THE
HEART OF TRUE SOBRIETY
We find that no one need have difficulty with the spirituality of the
program. Willingness, honesty and open-mindedness are the essentials
of recovery. But these are indispensable.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 570
Am I honest enough to accept myself as I am and let this be the "me"
that I let others see? Do I have the willingness to go to any length, to
do whatever is necessary to stay sober? Do I have the
open-mindedness to hear what I have to hear, to think what I have to
think, and to feel what I have to feel?
If my answer to these questions is "Yes," I know enough about the
spirituality of the program to stay sober. As I continue to work the
Twelve Steps, I move on to the heart of true sobriety: serenity with
myself, with others, and with God as I understand Him.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
In the association with members of the A.A. group to which we belong,
we have the advantage of sincere friendship and understanding of the
other members who, through social and personal contact, take us away
from our old haunts and environments and help to remove in large
measure the occasions of alcoholic suggestion. We find in this
association a sympathy and a willingness on the part of most members
to do everything in their power to help us. Do I appreciate the
wonderful fellowship of A.A.?
Meditation For The Day
"Except ye become as little children, ye cannot enter the kingdom of
heaven." In this saying it is urged that all who seek heaven on earth or
in the hereafter' should become like little children. In seeking things
of the spirit and in our faith, we should try to become childlike. Even
as we grow older, the years of seeking can give us the attitude of the
trusting child. Not only for its simple trust should we have the
childlike
spirit, but also for its joy in life, its ready laughter, its lack of
criticism,
and its desire to share. In Charles Dickens's story, A Christmas Carol,
even old Scrooge changed when he got the child-spirit.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may become like a child in faith and hope. I pray that I
may, like a child, be friendly and trusting.
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As Bill Sees It
A
Viewer-with-Alarm, p. 183
"I went through several fruitless years in a state called 'viewing with
alarm for the good
of the movement.' I thought it was up to me to be always 'correcting
conditions.' Seldom
had anybody been able to tell me what I ought to do, and nobody had
ever succeeded in
effectively telling me what I must do. I had to learn the hard way out
of my own
experience.
"When setting out to 'check' others, I found myself often motivated by
fear of what they
were doing, self-righteousness, and even downright intolerance.
Consequently, I seldom
succeeded in correcting anything. I just raised barriers of resentment
that cut off any
suggestion, example, understanding, or love."
<< << << >> >> >>
"A.A.'s often say, 'Our leaders do not drive by mandate; they lead by
example.' If we
would favorably affect others, we ourselves need to practice what we
preach--and forget
the 'preaching,' too. The quiet good example speaks for itself."
1. Letter, 1945
2. Letter, 1966
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Walk In Dry Places
Sincerity at the Beginning
Self-Honesty
We were told at our first AA meeting that half-measures will avail us
nothing. What's needed is a sincere desire to stop drinking and
seek and way of life.
As we continue in the program, we learn that sincerity is an ingredient
for success in everything we do. Quite often, we may find that we're
failing in something simply because our heart isn't really in it.
We can't force ourselves into a sincere posture. Instead, the
answer is to know ourselves well enough to know just how we feel about
everything we do.
We'll learn to be careful about attempting to do something when our
heart is not really in it. We may be doing something we dislike
merely for the recognition and money it gives us. For real sincerity,
we need more than that, and the truths of the program will help us find
it.
I'll be conscious today of the sincerity I have about the things I am
attempting to do. There may be some things I need to abandon or
at least change.
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Keep It Simple
I never think of the future. It comes soon enough. --- Albert
Einstein
None of us know anything for sure about the future. We don't know if
we'll be sober tomorrow.
But we can be sure of this moment. We get sober by moments. Our sober
moments then stretch into hours, day, and years
Our program tell us to live in the present moment. This is because we
can
control this moment
We can't control the past or the future. We need to have a sense of
control in our life. In our illness, we were out of control. This was
because we wouldn't live from moment to moment.
Each moment is filled with as much life as we can handle. Each moment
is
filled with enough to keep us alive, interested, and growing.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me find You in each moment.
Action for the Day: Today, I'll stop and focus on the present
moment.
I will work to see how
much control I can have if I stay with the moment at hand.
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Each Day a New Beginning
Humor is such a strong weapon, such a strong answer. Women have to make
jokes about themselves, laugh about themselves, because they have
nothing to lose. --Agnes Varda
Laughter can cure a physical condition; it can and will positively
affect an emotional illness as well. Laughter ushers in a new
perspective which gives vent to a changed attitude. And our attitude
toward any situation, any individual, is all-powerful.
