DAILY INVENTORY
. . . . and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 59
I was beginning to approach my new life of sobriety with
unaccustomed enthusiasm. New friends were cropping up
and some of my battered friendships had begun to be
repaired. Life was exciting, and I even began to enjoy my
work, becoming so bold as to issue a report on the lack
of proper care for some of our clients. One day a co-worker
informed me that my boss was really sore because a complaint,
submitted over his head, had caused him much discomfort at
the hands of his superiors. I knew that my report had created
the problem, and began to feel responsible for my boss's
difficulty. In discussing the affair, my co-worker tried to
reassure me that an apology was not necessary, but I soon
became convinced that I had to do something, regardless of how
it might turn out. When I approached my boss and owned up to
my hand in his difficulties, he was surprised. But unexpected
things came out of our encounter, and my boss and I were able
to agree to interact more directly and effectively in the future.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
There is such a thing as being too loyal to any one group.
Do I feel put out when another group starts and some members
of my group leave it and branch out into new territory? Or do
I send them out with my blessing? Do I visit that new offshoot
group and help it along? Or do I sulk in my own tent? A.A.
grows by the starting of new groups all the time. I must
realize that it's a good thing for a large group to split up
into smaller ones, even it if means that the large group
--my own group--becomes smaller. Am I always ready to help
new groups?
Meditation For The Day
Pray--and keep praying until it brings peace and serenity and
a feeling of communion with One who is near and ready to help.
The thought of God is balm for our hates and fears. In praying
to God, we find healing for hurt feelings and resentments. In
thinking of God, doubts and fears leave us. Instead of those
doubts and fears, there will flow into our hearts such faith
and love as is beyond the power of material things to give, and
such peace as the world can neither give nor take away. And with
God, we can have the tolerance to live and let live.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may have true tolerance and understanding.
I pray that I may keep striving for these difficult things.
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As Bill Sees It
The Fine Art
Of Alibis, p.279
The majority of A.A. members have suffered severely from
self-justification during their drinking days. For most of us,
self-justification was the maker of excuses for drinking and for all
kinds of crazy and damaging conduct. We had made the invention
of alibis a fine art.
We had to drink because times were hard or times were good, We
had to drink because at home we were smothered with love or not
none at all. We had to drink at work because we were great
successes or dismal failures. We had to drink because our nation
had won a war or lost a peace. And so it went, ad infinitum.
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To see how our own erratic emotions victimized us often took a long
time. Where other people were concerned, we had to drop the
word "blame" from our speech and thought.
12 & 12
1. pp. 46-47
2. p. 47
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Walk In Dry Places
Changing
other
people
Relating to others.
"How can I get this person to accept the program?" We hear this
often,
for example, when a patient at a treatment center complains about
another
who is so negative toward the program "That he's dragging all
of us down."
We discovered long ago that we have no power to change or manipulate
others. At the very beginning of AA, its pioneers learned how to
maintain
their own sobriety and serenity even as others rebelled and
turned against
the program. They learned that negative people can't
drag us down unless
we let them.
We might need to review our personal inventory if we're too concerned
about
the behavior of others. Ours is a program of attraction, not
coercion, and we
"change" people only by demonstrating how well it
works for us. Any concern
about another's behavior takes time and
energy away from our own commitment
to self-improvement.
I have a personal need and responsibility to carry the mess, but I have
neither
the right nor the responsibility to modify anybody's
behavior.
I'll keep this in
mind today.
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Keep It Simple
Just Say No.--- Nancy Reagan
We addicts were great at saying no. Our spouse asked us to help around
the house
and we said no and went drinking. Friends tried to care, but
we
said, “No, mind your
own business!” Our parents or our kids begged us
to
stop drinking, but we said no.
We were also ask to say yes. We always said yes when asked if we wanted
to have
a drink or get high. Addiction really mixed us up. When we said
no, we should have
said yes. And when we said yes we should have said
no.
