SERENITY AFTER THE STORM
Someone who knew what he was talking about once remarked that
pain was the touchstone of all spiritual progress. How heartily
we A.A.'s can agree with him. . . .
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p p. 93-94
When on the roller coaster of emotional turmoil, I remember that
growth is often painful. My evolution in the A.A. program has
taught me that I must experience the inner change, however painful,
that eventually guides me from selfishness to selflessness. If I
am to have serenity, I must STEP my way past emotional turmoil and
its subsequent hangover, and be grateful for continuing spiritual
progress.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
How do I talk with new prospects? Am I always trying to dominate
the conversation? Do I lay down the law and tell prospects what
they will have to do? Do I judge them privately and feel that they
have small chance of making the program? Do I belittle them to
myself? Or am I willing to bare my soul so as to get them talking
about themselves? And, then, am I willing to be a good listener,
not interrupting, but hearing them out to the end? Do I feel deeply
that they are my brothers or my sisters? Will I do all I can to help
them along the path to sobriety?
Meditation For The Day
"The work of righteousness shall be peace and the effect of
righteousness shall be quietness and assurance forever." Only
when the soul attains this calm, can there be true spiritual work
done, and mind and soul and body be strong to conquer and bear all
things. Peace is the result of righteousness. There is no peace in
wrong doing, but if we live the way God wants us to live, quietness
and assurance follow. Assurance is that calmness born of a deep
certainty of God's strength available to us and in His power to love
and guard us from all harm and wrong doing.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may attain a state of true calmness.
I pray that I may live in quietness and peace.
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As Bill Sees It
Going It
Alone, p. 274
Going it alone in spiritual matters is dangerous. How many times
have we heard well-intentioned people claim the guidance of God
when it was plain that they were mistaken? Lacking both practice
and humility, they deluded themselves and were so able to justify
the most arrant nonsense on the ground that this was what God had
told them.
People of very high spiritual development almost always insist on
checking with friends or spiritual advisers the guidance they feel
they have received from God. Surely, then, a novice ought not lay
himself open to the chance of making foolish, perhaps tragic,
blunders. While the comment or advice of others may not be
infallible, it is likely to be far more specific than any direct
guidance
we may receive while we are still inexperienced in establishing
contact with a Power greater than ourselves.
12 & 12, p. 60
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Walk In Dry Places
Proving Ourselves
Self-esteem
Long after a bitter failure, some of us still cling to the hope that we
can erase the defeat in some spectacular way. One dream is to
“prove ourselves” to those who scorned us or put us down.
This never really works, even when we do become winners at some
later
time. For one thing, we may be proving ourselves to people
who never
will like us. If we are striving to show others that we
can
succeed, we are still dancing to their tune. We are accepting
their idea of what success should be.
Many of us failed simply because we were alcoholics and could do
no
better. We might have destroyed opportunities that will never
rise again. But by finding sobriety, we may already have proved
ourselves to those who really count in our lives...... Including
ourselves.
I can prove today that the Twelve Step program works and that a
loving
Higher Power is present in my life.
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Keep It Simple
That which is called firmness in a king is called stubbornness in
a
donkey. ---Lord Erskine
“Rigid” is a fancy word for “stubborn.” We act this way because
of our
fear. When we’re afraid, we hang on to what we’re used to
doing. Our illness had
us
so scared, we were afraid of the new ideas
and new people. The only
thing
that didn’t scare us was using alcohol
or other drugs.
We also were stubborn when anyone tried to help us. We thought we
knew
what was best. How silly our stubborn actions made us look!
How lonely
they kept us.
But our stubborn behavior can teach us about our fears. We need to
be
aware our stubbornness. Then we’ll be able to find out what we’re
afraid
of---and do something about it.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me know when I’m stubborn.
Action for the Day: Today, I’ll work at accepting my
stubbornness.
I will use it to learn
what I am afraid of today.