A negative, critical attitude toward our financial situation, toward
our disease, toward our boss, or spouse, or children, determines how we
feel moment by moment. In like manner, when we raise our sights, look
at the world with lightness in our hearts, expecting to enjoy the day,
the people, the activity, we'll succeed.
Finding humor in a situation, any situation prevents us from succumbing
to feelings of powerlessness. Feeling powerless, behaving as victims,
came easily for many of us before we chose this program and the Twelve
Steps to live by. Choosing a humorous response, opting to laugh at our
situation, at any point in time, keeps our personal power where it
belongs--with ourselves.
My emotional health depends on my active involvement in deciding who I
am, right now. Deciding to chuckle rather than snarl will give me an
unexpected emotional boost.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Chapter 10 - To Employers
Here, for instance, is a typical example: An officer of one of the
largest banking institutions in America knows I no longer drink. One
day he told me about an executive of the same bank who, from his
description, was undoubtedly alcoholic. This seemed to me like an
opportunity to be helpful, so I spent two hours talking about
alcoholism, the malady, and described the symptoms and results as well
as I could. His comment was, "Very interesting. But I'm sure this man
is done drinking. He has just returned from a three-months leave of
absence, has taken a cure, looks fine, and to clinch the matter, the
board of directors told him this was his last chance."
p. 138
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
The
Missing Link
He looked at everything as the
course of his unhappiness---except alcohol.
It was all very confusing, I remember isolating on the playground,
watching all the other children laughing and playing and smiling,
and not feeling like I could relate at all. I felt
different. I didn't feel as if I was one of them. Somehow,
I thought, I didn't fit in.
p. 281
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Tradition
Three - "The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop
drinking."
Overjoyed, the newcomer plunged into Twelfth Step work. Tirelessly he
laid A.A.'s message before scores of people. Since this was a very
early group, those scores have since multiplied themselves into
thousands. Never did he trouble anyone with his other difficulty. A.A.
had taken its first step in the formation of Tradition Three.
p. 142
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"In forgiving ourselves, we make the journey from guilt for what we
have done (or not done) to celebration of what we have become."
--Joan Borysenko
Pitying yourself will get you nowhere. Things aren't always going to
go the way you want them to, but still you must set the rules regarding
how you respond to them.
There is incredible beauty, in the gentle and quiet spirit, precious in
God's direction.
--SweetyZee
"He who cannot rest, cannot work; He who cannot let go, cannot hold
on; He who cannot find footing, cannot go forward."
--Harry Emerson Fosdick
"Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far
more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting
moment."
--Benjamin Franklin
If there is anything we wish to change in the child, we should first
examine it and see whether it is not something that could be better
changed in ourselves.
--Carl Jung
Voices we prefer to ignore may speak words we need to hear.
--Don Deal
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
BEAUTY
"Beauty is not caused. It is."
--Emily Dickinson
So many people think that beauty is what you do to yourself; what you
wear, makeup, clothes, hairstyles or expensive jewelry. Again it is so
easy to get caught up in "things". Reality is not about what we wear
but who we are.
The beauty that God has created comes from within. The twinkle in
the eyes that says "hello". The hug that says "I love you". The gentle
embrace and smile that says "I forgive you". The tear that cries "I
understand".
When God said to the world, "It is good", Beauty was born. Drugs and
crazy relationships only get in the way of us being what we were
intended to be: beautiful for God.
Today I seek to put God's beauty in my actions, words and attitudes.
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"Be
strong, and let your heart take courage, all you who wait for the
Lord."
Psalm 31:24
For the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from
being snared.
Proverbs 3:26
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Daily Inspiration
Avoid the tendency to presuppose that things will turn out for the
worse. Lord, help me keep an open mind so that I am able to see other
solutions to my situations and then give me the determination to make a
difference when I can.
We take for granted so much of what God has planned for us. Lord, may I
have sufficient preparation to meet the challenges of today and rejoice
in the person that I am.
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NA Just For Today
Comparing
"Our personal stories may vary in
individual pattern, but in the end we all have the same thing in
common." Basic Text, p.84
We addicts are a varied bunch, coming
from different backgrounds,
having used different drugs, and
recalling different experiences. Our
differences don't disappear in
recovery; for some, those differences
become even more pronounced. Freedom
from active addiction gives us the
freedom to be ourselves, as we truly
are. The fact that we are all
recovering doesn't mean that we all
necessarily have the same needs or
goals. Each of us has our own lessons
to learn in recovery.
