
preach to them, trying to reform or "fix" them? Have I ever
really cleaned house with them? "The spiritual life is not a
theory. We have to live it."
(Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 83).
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
We alcoholics have to believe in some Power greater than
ourselves. Yes, we have to believe in God. Not to believe in
a Higher Power drives us to atheism. Atheism, it has been
said before, is blind faith in the strange proposition that
this universe originated in a cipher and aimlessly rushes
nowhere. That's practically impossible to believe. So we turn
to that Divine Principle in the universe that we call God.
Have I stopped trying to run my own life?
Meditation For The Day
"Lord, we thank Thee for the great gift of peace, that peace
which passeth all understanding, that peace which the world
can neither give nor take away." That is the peace that only
God can give in the midst of a restless world and surrounded
by trouble and difficulty. To know that peace is to have
received the stamp of the kingdom of God. When you have earned
that peace, you are fit to judge between true and false values,
between the values of the kingdom of God and the values of all
that the world has to offer.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that today I may have inner peace. I pray that today I
may be at peace with myself.
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As Bill Sees It
"Let's Keep
It Simple", p. 162
"We need to distinguish sharply between spiritual simplicity and
functional
simplicity."
"When we say that A.A. advocates no theological proposition except God
as we
understand Him, we greatly simplify A.A. life by avoiding conflict and
exclusiveness.
"But when we get into questions of action by groups, by areas, and by
A.A. as a whole,
we find that we must to some extent organize to carry the message--or
else face
chaos. And chaos is not simplicity."
<< << << >> >> >>
I learned that the temporary or seeming good can often be the deadly
enemy of the
permanent best. When it comes to survival for A.A., nothing short of
our best will be
good enough.
1. Letter, 1966
2. A.A. Comes Of Age, p. 294
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Walk in Dry Places
What can we change ?
Handling limitations.
There's always danger that resignation will masquerade as
acceptance.
In 12 Step programs, we must learn the difference between the two.
Resignation refers to putting up with conditions that we should
actually change; it regards self-imposed limitation. Acceptance meansx
recognizing reality and becoming comfortable with it.
We might resign ourselves to bad treatment that is unacceptable, or we
might put up with personal shortcomings that we could change. When
someone points this out, we defend ourselves by asserting points this
out., we defend ourselves by asserting that we're practicing acceptance.
As human beings and children of God, we are entitled to live with
dignity and to receive fair treatment. We should never resign ourselves
to anything that robs us of this basic humanity. Our Higher Power will
show us how to eliminate resignation if we have been practicing it. The
message of the program is that we never have to accept the things we
can and should change.
Today if I am uncomfortable with something, I'll ask myself if I've
been practicing resignation instead of acceptance. There may be
many
things in my life that can and should be changed.
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Keep It Simple
Who is the bravest hero? He who turns his enemy into a friend. ---
Hebrew
Proverb
In recovery we take our worst enemy, addiction, and turn it around. We
were ashamed of our addiction. Over time we become proud of our
recovery.
We were our own worst enemy. Now we're our own best friend. We are
brave
people.
Being brave is about facing our fears. Often we think brave people
don't
get afraid, but this isn't true. Brave people learn to stay put, even
when their knees are shaking. Many times in recovery, we will want to
run
when we should stay put. We may even think about using chemicals again.
We need to remember our bravery and how we turned our worst enemy into
a
friend.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, teach me when to run and when
to stay put. Help me be
brave.
Action for the Day: I will claim bravery today. I'll hold my head
up high and be proud of how
far I've come. I now have nothing to be ashamed of.
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Each Day a New Beginning
My lifetime listens to yours. --Muriel Rukeyser
Our experiences educate us to help show each other the way. Others'
experiences, likewise, will help still others. We need to share our
histories. And the program offers us the way. There is no greater honor
we can give one another than rapt attention. We each want to be heard,
to be special, to be acknowledged. And recognition may will be the balm
that will heal someone's hurt today.