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Each Day a New Beginning
Ambiguity means admitting more than one response to a situation and
allowing yourself to be aware of those contradictory responses. You may
want something and fear it at the same time. You may find it both
beautiful
and ugly. --Tristine Rainer
Flexibility is a goal worth the striving. It eases our relations with
others,
and it stretches our realm of awareness. Letting go of rigid
adherence to
what our perceptions were yesterday assures us of
heightened understanding
of life's variables and lessons.
Being torn between two decisions, feeling ambivalent about them, need
not
create consternation, though it often does. Hopefully, it will
encourage us to
pray for direction, and then to be responsive to the
guidance. And we must
keep in mind that no decision is ever wrong. It
may lead us astray for a time,
but it will also introduce us to
uncharted territories, which offer many
opportunities for flexibility.
Contradictory responses, our own and also ours in relations with
others,
keep us on our toes, lend an element of excitement to our
lives, and push
us to think creatively about our perceptions. Growth
and change are guaranteed.
I will be in tune with myself today. I will let my perceptions guide me.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
Foreword To Second Edition
Figures given in this foreword describe the Fellowship as it was in
1955.
The spark that was to flare into the first A.A. group was struck at
Akron, Ohio, in June 1935, during a talk between a New York stockbroker
and an Akron physician. Six months earlier, the broker had been
relieved of his drink obsession by a sudden spiritual experience,
following a meeting with an alcoholic friend who had been in contact
with the Oxford Groups of that day. He had also been greatly helped by
the late Dr. William D. Silkworth, a New York specialist in alcoholism
who is now accounted no less than a medical saint by A.A. members, and
whose story of the early days of our Society appears in the next pages.
>From this doctor, the Broker had learned the grave nature of
alcoholism. Though he could not accept all the tenets of the Oxford
Groups, he was convinced of the need for moral inventory, confession of
personality defects, restitution to those harmed, helpfulness to
others, and the necessity of belief in and dependence upon God.
pp. xv-xvi
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition - Stories
My Chance To Live
A.A. gave this teenager the tools
to climb out of her dark abyss of despair.
On the designated evening I arrived to find that the
anniversary meeting was the following week, but they took a vote and
decided I could stay. I was shocked and humbled. These
people wanted me around? It was a concept I had trouble
accepting. I stayed and listened, careful to let them know I
didn't have a problem.
p. 313
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Tradition
Twelve - "Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions,
ever reminding us to place principles before personalities."
As a rule, the average newcomer wanted his family to know immediately
what he was trying to do. He also wanted to tell others who had tried
to help him--his doctor, his minister, and close friends. As he gained
confidence, he felt it right to explain his new way of life to his
employer and business associates. When opportunities to be helpful came
along, he found he could talk easily about A.A. to almost anyone. These
quiet disclosures helped him to lose his fear of the alcoholic stigma,
and spread the news of A.A.'s existence in his community. Many a new
man and woman came to A.A. because of such conversations. Though not in
the strict letter of anonymity, such communications were well within
its spirit.
pp. 185-186
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One
of
the
most
time-consuming
things
is
to have an enemy.
--E. B. White
Love your enemies. It will drive them nuts.
--Eleanor Doan
"A keen sense of humor helps us to overlook the unbecoming,
understand the unconventional, tolerate the unpleasant,
overcome the unexpected, and outlast the unbearable."
--Billy Graham
"We're still not where we're going, but we're not where we were."
--Natasha Jasefowitz
"Behavioral researcher Shad Helmstetter, in his book "Choice," says,
'When we meet someone who seems to have a good attitude about
everything,
that really isn't the case. The person simply has made a
lot of independent
choices to have a
good attitude about many individual things." Remember, a positive
outlook is a
choice - and the decision is yours."
--Neil Eskelin
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
FREEDOM
"Freedom is not enough. "
-- Lyndon B. Johnson
The gift of freedom requires the acknowledgment of the benefactor, God.
To experience
freedom without realizing its source is to miss the point; freedom
requires responsibility.
When I was drinking, I demanded freedom without responsibility and I
suffered. I created
in freedom my own horror stories. I hurt others because I did not
respect in them what I
demanded for myself and slowly, ever so slowly, freedom slipped away.