With so many differences from one
addict to the next, how do we help
one another in recovery and how do we
use each other's experience? We
come together to share our lives in
light of the principles of
recovery. Though our lives are
different, the spiritual principles we
apply are the same. It is by the light
of these principles, shining
through our differences, that we
illuminate one another's way on our
individual paths.
We all have two things in common:
addiction and recovery. When we
listen carefully, we hear others tell
of suffering from the same
disease we have suffered from,
regardless of their specific
backgrounds. When we open our ears, we
hear other addicts talk of
applying spiritual principles that
promise hope to us as well,
regardless of our personal goals.
Just for today: I have my own path to
follow, yet I'm grateful for the
fellowship of others who've suffered
from addiction and who are
learning to apply the principles of
recovery, just like me.
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
Now my soul hath elbowroom. --William
Shakespeare
If we spend too much time together we
are bound to grow weary of one another. This would happen regardless of
who the other person was. In a family, we need some time apart to
pursue other interests and friendships. We may be able to meet many
needs for each other, but there will be some we cannot meet. If we
press too hard upon one another we will cramp our life together.
Our needs for space aren't just
physical. Freedom to think and feel what seems appropriate for us, to
be alone if we want, is a large part of our lives together. Only with
this kind of freedom is love possible. Love requires freedom. We need
to value each other, and at the same time realize that no one person or
family can fill us with all life has to offer.
What are my own freedoms at home?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
Fair play is primarily not blaming
others for anything that is wrong with us. --Eric Hoffer
As adults, we accept responsibility
for our feelings and our circumstances. We haven't chosen our own
troubles, but we have the job of dealing with them. If a man falls and
breaks a leg, he might say to someone, "It's your fault, and I'll make
you pay for this!" But that won't fix his leg. The healing still has to
come from within.
Our impulse to blame others is an
attempt to escape our responsibilities. We become overcritical. We want
someone else to take the rap for our pain and our misdeeds, but this
only delays our wholeness as men. There is no point in blaming
ourselves either. When we first confront our discomfort directly and
accept responsibility for dealing with it, we feel an inner urge to
escape again. If we stay with the discomfort a while, a new stage
begins - the healing and acceptance stage. A feeling of wholeness
comes, a feeling of being a real person, of having reached our full
size.
May I not indulge in blame today -
toward myself or anyone else. Instead, may I be a strong, responsible
man.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
Humor is such a strong weapon, such a
strong answer. Women have to make jokes about themselves, laugh about
themselves, because they have nothing to lose. --Agnes Varda
Laughter can cure a physical
condition; it can and will positively affect an emotional illness as
well. Laughter ushers in a new perspective which gives vent to a
changed attitude. And our attitude toward any situation, any
individual, is all-powerful.
A negative, critical attitude toward
our financial situation, toward our disease, toward our boss, or
spouse, or children, determines how we feel moment by moment. In like
manner, when we raise our sights, look at the world with lightness in
our hearts, expecting to enjoy the day, the people, the activity, we'll
succeed.
Finding humor in a situation, any
situation prevents us from succumbing to feelings of powerlessness.
Feeling powerless, behaving as victims, came easily for many of us
before we chose this program and the Twelve Steps to live by. Choosing
a humorous response, opting to laugh at our situation, at any point in
time, keeps our personal power where it belongs--with ourselves.
My emotional health depends on my
active involvement in deciding who I am, right now. Deciding to chuckle
rather than snarl will give me an unexpected emotional boost.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Who Knows Best?
Others do not know what's best for us.
We do not know what's best for others.
It is our job to determine what's best
for ourselves.
"I know what you need." . . . "I know
what you should do." . . . "Now listen, this is what I think you should
be working on right now."
These are audacious statements,
beliefs that take us away from how we operate on a spiritual plane of
life. Each of us is given the ability to be able to discern and detect
our own path, on a daily basis. This is not always easy. We may have to
struggle to reach that quiet, still place.
Giving advice, making decisions for
others, mapping out their strategy, is not our job. Nor is it their job
to direct us. Even if we have a clean contract with someone to help us
- such as in a sponsorship relationship - we cannot trust that others
always know what is best for us. We are responsible for listening to
the information that comes to us. We are responsible for asking for
guidance and direction., But it is our responsibility to sift and sort
through information, and then listen to ourselves about what is best
for us. Nobody can know that but ourselves.