A new day faces us, a day filled with opportunities to really listen to
someone who needs to be heard. And the surprise is that we will hear a
message just right for us, where we are now. A message that may well
point us in a new, better direction. Guidance is always at hand, if
only we listen for it. But when we are trapped in our own narrow world
of problems and confusion, we scramble whatever messages are trying to
reach us. And we miss the many opportunities to make another person
feel special and necessary to our lives.
My growth is enhanced every time I give my attention fully to another
person. And this process is multiplied over and over and over. I will
be there for someone today.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter 9 - The Family Afterward
There will be other profound changes in the household. Liquor
incapacitated father for so many years that mother became head of the
house. She met these responsibilities gallantly. By force of
circumstances, she was often obliged to treat father as a sick or
wayward child. Even when he wanted to assert himself he could not, for
his drinking placed him constantly in the wrong. Mother made all the
plans and gave the directions. When sober, father usually obeyed. Thus
mother, through no fault of her own, became accustomed to wearing the
family trousers. Father, coming suddenly to life again, often begins to
assert himself. This means trouble, unless the family watches for these
tendencies in each other and comes to a friendly agreement about them.
pp. 130-131
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
The Keys
Of The Kingdom
This
worldly lady helped to develop A.A. in Chicago and thus passed her keys
to many.
The next day I received a visit from Mr. T., a recovered
alcoholic. I don't know what sort of person I was expecting, but
I was very agreeably surprised to find Mr. T. a poised, intelligent,
well-groomed, and mannered gentleman. I was immediately impressed
with his graciousness and charm. He put me at ease with his first
few words. Looking at him, I found it hard to believe he had ever
been as I was then.
p. 273
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Tradition Two
- "For our group purpose, there is but one ultimate authority - a
loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience."
Where does A.A. get its direction? Who runs it? This, too, is a puzzler
for every friend and newcomer. When told that our Society has no
president having authority to govern it, no treasurer who can compel
the payment of any dues, no board of directors who can cast an erring
member into outer darkness, when indeed no A.A. can give another a
directive and enforce obedience, our friends gasp and exclaim, "This
simply can't be. There must be an angle somewhere." These practical
folk then read Tradition Two, and learn that the sole authority in A.A.
is a loving God as He may express Himself in the group conscience. They
dubiously ask an experienced A.A. member if this really works. The
member, sane to all appearances, immediately answers, "Yes! It
definitely does." The friends mutter that this looks vague, nebulous,
pretty naive to them. Then they commence to watch us with speculative
eyes, pick up a fragment of A.A. history, and soon have the solid facts.
p. 132
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"No matter how much cats fight, there always seem to be plenty of
kittens."
--Abraham Lincoln
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could;
some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as
you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with
too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense."
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
The right time for the journey is when you begin it. Why not today?
God, motivate me to live a fuller, richer life.
--An excerpt from Melody Beattie - (More Language of Letting Go)
"There is a very little difference between people; it is called
attitude;
and it makes a really big difference. The big difference is whether it's
positive or negative."
--W. Clement Stone
"Kindness can become its own motive.
We are made kind by being kind."
--Eric Hoffer
Look past the body, past the personality, past the behavior, into the
window of one another's souls. There we make a connection. The
God in me recognizes and honors the God in you.
--Mary Manin Morrissey
God, grant me the serenity to not try to force outcomes and solutions
too soon.
--Melody Beattie
Wish not so much to live long, as to live well.
-- Benjamin Franklin
It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows.
--Epictetus
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
SOLITUDE
"Everyone should try to find a
spot to be alone."
--Queen Juliana (Netherlands)
Greta Garbo was reported to have said, "I want to be alone." Life
brings its pressures, but we all need to find a place where we can be
"alone".
Alone - not to "think" or "do" - simply to be. We need time to simply
rest in our lives. A time in the day which we can call our own, to have
a
visit with the most important person we have got in our lives -
ourselves.
To rest in self is to experience "spiritual selfishness" - the joy of
self-love.
And how much we look forward to setting aside a time just for heart
and mind to center on the pathway to listening to God.