In recovery, we do things better. We say yes when others ask for help.
We
say yes
when somebody wants to give us love. We say no to alcohol
and other drugs. We
finally answer yes and no the right way---the right
way and at the right time for us.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me to always say yes to
You,
even when
I’m tired or
angry.
Action for the Day: In today’s inventory, I’ll ask myself if
there are
any ways I’m
still
saying no to my program and Higher Power.
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Each Day a New Beginning
The great creative power is everything. If you leave out one whole
chunk of it,
by making God only masculine, you have to redress the
balance. --Martha Boesing
What a blessing, to be part of God! For many of us, invoking God with a
male
pronoun put an obstacle in the path of our spiritual growth. We
felt left out.
Worship of something called "He" or "Him" didn't jibe
with our spirituality.
When we pray, we pray to a spiritual source that
includes everything, that leaves
nothing out: sexes, all races, all
ages and conditions.
Some of us had no trouble understanding that God is everything, no
matter how
God is invoked. But whatever our path to spirituality, the
Twelve Step program
has enriched our understanding. Before we practiced
the Twelve Steps, we had
allowed ourselves to forget the strength and
nurture that are always at hand,
and now we are grateful to be reminded
that God is with us, within us, and all is well.
One woman says, "When I feel far from God, I ask myself: Who moved?"
God is always there. Today I will pray for the wisdom to stay close to
my spiritual
source, the Creator Spirit.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Foreword To Second Edition
Figures given in this foreword describe the Fellowship as it was in
1955.
It was now time, the struggling groups thought, to place their message
and unique experience before the world. This determination bore fruit
in the spring of 1939 by the publication of this volume. The membership
had then reached about 100 men and women. The fledgling society, which
had been nameless, now began to be called Alcoholics Anonymous, from
the title of its own book. The flying-blind period ended and A.A.
entered a new phase of its pioneering time.
p. xvii
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition - Stories
My Chance To Live
A.A. gave this teenager the tools
to climb out of her dark abyss of despair.
At this point I surrendered. I admitted I was
an alcoholic without a clue what to do about it. Many of the
people around me wanted to go to treatment, but I resisted. I
didn't want the kids at school to know what was going on. If I
went to treatment, they'd all know within a week. More
importantly, I was afraid. I was afraid the treatment center
would test me and say, "You're not an alcoholic. You're just
crazy." My heart knew this wasn't true. My head took a bit
more convincing. The thought of having A.A. taken away from me
was terrifying. A.A. was my anchor in a sea of confusion.
Anything that might pose a threat to my sense of security was quickly
thrust away. I didn't have anything against treatment centers
then, nor do I now. I simply didn't want to go, and I didn't.
p. 315
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Foreword
Alcoholics Anonymous is a worldwide fellowship of more than one hundred
thousand* alcoholic men and women who are banded together to solve
their common problems and to help fellow sufferers in recovery from
that age-old, baffling malady, alcoholism.
*In 1998, it is estimated that nearly two million have recovered
through A.A.
p. 15
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I
will
exercise
patience,
as
God
would,
with all others.
--Shelley
"Youth is like spring, an over praised season more remarkable for
biting winds than
genial breezes.
Autumn is the mellower season, and what we lose in flowers we more than
gain in fruits."
--Samuel Butler
AA is my anchor in a sea of confusion.
AA brought me home when I had lost my way.
Newcomer or long-timer, we are all the same in our need for each other.
Think it over, not drink over it.
"The voyage of discovery lies not in finding new landscapes, but in
having new eyes."
--Marcel Proust
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
UNDERSTANDING
"Intelligence is proved not by
ease of learning but by
understanding what we learn."
-- Joseph Whitney
For years I learned things without understanding what the words, or the
meaning behind
the words, really meant. An example was alcoholism. Then a man said,
"My name is Bill,
and I am an alcoholic and a recovering human being!" Then it struck me;
recovery from a
drug --- alcohol --- was not simply about putting down the glass but
about changing and
developing a positive lifestyle as a human being.