Today I believe that my spiritual program reinforces my responsibility
for my life. God
has created me with free will and I need to respect this gift in
others. If I do not respect
others, I will never receive it. Dignity is a two way street.
Thank You for the freedom to experience myself in my treatment of my
neighbor.
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Look
to the Lord and his strength; seek His face always.
Psalm 105:4
Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy. He who goes out
weeping,
carrying seed to sow, will return with songs of joy, carrying sheaves
with him.
Psalm 126:5-6
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Daily Inspiration
Be like a star and make your best even better. Lord, source of my joy,
if I
am shining I will brighten the day for both myself and those
around me.
There
is a time for everything. Take time to pray, to sing, to laugh,
to work
and to touch the hearts of others. Lord, help me be aware that
today will never
return so that I will not misuse my time or waste it
unwisely.
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NA Just For Today
Page 289
"Our egos, once so large and dominant,
now take a back seat because we are in harmony with a loving God. We
find that we lead richer, happier, and much fuller lives when we lose
self-will."
Basic Text, p.105
Addiction and self-will go hand in
hand. The unmanageability that we admitted to in Step One was as much a
product of our self-will as it was of our chronic drug abuse. And
today, living on self-will can make our lives just as unmanageable as
they were when we were using. When our ideas, our desires, our demands
take first place in our lives, we find ourselves in constant conflict
with everyone and everything around us.
Self-will reflects our reliance on
ego. The only thing that will free us from self-will and the conflict
it generates in our lives is to break our reliance on ego, coming to
rely instead on the guidance and power offered us by a loving God.
We are taught to consult spiritual
principles, not our selfish desires, in making our decisions. We are
taught to seek guidance from a Higher Power, one with a larger vision
of things than our own. In doing this, we find our lives meshing more
and more easily with the order of things around us. No longer do we
exclude ourselves from the flow of life; we become a part of it, and
discover the fullness of what recovery has to offer.
Just for Today: I seek freedom from
ego and the conflicts generated by self-will. I will try to improve my
conscious contact with the God of my understanding, seeking the
guidance and power I need to live in harmony with my world.
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
How easy the breath that kills a flame,
How hard to kindle that light again.
Cold words kill and kind words kindle,
By words withheld a dream may dwindle.
--Joan Walsh Anglund
How we treat the people we live with
affects the happiness of our family. Just as a breath can blow out a
flame, a mean remark can cast a shadow across a brother or sister's
heart. People of all ages have left dreams behind because no one
encouraged them. They are like candles snuffed out.
On the other hand, if we see a friend
or family member feeling good about something they have done, we can
learn to be happy for them. If we notice their excitement and encourage
them with kind and sincere words, it will help their candle burn
brighter. Sharing the happiness of others will make our own candles
burn brighter, and it always feels good when we receive kind words
ourselves.
In what ways can I bring light and
warmth with my words today?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
You should not have your own idea when
you listen to someone.... To have nothing in your mind is naturalness.
Then you will understand what he says. --Shunryu Suzuki
A man who is mistrustful and
self-centered has difficulty listening to someone else. Perhaps a woman
we are close to wants to be understood by us. But we do not hear her on
her own terms because we are so intensely involved with our own shame.
So we react to our feelings of guilt rather than really hearing what
she wants to say about her experience. Or we may be so worried about
who has control that we fail to receive the information we are being
given. Then we respond with "Yes, but..."
True learning comes - like true
intimacy - when we have an open mind. As we detach ourselves, separate
from our own ego, we hear the other person better and grow more
intimate.
May I learn to set aside my own
self-centeredness. Today, I will grow more if I set my ego aside when
others are talking to me.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
Ambiguity means admitting more than
one response to a situation and allowing yourself to be aware of those
contradictory responses. You may want something and fear it at the same
time. You may find it both beautiful and ugly. --Tristine Rainer
Flexibility is a goal worth the
striving. It eases our relations with others, and it stretches our
realm of awareness. Letting go of rigid adherence to what our
perceptions were yesterday assures us of heightened understanding of
life's variables and lessons.