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And
God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be
no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any
more pain: for the former things are passed away.
Revelation 21:4
Even in darkness light dawns for the upright, for the gracious and
compassionate and righteous man. Good will come to him who is generous
and lends freely, who conducts his affairs with justice.
Surely he will never be shaken; a righteous man will be remembered
forever. He will have no fear of bad news; his heart is steadfast,
trusting in the LORD. His heart is secure, he will have no fear; in the
end he will look in triumph on his foes. He has scattered abroad his
gifts to the poor, his righteousness endures forever; his horn will be
lifted
high in honor.
Psalm 112:4-9
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Daily Inspiration
It is laughter that helps us cope with the upsets and
chaos of everyday living. Lord, lighten my spirit so that I will not
take myself so seriously and be able to find more moments to laugh.
Take care of yourself so that you may give care to others. Lord, may I
never totally ignore myself and my feelings for the sake of others and
fit in time daily to refresh my spirit.
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NA Just For Today
Living Clean
"As we recover; we gain a new outlook
on being clean.... Life can become a new adventure for us."
Basic Text, p. 88
The using life is not a clean one-no
one knows this better than we do. Some of us lived in physical squalor,
caring neither for our surroundings nor ourselves. Worse, though, than
any external filth was the way most of us felt inside. The things we
did to get our drugs, the way we treated other people, and the way we
treated ourselves had us feeling dirty. Many of us recall waking too
many mornings just wishing that, for once, we could feel clean about
ourselves and our lives.
Today, we have a chance to feel clean
by living clean. For us addicts, living clean starts with not using -
after all, that's our primary use for the word "clean" in Narcotics
Anonymous. But as we stay "clean" and work the Twelve Steps, we
discover another kind of clean. It's the clean that comes from
admitting the truth about our addiction rather than hiding or denying
our disease. It's the freshness that comes from owning up to our wrongs
and making amends for them. It's the vitality that comes from the new
set of values we develop as we seek a Higher Power's will for us. When
we practice the principles of our program in all our affairs, we have
no reason to feel dirty about our lives or our lifestyles - we're
living clean, and grateful to be doing so at last.
"Clean living" used to be just for the
"squares." Today, living clean is the only way we'd have it.
Just for today: I feel clean because
I'm living clean - and that's the way I want to keep it.
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You are reading from the book Today's Gift.
Worry never robs tomorrow of its
sorrow, but only saps today of its strength. --A. J. Cronin
There is always something to worry
about. What if it rains tomorrow on the family picnic? What if the baby
gets sick and we can't go? What if we can't find a shady spot for our
lunch table? Will the water be too cold for swimming? Will the boat
motor conk out in the middle of the lake? What if we forget the
charcoal? Or the lighter fluid?
Today, while preparing the potato
salad for tomorrow's picnic, all we need to know is whether the
potatoes are cool enough to peel and slice.
Our worries about tomorrow change
nothing but ourselves, and they have nothing to do with what we are
doing right now. Tomorrow will become today soon enough, and today is
the day we have.
Which of my worries belong only to
tomorrow, and should be left alone until then?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
We are each so much more than what
some reduce to measuring. --Karen Kaiser Clark
Our society places great emphasis on
how well each person is doing. It makes us judgmental and competitive.
As children we may have thought that our real value was measured by the
grades we got in school or the scores of our baseball games. As grown
men we continue measuring our worth by things like the size of our
wages, the model of the car we drive, or even how many months or years
we have in recovery.
We can't stop the measuring, but we
are in a program that helps us step outside this system. We seek to
know and do the will of our Higher Power, which is beyond the
limitations of such measurements. Submitting our own will to our Higher
Power releases us from the competition and the judgments in these games
of measurement. Our loyalties are to values like honesty, respect,
peace, and wholeness.
Today, I will remember that my value
as a man isn't measured on a man-made scale.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
My lifetime listens to yours. --Muriel
Rukeyser
Our experiences educate us to help
show each other the way. Others' experiences, likewise, will help still
others. We need to share our histories. And the program offers us the
way. There is no greater honor we can give one another than rapt
attention. We each want to be heard, to be special, to be acknowledged.