The same is true with spirituality. It is not about being religious,
going to church or
accepting dogma. It is about finding God in my life, discovering God in
the decisions and
actions I take and seeing Him in the world around me. Today I
understand spirituality to
be the link that unites all peoples and is centered on what is true and
real.
May I continue to search for the meaning within the word and the
harmony of
communication.
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Then
they cried to the Lord in their trouble, and He saved them from their
distress.
Psalm 107:13
"By day the Lord commands his steadfast love, and at night his song is
with me, a prayer
to the God of my life."
Psalm 42:8
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Daily Inspiration
Waste no time on situations that aren't worth your
precious time. Lord, may
I recognize pettiness for what it is and move
on so that my imagination doesn't
take over and give pettiness more
value than it deserves.
Ultimate security does not come from relying on things or people, but
from
relying on God. Lord, I place my trust in You. Bless me and keep
me in Your
loving care.
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NA Just For Today
A New Pattern Of Living
"We suspect that if we do not use what we have, we will lose what we
have."
Basic Text p. 75
Addiction gave a pattern to our lives, and with it a meaning - a dark,
diseased meaning, to be sure, but a meaning nonetheless. The Narcotics
Anonymous recovery program gives us a new pattern of living to replace
our old routines. And with that new pattern comes a new meaning to our
lives, one of light and hope.
What is this new pattern of living? Instead of isolation, we find
fellowship. Instead of living blindly, repeating the same mistakes
again and again, we regularly examine ourselves, free to keep what
helps us grow and discard what doesn't. Rather than constantly trying
to get by on our own limited power, we develop a conscious contact with
a loving Power greater than ourselves.
Our life must have a pattern. To maintain our recovery, we must
maintain the new patterns our program has taught us. By giving regular
attention to these patterns, we will maintain the freedom we've found
from the deadly disease of addiction, and keep hold of the meaning
recovery has brought to our lives.
Just for today: I will begin a new pattern in my life: the regular
maintenance of my recovery.
pg. 294
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You are reading from the book Today's Gift.
Learn what you are and be such. --Pindar
The most precious gift we can give those closest to us is honesty. Yet
we often hide our true selves from friends, fearing we won't be
accepted or loved if we let them see the real us. Often, we show parts
of ourselves that hide who we really are. We have often heard ourselves
or others say, "My parents would just die if . . . ," or, "don't argue
in front of the children."
If we hide too much behind false images, we run the risk of losing
track of what is real and what is false. We become actors instead of
real people, trying to please Aunt Jane, our grandparents, our big
brother, or our children.
When we conquer our fear of letting others in, we are able to see
ourselves honestly. When we discover that others accept us as we are,
we can accept and love ourselves. To know oneself is to know a person
of value.
What part of me have I been hiding?
You are reading from the book Touchstones.
We cannot avoid
Using power,
Cannot escape the compulsion
To afflict the world,
So let us, cautious in diction
And mighty in contradiction,
Love powerfully.
--Martin Buber
The use and misuse of power by men give us much to weep over and much
to admire. In our own families we see how our parents fought over
power, how they used it both wisely and abusively. Our problems with
power and control are a central part of our addictions and
codependency. Admitting our powerlessness has started us toward
recovery. Admitting our power will help carry us further.
No one is innocent beyond childhood. We affect the people around us,
and it matters how we treat them. We cannot come and go unnoticed.
Since we will make an impact, we learn to treat ourselves and the
people around us with respect and justice. Our only solution is to
learn to love and be loved.
Today, I will be more aware of the power I have in others' lives.
You are reading from the book Each Day a New Beginning.