Being torn between two decisions,
feeling ambivalent about them, need not create consternation, though it
often does. Hopefully, it will encourage us to pray for direction, and
then to be responsive to the guidance. And we must keep in mind that no
decision is ever wrong. It may lead us astray for a time, but it will
also introduce us to uncharted territories, which offer many
opportunities for flexibility.
Contradictory responses, our own and
also ours in relations with others, keep us on our toes, lend an
element of excitement to our lives, and push us to think creatively
about our perceptions. Growth and change are guaranteed.
I will be in tune with myself today. I
will let my perceptions guide me.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Getting Through the Discomfort
Surrender to the pain. Then learn to
surrender to the good. It's there and more is on the way. --Beyond
Codependency
Our goal in recovery is to make us
feel comfortable, peaceful, and content. Happy. We want to be at peace
with our environment and ourselves. Sometimes, to do that, we need to
be willing to face, feel, and get through discomfort.
I am not talking here about being
addicted to misery and pain. I am not talking about creating
unnecessary pain. I'm talking about the legitimate discomfort we
sometimes need to feel as we heal.
When we have surgery, the pain hurts
most the day after the operation. When we do the kind of work we are
facing in recovery, we are doing an emotional, mental, and spiritual
surgery on ourselves. We're removing parts of us that are infected and
inflamed.
Sometimes the process hurts. We are
strong enough to survive discomfort and temporary feelings of emotional
pain. Once we are willing to face and feel our discomfort and pain, we
are almost to the point of release.
Today, I am willing to face my
discomfort, trusting that healing and release are on the other side.
Help me, God; be open to feeling whatever I need to feel to be healed
and healthy. While I am doing this, I will trust I am cared for and
protected by my friends, my Higher Power, the Universe, and myself.
I choose to be in places and
situations and with people where I feel good about myself. I deserve to
feel good and I trust that my heart will tell me where to go. --Ruth
Fishel
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Journey To The Heart
October 3
Finish Unfinished Business
Finish your business with people.
Unfinished business with others is the highest block to an open heart,
the biggest block to peace and joy.
The tangled cords that bind us to the
past are easy to find. All we need do is become quiet and listen to the
voice of our heart. Who do we resent? Who are we angry with? Hurt by?
Who are the people we aren’t at peace with? That’s our unfinished
business, the unfinished business of the heart.
Look deep inside. Find your secrets.
Find your not-quite-finished pieces. Then discover what you need to
finish. Often, the answer is only a breath away– a breath of fresh air,
a breath of forgiveness, a breath of love. Take that breath. Let the
past go. Let it go in peace, thankful for all you’ve learned along the
way.
Tie up your loose ends. Heal your
connection to others and your heart by finishing unfinished business.
Then you’ll be free to move on. And you can go forward in peace.
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more language of letting go
Be aware of your intentions
Your inner self is literal and does
not understand ambiguity so whenever you direct it to manifest your
desires, give it absolutely literal instructions... Your natural self
is quite fond of accomplishing the tasks you give it. It loves to
display its skills and perform for you and others, and can do nearly
anything (within the realm of possibility and probability) that you can
conceive.
--Enid Hoffman
Be clear on your intentions.
Intentions are more than mere wishes.
An intention is will mixed with emotions and desire. For instance, I
can sit here and wish the house were cleaner. When I put all else
aside, take my frustration about the mess and channel it into energy
and my desire for tidiness, I can say, "I will spend one hour
straightening up."
Sometimes we make our intentions known
to other people. For instance, we might start dating someone, and it's
our intention to eventually marry. Intentions can turn into
manipulation when we don't make them clear. They can also involve
control, in the worse sense, when they involve changing the free will
of someone else.
The best place to start is by making
our intentions clear to ourselves. What do you want? In regards to your
life situations, like work or finances, what are your intentions?
Sometimes our good intentions can run
totally amok. For instance, you might intend to get a person sober, but
they may have no desire to sober up. We can avoid a lot of painful
manipulations, if we're clear about our intentions.