And recognition may will be the balm that will heal someone's hurt
today.
A new day faces us, a day filled with
opportunities to really listen to someone who needs to be heard. And
the surprise is that we will hear a message just right for us, where we
are now. A message that may well point us in a new, better direction.
Guidance is always at hand, if only we listen for it. But when we are
trapped in our own narrow world of problems and confusion, we scramble
whatever messages are trying to reach us. And we miss the many
opportunities to make another person feel special and necessary to our
lives.
My growth is enhanced every time I
give my attention fully to another person. And this process is
multiplied over and over and over. I will be there for someone today.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Moving Forward
Much as we would like, we cannot bring
everyone with us on this journey called recovery. We are not being
disloyal by allowing ourselves to move forward. We don't have to wait
for those we love to decide to change as well.
Sometimes we need to give ourselves
permission to grow, even though the people we love are not ready to
change. We may even need to leave people behind in their dysfunction or
suffering because we cannot recover for them. We don't need to suffer
with them.
It doesn't help.
It doesn't help for us to stay stuck
just because someone we love is stuck. The potential for helping others
is far greater when we detach, work on ourselves, and stop trying to
force others to change with us.
Changing ourselves, allowing ourselves
to grow while others seek their own path, is how we have the most
beneficial impact on people we love. We're accountable for ourselves.
They're accountable for themselves. We let them go, and let ourselves
grow.
Today, I will affirm that it is my
right to grow and change, even though someone I love may not be growing
and changing alongside me.
Today I have the courage to look
within without fear at what needs to be changed in my life. --Ruth
Fishel
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Journey To The Heart
Be Honest with Yourself
What are you feeling deep down inside?
Under the anger. Under the rage. Under the numb I don’t care, it
doesn’t matter. Are you really feeling scared? Hurt? Abandoned? Go more
deeply into yourself and your emotions than you have ever gone before.
The way to joy, the way to the heart is tender, soft, gentle, and
honest. The way to the heart is to be vulnerable.
You don’t have to be so brave. You
don’t have to be so strong. You don’t always have to walk away with
your head held high saying, I can handle this. Ive been through worse
before.
Become angry if you must. Feel your
rage if it’s there. Go numb once in a while, if you must. Then take a
chance, and go a little deeper. Go way down deep inside. See what’s
there. Take a look. Risk being vulnerable.
Love yourself and all your emotions.
Be as honest with yourself as you can be. Say how you really feel.
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More Language Of Letting Go
Stop defending yourself
Do you walk around wearing a suit of
armor? Often, if we were hurt as children or hurt frequently as adults,
we put on a suit of emotional armor to protect us from being hurt more.
We lower our visor to avoid seeing the pain and block out all hurtful
sights. We pick up weapons, sharp words, manipulative behaviors, acting
out– anything to help us defend ourselves against those who would hurt
us again. We get used to being in battle and soon all of life is a
struggle.
Stop fighting. Yes, you have been
hurt. Many of us have. But when you project the characteristics of one
person onto everyone you know, you don’t allow their true selves to
shine through. All you can see is the limited view from your visor.
You are growing and gaining strength
every day. You’re safe now. Why not put down the weapons for a little
while, lift the visor on your suit of armor, and see the people around
you for who they are– mostly kind, good-hearted ordinary people just
like you. They have been hurt and healed, they have won and lost. They
laugh and they cry. Open up to them, and allow the sharing to begin to
heal you and your heart.
God, help me to lower my defenses
today, to be open to the good in the people around me and to the good
that I have to offer them.
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In God’s Care
“What do you think of God,” the
teacher asked. After a pause, the young pupil replied, “He’s not a
think, he’s a feel.”
~~Paul Frost
If our approach to God rested on how
much brain power we could summon, a lot of us would be in trouble. We
can’t think our way to God. We have to feel our way there. We have to
need God so much, love God so much (or love the idea of God so much)
that we just find ourselves in communion with God. It’s our feelings
that bring us there.