The great creative power is everything. If you leave out one whole
chunk of it, by making God only masculine, you have to redress the
balance. --Martha Boesing
What a blessing, to be part of God! For many of us, invoking God with a
male pronoun put an obstacle in the path of our spiritual growth. We
felt left out. Worship of something called "He" or "Him" didn't jibe
with our spirituality. When we pray, we pray to a spiritual source that
includes everything, that leaves nothing out: sexes, all races, all
ages and conditions.
Some of us had no trouble understanding that God is everything, no
matter how God is invoked. But whatever our path to spirituality, the
Twelve Step program has enriched our understanding. Before we practiced
the Twelve Steps, we had allowed ourselves to forget the strength and
nurture that are always at hand, and now we are grateful to be reminded
that God is with us, within us, and all is well.
One woman says, "When I feel far from God, I ask myself: Who moved?"
God is always there. Today I will pray for the wisdom to stay close to
my spiritual source, the Creator Spirit.
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go.
Learning to Wait
I've started to realize that waiting is an art, that waiting achieves
things. Waiting can be very, very powerful. Time is a valuable thing.
If you can wait two years, you can sometimes achieve something that you
could not achieve today, however hard you worked, however much money
you threw up in the air, however many times you banged your head
against the wall. . .
--The Courage to Change by Dennis Wholey
The people who are most successful at living and loving are those who
can learn to wait successfully. Not many people enjoy waiting or
learning patience. Yet, waiting can be a powerful tool that will help
us accomplish much good.
We cannot always have what we want when we want it. For different
reasons, what we want to do, have, be, or accomplish is not available
to us now. But there are things we could not do or have today, no
matter what, that we can have in the future. Today, we would make
ourselves crazy trying to accomplish what will come naturally and with
ease later.
We can trust that all is on schedule. Waiting time is not wasted time.
Something is being worked out - in us, in someone else, in the Universe.
We don't have to put our life on hold while we wait. We can direct our
attention elsewhere; we can practice acceptance and gratitude in the
interim; we can trust that we do have a life to live while we are
waiting - then we go about living it.
Deal with your frustration and impatience, but learn how to wait. The
old saying, "You can't always get what you want" isn't entirely true.
Often, in life, we can get what we want - especially the desires of our
heart - if we can learn to wait.
Today, I am willing to learn the art of patience. If I am feeling
powerless because I am waiting for something to happen and I am not in
control of timing, I will focus on the power available to me by
learning to wait.
Today I'm stretching myself and taking new risks. Today the faith is
working to replace the fear that has held me back. --Ruth Fishel
*****
Journey To The Heart
October 8
Leave When It’s Time to Go
It’s time to pick up, pack up, and leave.
You knew you wouldn’t be in this situation in this place with these
people forever. Trust the rhythms and cycles of life. Take
responsibility for yourself within each cycle. Take responsibility for
yourself as each cycle ends and a new one begins.
You don’t have to hold onto messengers after they’ve delivered the
message in your life, or escorts after they’ve taken you where you were
trying to go. You don’t have to stay in a classroom after you’ve
learned the lessons and finished that course.
Open your heart. Thank the people, places, and things that have helped
create your world, shape you, form your experiences. Then pick up, pack
up, and leave. Say good-bye with love and gratitude in your heart.
And go on down the road.
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more language of letting go
Go at your own pace
This part of the path was steep. And the altitude change was severe. I
was gasping for breath and trying not to grimace at the ache in my legs
as my hiking partner strode up the path in front of me.
He stopped and looked back. I was definitely trailing behind. If his
legs were aching the way mine were, his stride didn't show it. I knew
how it felt to hold yourself back to someone else's pace. I didn't want
to do that to him just because I was out of shape.
"You go on ahead," I yelled.
He looked reluctant.
"Go. Hike at your own pace. I'll hike at mine."
I convinced him to leave me behind. Just because we came together
didn't mean that we had to hike, or walk as I preferred to call it, in
the same stride. My friend went on ahead of me and disappeared from
sight. I hiked, then rested, then hiked, then rested. Once, I stopped,
took off my backpack, and took a nap.