A great gift we can give to others is
to be able to trust in them - that they have their own source of
guidance and wisdom, that they have the ability to discern what is best
for them and the right to find that path by making mistakes and
learning.
To trust ourselves to be able to
discover - through that same imperfect process of struggle, trial, and
error - is a great gift we can give ourselves.
Today, I will remember that we are
each given the gift of being able to discover what is best for
ourselves. God, help me trust that gift.
I am accepting myself just as I am,
imperfections and all. I am not striving to be perfect today. I only
want to grow, to change, to become more and more open and let God and
love be in charge of my life." --Ruth Fishel
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Journey To The Heart
What Would Make You Happy?
Why don’t you make yourself happy? Did
someone tell you you couldn’t be happy, couldn’t let life help you out?
It doesn’t matter who told you you couldn’t have what you wanted. What
matters is if you’re still telling yourself that now.
Yes, there are many situations in life
in which we need to go without, do what needs to be done, get the job
done. There are times when a particular purpose is served by depriving
ourselves. But there are also situations– many more than we think– in
which we can have what we want. There are moments when what we want
matters.
Look into your heart. Ask yourself
what you want. What would feel good? What would bring joy? Is anything
to be gained by depriving yourself a while longer? Get creative. Look
around. What are some ways you could give yourself what you want? What
could you do to create your life more to your liking?
Giving yourself what you want isn’t
selfish. It teaches others they can have more of what they want from
life,too.
Use your imagination. Set yourself
free. Let yourself see the pictures and feel the emotions of what would
make you happy. Then take a moment, pause, and smile. You’re beginning
to get a glimpse of all you can have from God.
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More Language Of Letting Go
It’s good for your heart
“I know I’ve got some emotions up,
just brewing right beneath the surface,” Jake said one day. “I’m edgy,
irritable, and definitely not centered. But I don’t want to look. I
don’t want to go into the emotions. I don’t like feelings. Whenever I
give into them. I end up feeling like a piece of cooked spagetti– for
days.”
Emotions can take a lot out of us.
Feeling them, whether it’s anger, fear, or sadness, can leave us
exhausted and drained.
Not feeling our emotions, however, can
keep us edgy, irritable, and off-balance. Not feeling our feelings for
an extended time can drive us to acting out, whether that means
overeating, obsessing, staying in bed and hiding from the world, or
staring at the television every night until we pass out.
Be gentle with yourself. Don’t force
it. But don’t run away from your feelings, either. You might feel like
cooked spagetti for a while, but what’s really softening up is your
heart.
God, help me face and feel any
feelings.
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Offerings of the Day
Finding Gifts in All by Madisyn Taylor
Before bed each night, take the time
to review your day and review the gifts you received.
When we have good days, we often find
ourselves going over the details later, enjoying them a second and
third time as we feel the joy of our good fortune. When we have bad
days, we may find ourselves poring over the details of our misfortunes.
However, we can reframe those bad days by making it a daily practice to
spend some time before going to bed each night to review the gifts we
received that day. Regardless of our evaluation of the day—good, bad,
mediocre—we can call forth the many blessings that were present. This
practice transforms our consciousness as it reveals the fullness at the
heart of our lives.
Some days it’s easy to recount the
gifts we’ve received; on other days, we have to look harder for the
offerings of the day, but once we do, we will find there are always
quite a few. We can keep it simple and be grateful for the fact that we
have a roof over our head, nature, food, and our health. Once we have
fully experienced these gifts, we can move outward to the gifts that
may require a little more thought such as the gifts of forgiveness,
tolerance and acceptance that we may have learned that day. We can also
always be grateful for the people in our lives who support us, no
matter how bad our day may have been.
Just reviewing the many positive
offerings in our lives provides a context for our difficulties that
puts them in proper perspective, but we can also make an effort to see
the gifts even in adverse circumstances. This can be challenging and
may require some practice before it feels authentic, but we have all
had the experience of a disappointment or loss leading to a surprising
gain. Just remembering this and trusting the give and take of life can
help us to remember that sometimes the best gifts of all are the ones
we don’t recognize right away. In addition, the lessons we learn in the
face of adversity are offerings in their own right, allowing us to
count patience, wisdom, and fortitude alongside the other gifts of the
day. Published with permission from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
During our days of active addiction,
many of us displayed almost dazzlingly fertile powers of imagination.