Our reaching out to God usually comes
as a last resort. It’s the result of finally realizing that everything
else we’ve tried has failed to bring us peace of mind. It doesn’t say
much for our good sense that we have a tendency to approach God only
when we’re desperate, but then it isn’t intellectual power that brings
us to our knees. Let’s face it, we need God, not in our head, but in
our gut.
I don’t have to use my intelligence to
get to God. I only have to want God in my life
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Friends
Gifts We Give Ourselves by Madisyn Taylor
Friends give us the gift of helping us
learn more about our selves while also being a mirror for the other.
Good friends enrich our lives in so
many ways. Through a magical combination of similarities and
differences, friends offer us the opportunity to know ourselves as we
are and help us grow into who we want to be. Our similarities attract
us to each other, comforting us with familiarity when we see ourselves
in them. When we are drawn to those we admire, the same recognition is
at work, unconsciously acknowledging that these people possess
qualities that we ourselves possess. By acting as mirrors, friends help
us define who we are by reflecting our selves back to us.
Friends also help us know ourselves
through our differences. Differences allow us to see other options and
make choices about who we want to be. Sometimes we are drawn to those
who appear to be our opposites, and we learn to accept the parts of
them we love and the parts of them that don’t resonate with us, thus
allowing us a valuable learning experience. By expanding our
understanding to include others’ experiences, friends help us accept
others. By understanding when someone’s life differs from our own, we
can learn about ourselves in contrast. There are times when we see in
friends what we don’t like about ourselves. That mirror reflection may
be hard to take, but a good friend helps us find ways we can change and
supports us in that choice.
Part of the joy of friendship is the
feeling that we are accepted just the way we are, with no need to
change. It is a gift they give us, and one we can give back every day.
Ultimately, we choose friends because they make us feel good about
ourselves and life. Through tears and difficulties, friends help us
find the laughter. When we find those special people who offer us that
perfect combination of comfort and stimulus to grow, we are very
fortunate. Friends, those wonderful companions that walk with us
through life, help us define and refine who we are and who we choose to
be every day. Published with permission from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
Guilt is a cunning weapon in the
armory of the addictive person which continues to lurk patiently inside
each of us. We can use the weapon against ourselves in many subtle
ways; it can be deftly wielded, for example, in an attempt to convince
us that The Program doesn’t really work. I have to protect myself
constantly against guilt an d self-accusations concerning my past. If
necessary, I must constantly “re-forgive” myself, accepting myself as a
mixture of good as well as bad. Am I striving for spiritual progress?
Or will I settle for working less than the human impossibility of
spiritual perfection?
Today I Pray
May I look inside myself now and then
for any slow-burning, leftover guilt which can, when I’m unwary, damage
any purpose. may I stop kicking myself and pointing our my own
imperfections — all those leaser qualities which detract from the ideal
and “perfect” me. May I no longer try to be unreachable, inhumanly
perfect, but just spiritually whole.
Today I Will Remember
I am human — part good, part
no-so-good.
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One More Day
What we call the beginning is often
the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we
start from.
– George Eliot
Sometimes a painful ending can be the
beginning of a new way of life which is a happy reality. The end of
grief brings us new acceptance and balance. The end of a bad
relationship might be a welcome beginning.
An ending? Or a beginning? Often the
answer depends on how we choose to see it. Grown children leaving home
can be a sad end, or it can be an exciting opportunity to begin living
more for ourselves. A move can mean leaving old friends or meeting new
ones. Almost every event in life — marriage, a new job, graduation,
even a vacation — means an ending of some sort. As we face each ending,
we can choose to see a new beginning.
Today, I will remember that life is
made of many new beginnings.
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Food For Thought
Our Security Blanket
Turning to food when we are afraid is a tendency shared by many of us.
Since being fed reassured us as infants and children, we compulsive
overeaters reach for something to eat when we are anxious or
apprehensive. When the anxiety does not disappear, we eat more.