My friend and I joined up toward the end of the day. We made the trek
down the mountain together, side by side.
Even though we simplify things, most things are harder than we think.
It's important to let each person go at their own pace. Whether it's
working through an issue or tackling a project in your life, find the
pace that works for you. Let others do the same.
Don't compare yourself to those around you. Let yourself be energized
by their pace, but respect the rhythm that works for you.
God, help me know that each of us has our own rhythm for getting
through life. Help me honor and enjoy the rhythms that work for me.
*****
Centered Silliness
Laughing Meditation by Madisyn Taylor
When we laugh, we give ourselves over to the immediacy of the present
moment and transcend stress.
Many people might be surprised to think of laughter as a form of
meditation. Yet not only is laughing meditation one of the simplest
forms of meditation, but also it is a very powerful one. The physical
act of laughing is one of the few actions involving the body, emotions,
and the soul. When we laugh, we give ourselves over to the immediacy of
the present moment. We also are able to momentarily transcend minor
physical and mental stresses. Practiced in the morning, laughing
meditation can lend a joyful quality to the entire day. Practiced in
the evening, laughing meditation is a potent relaxant that has been
known to inspire pleasant dreams. Laughter also can help open our eyes
to previously unnoticed absurdities that can make life seem less
serious.
There are three stages to mindful laughter. Each stage can last
anywhere from 5 to 20 minutes. The first stage involves stretching your
body like a cat and breathing deeply. Your stretch should start at the
hands and feet before you move through the rest of your body. Stretch
out the muscles in your face by yawning and making silly faces. The
second stage of the meditation is pure laughter. Imagine a humorous
situation, remember funny jokes, or think about how odd it is to be
laughing by yourself. When the giggles start to rise, let them. Let the
laughter ripple through your belly and down into the soles of your
feet. Let the laughter lead to physical movement. Roll on the floor, if
you have to, and keep on laughing until you stop. The final stage of
the meditation is one of silence. Sit with your eyes closed and focus
on your breath.
Laughter brings with it a host of positive effects that operate on both
the physical and mental levels. It is also fun, expressive, and a way
to release tension. Learn to laugh in the present moment, and you’ll
find that joy is always there. Published with permission from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
Determination — our clenched-jaw resolve that we can do something about
everything — is perhaps the greatest hindrance to achieving serenity.
Our old tapes tell us, “The difficult can be done immediately; the
impossible will take a little longer.” So we tighten up and prepare
ourselves for battle, even though we know from long experience that our
own will dooms us in advance to failure. Over and over we are told in
The Program that we must “Let Go and Let God.” And we eventually do
find serenity when we put aside our own will while accepting His will
for us. Am I learning to relax my stubborn grip? Do I allow the
solutions to unfold by themselves?
Today I Pray
May I loosen my tight-jaw, my tight-fists, my general up-tightness —
outward indications of the “do it myself” syndrome which has gotten me
into trouble before. May I know from experience that this attitude — of
“keep a grip on yourself” and on everybody else, too — is accompanied
by impatience and followed by frustration. May I merge my own will with
the greater will of God.
Today I Will Remember
Let up on the strangle-hold.
*****
One More Day
Love is all we have, the only way that each can help the other. –
Euripides
We may tend to love our family members only with qualifications. Only
if they don’t complain about their problems. Only if they are more
successful. Perhaps we don’t say this directly, but we might be
communicating these qualifications to our loved ones by holding back or
by making indirect suggestions as to how they should live their lives.
We may be able to give our love more fully if we remember how much we
need acceptance. We don’t want to receive love that is prefaced by
“only if . . .” Only if we don’t complain. Only if we stop talking
about our illness. We all need the comfort and support of love based on
what we are, not on what others think we can or should be. Our loved
ones need the same thing.
Knowing I am loved and can love others is an unqualified manner
strengthens me.