In no time at all, we could dream up more reasons — or, rather excuses
— for pursuing our addictions than most people use for all other
purposes in their entire lives. When we first come to The Program, our
once-imaginative minds seem to become lethargic and even numb. “Now
what do I do?” many of us wonder. Gradually, however, the lethargy
disappears. We begin learning to live and become turned on to life in
ways that we never dreamed possible. Am I finding that I can now enjoy
activities that I wouldn’t even consider in the old days?
Today I Pray
May God give me a new surge of energy
directed toward “turning on to life” rather than making excuses for not
handling my responsibilities. May He allow my out-of-order imagination
to be restored — not to the buzzing over activity of my compulsive
days, but to a healthy openness to life’s boundless possibilities.
Today I Will Remember
Turn on to life.
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One More Day
If I’d known I was going to live so
long, I’d have taken better care of myself.
– Leon Eldred
We had few concerns when we were young
other than eating, sleeping, and playing with friends. As we grew into
young adulthood, we worked hard and played hard, often ignoring any
signals our bodies gave us. We expected to be stiff after exercise, for
example, and accepted it as part of our lifestyle.
By the time our chronic medical
conditions became evident, our health habits were fairly
well-established. We certainly can’t undo the early care — or neglect —
of our bodies. But we can learn new habits that will serve us well all
the days of our lives.
Ultimately, my physical and emotional
health depends upon my willingness to take care of myself.
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You are reading from the book Food
for Thought.
Spiritual Strength
What we compulsive overeaters need in
order to control our disease is spiritual strength. If we are strong
spiritually, we will not turn to food to fill our inner emptiness. We
overate because we were spiritually impoverished, and overeating
further depleted our spirits.
Paradoxically, we are strongest
spiritually when we are most aware of our weakness. In order for our
Higher Power to take over, we must recognize and admit our
powerlessness. Spiritual strength comes to those who have the necessary
humility to receive it.
We do not acquire this strength
overnight. The more time we spend each day in communion with God, the
stronger we become. Cultivating the awareness of His presence as we go
about our activities enables us to rely more and more on His strength
and less and less on our own.
Strengthen us with spiritual food so
that we do not need to overeat.
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One Day At A Time
COMMITMENT
"One small step for a man ~
One giant leap for mankind."
Neil Armstrong
When I came into program, I was very
overwhelmed by the idea of commitment. The thought of committing to a
food plan or exercise regime was more than I could comprehend; in fact,
I would feel panic rising in me at the thought of it. I would have
dreams of being a mouse caught in a corner with nowhere to run. I would
throw in the proverbial monkey wrench after a short time, and soon be
on my own turf ... the desperation and depression which were my "old
friends" would reappear, and I would be back into my "safe" and
always-waiting disease.
This recovery program taught me "one
day at a time;" it taught me to put one foot in front of the other;
that for one day I could do what I couldn't do, or even fathom doing,
for a lifetime. This is how I found abstinence. Breaking up my days,
weeks, months and years into 24-hour periods allows me to live in the
now, and not feel swallowed up in thinking that I have to do this for
the rest of my life.
One Day at a Time . . .
The steps may seem small, it may even
look as though I'm not moving at all, but with God's help I make giant
leaps toward wellness and peace of mind.
~ Shana
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
I was not too well at the time, and
was plagued by waves of self-pity and resentment. This sometimes nearly
drove me back to drink, but I soon found that when all other measures
failed, work with another alcoholic would save the day. Many times I
have gone to my old hospital in despair. On talking to a man there, I
would be amazingly lifted up and set on my feet. It is a design for
living that works in rough going. - Pg. 15 - Bill's Story
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Although we don't know it, there is a
cloud over our brains in the first days. It takes just about 30 days
for this drug cloud to lift from our thinking. Any time now, this cloud
will leave and our vision will become clearer than it has been in years.
May my eyes clear, my mind clear, my
desires clear as I begin my clean and sober days.
Reinvestment
I have been through a journey of
forgiveness. I've faced my anger and hurt and brought order and clarity
to my inner world. I've accepted the things I cannot change and changed
the things that I could. Because I've shown the courage to face my
inner demons and look them in the eye, I feel stronger and more
competent. Forgiveness of my self and others has offered me a way out
of pain and confusion, and now I find I have a renewed interest in
life. I see things differently. I feel liberated from something that
was tying up me energy. And I recognize and accept my own humanity, and
the humanity of others. I am ready and willing to reinvest in the ideal
of love. I want to find worthy projects and passions, and put my energy
toward them. I have something to give to the world and the world has
something to give to me. I am right where I am supposed to be and I've
met the challenges of my life. I am ready to live.