The desire for security is basic to all of us. Unfortunately, we often
look for it in the wrong places. A fortress of fat is not much
protection against the hurts and dangers to which we are all vulnerable
as human beings. Overeating does not keep us safe from real or imagined
threats.
We need to accept the fact that there is no such thing as absolute
security. All of us are mortal and subject to hazards and destruction.
Paradoxically, our security consists in relinquishing our lives to the
care of our Higher Power. When we feel safely centered in Him, we have
the courage to take risks and give up our worn-out security blankets.
I trust You to care for me, Lord.
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One Day At A Time
PAIN
“Your pain is the breaking of the
shell that encloses
your understanding. Even as the stone
of the fruit
must break, that its heart may stand
in the sun,
so must you know pain."
Kahlil Gibran
There was much to be unhappy about in
my childhood. There was also a lot of unhappiness in my adult life.
Until I found The Recovery Group online, that unhappiness was the
driving force in my life. That force robbed me of the ability to see
and enjoy the many wonderful things that I had experienced. I wore a
cloak of sadness, bitterness and resentment ~ I had been short-changed.
It was the old glass-half-empty, glass-half-full story....poor me.
Being able to share the pain and
unhappiness I have known has freed me from the power it had over me.
Clearing away the wreckage is enabling me to see my part in some of the
unhappiness I've known. It has enabled me to see more clearly that
there is so much for which I can be grateful. It has enabled me to see
that I truly AM the person of value which I had represented myself to
be towards others. I am integrating that person into the "unacceptable"
being I carried within. I have seen others here endure challenge, pain
and hardships with so much grace. I have learned that pain is, indeed,
inevitable. I have the choice whether to dwell on the pain morbidly, or
to instead focus on the joy of this day.
One day at a time...
I will live in the joy of this day and
I will strive to share this wonderful gift of self-acceptance to others
in program.
~ Karen A.
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
All changes made over the years in the
Big Book ( A.A. members' fond nickname for this volume ) have had the
same purpose: to represent the current membership of Alcoholics
Anonymous more accurately, and thereby to reach more alcoholics. If you
have a drinking problem, we hope that you may pause in reading one of
the forty-two personal stories and think: 'Yes, that happened to me';
or, more important, 'Yes, I've felt like that'; or, most important,
'Yes, I believe this program can work for me too.' - Pg. xii - 4th.
Edition - Preface
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
When we feel like we can't hold on for
a whole day, we get a clock and hold on for an hour. When an hour is
too long, we hold on for 10 minutes. At the end of 10, do another 10,
and another and another, until it's OK.
Help me make it from hour to hour, or
minute to minute if need be!
Truth
Today, I accept that without truth
there is nothing. Truth is the soil out of which sustenance grows and
nourishment comes, so that we can move in healthy directions. Lies have
no food value and starve my spirit; but truth though it can hurt, has a
way of hoeing and tilling the soil so that some new growth can occur.
Even though knowing the truth may seem unnecessary somewhere inside, I
know it anyway. Bringing truth out into the open gives me a chance to
lift the veil of secrecy that has made a wound feel like a dark hole.
It allows angst to transform and break into a thousand little
somethings that each contain usable and illuminating information that
can again nurture health and life.
I am willing to live with truth.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
'Take the cotton out of your ears and
put it in your mouth- applies to the old-timer as well as the
beginner-anyone who is too fond of their own voice.
I listen to learn and learn to
listen.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
You must go within or you go without.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I have the courage to look
within without fear at what needs to be changed in my life.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
They've got me stretched out - the
paramedics who are dedicated to saving your life when you don't want
your life saved - and next to the bed are two nuns; one old, one young.
The old one walked away, she's had me because I was giving her a lot of
lip - I always gave a people a lot of lip when I was the most afraid -
but the young nun stayed. She looked down at me, so beautiful. I've
come to believe in earth angels. She had on a white habit, and all I
could see was her face. Her eyes were a blue as the heavens. And this
young nun started to cry over me as she looked down at me, the
spiritual being that she was. She had never seen me before. The tears
were falling on the covers of that bed. And she said, ' How did you
ever let your life get into such a state?' and I heard her. No one had
ever asked that before. They'd always told me how I should stop
drinking; do this, do that, do this.... - Clara S.