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Food For Thought
Learning from Mistakes
We can learn from our mistakes so that we do not have to make the same
ones over and over again. If a particular attitude or situation
consistently makes it difficult for us to follow our food plan, then
that attitude or situation needs to be changed. Slips do not just
happen. They indicate that something is wrong with our program and that
we have not yet learned what we need to know about ourselves.
Being aware of the circumstances, which make us vulnerable to
overeating, helps us to be prepared for temptation and to find ways to
avoid it wherever possible. If there are certain foods, which we cannot
resist, then we should not have those foods available. If trying to do
too much makes us tired and emotionally upset, then we need to be less
ambitious and learn to delegate responsibility. Compulsive overeating
or emotional bingeing indicates that we are not living in a way, which
satisfies our basic needs.
Lord, may we learn from our mistakes.
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One Day At A Time
WISDOM
“Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path.
Those who do not recover are people who cannot
or will not completely give themselves to this simple program.”
The AABB, Chapter 5
I always believed that I had to control every aspect of my life or I
would be a “less-than” person. This attitude even crept into my
attempts to learn the art of watercolor still life and portraits. Even
my art could not escape the effects of my character defects! In order
to learn something new, I have to be willing to follow the rules of the
very thing I want to learn. I shared this with an experienced artist
and best friend, “I find myself still wanting to control the outcome of
the colors.”
“Isn’t that the way we try to control our lives? She replied. “Drop the
paint where you want it to go, then drop the second color into that one
and let it go! You can take your brush and guide it, but don’t mess
with it!”
My life is like learning to watercolor. I have to trust that doing the
footwork of recovery as others have done will bring about a beautiful
portrait of growth in recovery.
One day at a time...
I will do the footwork by making good choices, letting each build upon
the other, and I will stand back to see what God will create.
~ Sharon S.
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
I had always believed in a Power greater than myself. I had often
pondered these things. I was not an atheist. Few people really are, for
that means blind faith in the strange proposition that this universe
originated in a cipher and aimlessly rushes nowhere. My intellectual
heroes, the chemists, the astronomers, even the evolutionists,
suggested vast laws and forces at work. Despite contrary indications, I
had little doubt that a mighty purpose and rhythm underlay all. How
could there be so much precise and immutable law, and not intelligence?
I simply had to believe in a Spirit of the Universe, who knew neither
time nor limitation. But that was as far as I had gone. - Pg. 10 -
Bill's Story
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Everyone has the right to be wrong! That includes whatever occurs this
hour--either our mistake, or another's. But we, or they, have the right
to make that mistake. This is not cause for anger or guilt, just
understanding.
This hour, understanding our right to be wrong will see me through.
Please help me understand.
Spiritual Transformation
Today, I see that to change my life I have to change myself. Nothing
less than a spiritual transformation will allow me to experience my
current life as an alive, serene and whole person. When I say that I
would like world peace, first I will understand that without inner
peace there will be no world peace. One of the ways in which I can
serve the cause of humanity is to be, within myself, a genuinely
spiritual person -- respecting all sects and creeds, but standing on my
own as a conduit of higher truth, recognizing that each person has
access to that knowledge. I will look for truth today within myself
rather than outside. I will not wait for peace to be handed to me as
some sort of prize for good behavior but will do the inner work needed
to achieve it. Today I give and receive the gift of peace.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
If you think you are a victim of the universe, you are probably right.
If you think of yourself as becoming whole from your experience, you
are probably right.
I am the victor, not the victim. It took all of my past to make this
person I love today.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
This is a self-help program that you can't do by yourself.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I'm willing to trust that no matter what is going on in my life,
I am in the process of growth.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
The elevator to sobriety is broken. Please take the steps. - Anon.
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AA Thought for the Day
October 8
The Actor
Most people try to live by self-propulsion. Each person is like an
actor who wants to run the whole show;
is forever trying to arrange the lights, the ballet, the scenery and
the rest of the players in his own way. . .
What usually happens? The show doesn't come off very well.