I invest my energy with care and gusto.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
Don't let the therapeutically
'correct' way to run a group hijack your meeting. Leaders are reluctant
to cut a newcomer off for fear of shaming their inner child, rejecting
them, or appearing to be mean. We are not therapy and we can't share
with them if they can't listen.
I do not let the newcomer's inner
child run our meetings. This is not play therapy.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
God does not want me to do
extraordinary things; He wants me to do ordinary things extraordinarily
well.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
I am accepting myself just as I am,
imperfections and all. I am not striving to be perfect today. I only
want to grow, to change, to become more and more open and let God and
love be in charge of my life.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
You can tell an alcoholic - but you
can't tell him much. Anon.
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AA Thought for the Day
July 2
Self-esteem
In most cases it was found that our
self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions,
our personal relationships (including
sex) were hurt or threatened.
So we were "burned up." . . . Was it
our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions,
our personal, or sex relations, which
had been interfered with? . . .
We went back through our lives.
Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 64-65
Thought to Ponder . . .
Self-esteem doesn't need an audience.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A B C = Acceptance, Belief, Change.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Prayer
"All of us, without exception,
pass through times when we can pray
only with the greatest exertion of
will.
Occasionally we go even further than
this.
We are seized with a rebellion so
sickening
that we simply won't pray.
When these things happen we should not
think
too ill of ourselves.
We should simply resume prayer as soon
as we can,
doing what we know to be good for us."
1952AAWS, Twelve Steps and Twelve
Traditions, p. 105
Thought to Consider . . .
Trying to pray is praying.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
H O P E = Hang On; Pray Every day
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Alike
>From "Because I'm an Alcoholic":
"That sense of being different, which
had long plagued me, disappeared when I saw the threads that run
through all of us. Sharing our stories, our feelings, it is the areas
where we are the same that impress me. The differences are but
delightful flourishes on the surface, like different-colored costumes,
and I enjoy them. But the basic ways we are human, the basic ways we
simply are, stand out to me now. I came to see that we all are really
one, and I no longer feel alone."
2001 AAWS, Inc., Fourth Edition;
Alcoholics Anonymous, pg. 347
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"Today I think I can trace a clear
linkage between my guilt and my pride. Both of them were certainly
attention-getters. In pride I could say, 'Look at me, I am wonderful.'
In guilt I would moan, 'I'm awful.' Therefore guilt is really the
reverse of the coin of pride. Guilt aims at self-destruction, and pride
aims at the destruction of others."
AA Co-Founder, Bill W., November 1960
"Freedom Under God: The Choice Is Ours"
The Language of the Heart
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N'
Twelve Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"We never apologize to anyone for
depending upon our Creator. We can
laugh at those who think spirituality
the way of weakness.
Paradoxically, it is the way of
strength. The verdict of the ages is
that faith means courage. All men of
faith have courage. They trust
their God. We never apologize for God.
Instead we let Him
demonstrate, through us, what He can
do. We ask Him to remove our
fear and direct our attention to what
He would have us be. At once,
we commence to outgrow fear."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
How It Works, pg. 68~
"In this book you read again and
again that faith did for us what we could not do for ourselves."
-Alcoholics Anonymous p. 70 (How it
Works)
"It is hoped that this volume will
afford all who read it a close-up view of the principles and forces
which have made Alcoholics Anonymous what it is."
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions p.
18 (ForeWord)
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
I went through several fruitless years
in a state called viewing with alarm for the good of the movement. I
thought it was up to me to be always correcting conditions. Seldom has
anybody been able to tell me what I ought to do, and nobody had ever
succeeded in effectively telling me what I must do. I had to learn the
hard way out of my own experience.
'When setting out to check others, I
found myself often motivated by fear of what they were doing,
self-righteousness, and even downright intolerance. Consequently, I
seldom succeeded in correcting anything. I just raised barriers of
resentment that cut off any suggestion, example, understanding, or
love.'
'A.A.s often say, Our leaders do not
drive by mandate; they lead by example. If we would favorably affect
others, we ourselves need to practice what we preachand forget the
preaching, too. The quiet good example speaks for itself.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, thank you for the gift of
reading. Today I will read attentively.