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AA Thought for the Day
June 11
Powerlessness
Every newcomer in AA is told, and soon
learns for himself,
that his humble admission of
powerlessness over alcohol is his first step
toward liberation from its paralyzing
grip.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions,
pp. 72-73
Thought to Ponder . . .
Learning is the very essence of
humility; the two walk hand in hand.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
O D A A T = One Day At A Time.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Gratitude
"Another exercise that I practice
is to try for a full inventory of my
blessings
and then for a right acceptance of the
many gifts that are mine -
both temporal and spiritual.
Here I try to achieve a state of
joyful gratitude.
When such a brand of gratitude is
repeatedly affirmed
and pondered,
it can finally displace the natural
tendency
to congratulate myself on whatever
progress
I may have been enabled to make in
some areas of living.
I try hard to hold fast to the truth
that a full and thankful heart cannot
entertain great conceits.
When brimming with gratitude,
one's heartbeat must surely result in
outgoing love,
the finest emotion that we can ever
know."
Bill W., March 1962
1988AAGrapevine, The Language of the
Heart, p. 271
Thought to Consider . . .
I have learned what a heart full of
gratitude feels like.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
T H I N K = The Happiness I Never Knew
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Illness
>From "Building a New Life":
"That year I went to an alcohol
treatment program twice. The first time I was in treatment, I was
shaving at the mirror in
the bathroom and it seemed to me that
my beard was growing back in as fast as I could shave it off. Even
though I was
in a hospital gown, I escaped, running
down the streets and jumping up and over fences. I was on the porch of
a
woman's house banging on the door for
her to let me in when the police arrived. I tried to convince them she
was my
wife and my children were inside, but
they saw the hospital bracelet on my wrist, and they took me back to
the program.
"The doctor told me that if I went
into D.T.'s like that again I might not come out."
2001 AAWS, Inc., Fourth Edition;
Alcoholics Anonymous, pg. 482
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"Asking for help is not just a path to
humility; it is a path to connection with my fellows and with God."
Phoenix, Arizona, April 2011
"HELP,"
AA Grapevine
~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N' Twelve
Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"In this book you read again and again
that faith did for us what we
could not do for ourselves. We hope
you are convinced now that God can remove whatever self-will has
blocked you off
from Him. If you have already made a
decision, and an inventory of your grosser handicaps,
you have made a good beginning. That
being so you have swallowed and
digested some big chunks of truth
about yourself."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
How It Works, pg. 70~
"Selfishness—self-centeredness! That,
we think, is the root of
our troubles. Driven by a hundred
forms of fear, self-delusion, self-
seeking, and self-pity, we step on the
toes of our fellows and they
retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us,
seemingly without provocation,
but we invariably find that at some
time in the past we have made
decisions based on self which later
placed us in a position to be hurt."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
How It Works, pg. 62~
Even these “last-gaspers” often had
difficulty in realizing how hopeless they actually were.
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions,
p. 22
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
We need to distinguish sharply between
spiritual simplicity and functional simplicity.
When we say that A.A. advocates no
theological proposition except God as we understand Him, we greatly
simplify A.A.
life by avoiding conflict and
exclusiveness.
But when we get into questions of
action by groups, by areas, and by A.A. as a whole, we find that we
must to some
extent organize to carry the
message--or else face chaos. And chaos is not simplicity.
I learned that the temporary or
seeming good can often be the deadly enemy of the permanent best. When
it comes to
survival for A.A., nothing short of
our very best will be good enough.
Prayer For The Day: Gracious Father, I beseech thee to give me
wisdom for kind thoughts and deeds. Teach me true hospitality, that I
may be gracious in my own home and appreciative in the home of others.
May I not temper my hospitality for certain reasons, but have a genuine
welcome for all. Amen.