He begins to think life doesn't treat him right.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 60-61
Thought to Ponder . . .
When I choose the behavior, I choose the consequences.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Attitude Adjustment.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Single Purpose
"We enjoy certain advantages which should make
our task of self-restraint relatively easy.
There is really no good reason for anyone to object
if a great many drunks get sober.
Nearly everyone can agree that this is a good thing.
If, in the process, we are forced to develop
a certain amount of honesty, humility, and tolerance,
who is going to kick about that?
If we recognize that religion is the province of the clergy
and the practice of medicine is for doctors,
we can helpfully cooperate with both.
Certainly there is little basis for controversy in these areas.
It is a fact that AA has not the slightest reform
or political complexion.
We try to pay our own expenses,
and we strictly mind our single purpose."
Bill. W.,
c.1962AAWS, Twelve Concepts for World Service, 26th printing, p. 69
Thought to Consider . . .
While it isn't always easy, if I keep it simple, it works.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
K I S S = Keep It Simple, Silly
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
The Pervasive "We"
From: "He Lived Only To Drink"
More important, I came to believe that I cannot do this alone. From
childhood, despite the love I experienced, I had never let people, even
those closest to me, inside my life. All my life I had lived the
deepest of lies, not sharing with anyone my true thoughts and feelings.
I thought I had a direct line to God, and I built a wall of distrust
around myself. In AA I faced the pervasive "we" of the Twelve Steps and
gradually realized that I can separate and protect my sobriety from
outside hazards only inasmuch as I rely on the sober experience of
other AA members and share their journey through the steps to recovery.
2001, AAWS, Inc., Alcoholics Anonymous, page 451
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"As by some deep instinct, we AAs have known from the very beginning
that we must never, no matter what the provocation, publicly take sides
in any fight, even a worthy one."
AA Co-Founder, Bill W., February 1953
"Tradition Ten"
The Language of the Heart
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N' Twelve Quotes of the Day
^*~*~*~*~*
"Though there is no way of proving it, we believe that early in our
drinking careers most of us could have stopped drinking. But the
difficulty is that few alcoholics have enough desire to stop while
there is yet time."
Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, More About Alcoholism, pg. 32
"We don’t use this as an excuse for shying away from
the subject of God. When it will serve any good pur*
pose, we are willing to announce our convictions with
tact and common sense. The question of how to ap*
proach the man we hated will arise. It may be he has
done us more harm than we have done him and,
though we may have acquired a better attitude toward
him, we are still not too keen about admitting our
faults. Nevertheless, with a person we dislike, we take
the bit in our teeth. It is harder to go to an enemy
than to a friend, but we find it much more beneficial
to us. We go to him in a helpful and forgiving spirit,
confessing our former ill feeling and expressing our
regret."
Alcoholics Anonymous p.77
But those of us who have tried to shoulder the entire burden and
trouble of others find we are soon overcome by them.
-Alcoholics Anonymous p.132
It does not lighten our burden when we recklessly make the crosses of
others heavier.
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions p. 86
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
There is only one sure test of all spiritual experiences: 'By their
fruits, ye shall know them.'
This is why I think we should question no one's transformation -
whether it be sudden or gradual. Nor should we demand anyone's special
type for ourselves, because experience suggests that we are apt to
receive whatever may be the most useful for our own needs.
Human beings are never quite alike, so each of us, when making an
inventory, will need to determine what his individual character defects
are. Having found the shoes that fit, he ought to step into them and
walk with new confidence that he is at last on the right track.
Prayer for the Day: God direct my thinking today so that it be
divorced of self pity, dishonesty, self-will, self-seeking and fear.
God inspire my thinking, decisions and intuitions. Help me to relax and
take it easy. Free me from doubt and indecision. Guide me through this
day and show me my next step. God give me what I need to take care of
any problems. I ask all these things that I may be of maximum service
to you and my fellow man in the name of the Steps I pray. AMEN (p. 86
BB)