Watch yourself as you go through life
encountering different situations. Do you have an agenda? Do you even
know what it is? Sometimes our intentions are less than conscious,
hidden right below the surface. For instance, we may have an intention
to get married and have someone support us so we don't have to support
ourselves. Are someone else's intentions influencing your own?
When you start any project, a new
relationship, or just a new day, spend a moment and get quiet. Be clear
with yourself and others on what your intentions are. Then surrender
those intentions to God.
God, please help me align my
intentions and desires with your highest good will for my life.
*****
Fresh and Unfixed
There Is Only Now
It can be easy for us to walk through
the world and our lives without really being present. While dwelling on
the past and living for the future are common pastimes, it is
physically impossible to live anywhere but the present moment. We
cannot step out our front door and take a left turn to May of last
year, any more than we can take a right turn to December 2015.
Nevertheless, we can easily miss the future we are waiting for as it
becomes the now we are too busy to pay attention to. We then spend the
rest of our time playing “catch up” to the moment that we just let pass
by. During moments like these, it is important to remember that there
is only Now.
In order to feel more at home in the
present moment, it is important to try to stay aware, open, and
receptive. Being in the present moment requires our full attention so
that we are fully awake to experience it. When we are fully present,
our minds do not wander. We are focused on what is going on right now,
rather than thinking about what just happened or worrying about what is
going to happen next. Being present lets us experience each moment in
our lives in a way that cannot be fully lived through memory or fantasy.
When we begin to corral our attention
into the present moment, it can be almost overwhelming to be here.
There is a state of stillness that has to happen that can take some
getting used to, and the mind chatter that so often gets us into our
heads and out of the present moment doesn’t have as much to do. We may
feel a lack of control because we aren’t busy planning our next move,
assessing our current situation, or anticipating the future. Instead,
being present requires that we be flexible, creative, attentive, and
spontaneous. Each present moment is completely new, and nothing like it
has happened or will ever happen again. As you move through your day,
remember to stay present in each moment. In doing so, you will live
your life without having to wait for the future or yearn for the past.
Life happens to us when we happen to life in the Now.
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
I’ve learned in The Program that I’m
wholly powerless over my addiction. At long last, I’ve conceded my
powerlessness; as a result, my life has taken a 180-degree turn for the
better. However, I do have a power, derived from God, to change my own
life. I’ve learned that acceptance does not mean submission to an
unpleasant or degrading situation. It means accepting the reality of
the situation and then deciding what, if anything, I can and will do
about it. Have I stopped trying to control the uncontrollable? Am I
gaining the courage to change the things I can?
Today I Pray
I ask my Higher Power for direction as
I learn to sort out the things I can change from the things I can’t,
for that sorting process does, indeed, require God-given wisdom. May
“the things I cannot change” not give me and excuse for inaction. May
“the things I can” not include managing other people’s lives. May I
start to understand my own reality.
Today I Will Remember
Acceptance is not inaction. Change is
not domination.
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One More Day
Most of all, we seek to help them
rise to what for most is the supreme challenge of their lives, by
developing and enjoying their unique personalities to the fullest.
– Bernie S. Siegel
Just living life, not enjoying it, is
a tread-water posture some of us adopt in our lives. Afraid to get “too
involved” in living, we wait for the sorts to occur. We look for a
guide, a leader, to direct our path to physical and spiritual survival.
At first, we may be devastated when we
realize that no one else can direct us, guide us, or lead us out of the
maze of emotions that accompanies a chronic illness. Others can help,
but only if we lead. Gradually we’re finding a unique strength within
us, one we’d not known before, that enables us to direct our physical
and spiritual programs with greater confidence.
I am on a continuing journey to accept
the challenges of my life. Allowing my unique personality to surface is
the beginning.
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Food For Thought
Being Committed
Success comes with commitment. We cannot maintain abstinence, or a
marriage, or a profession, or anything else without being committed to
it. Genuine commitment is the attitude required of us if we are to
benefit from OA. The program is not something we pick up and put down
when we feel like it. If abstinence is not the most important thing in
our lives, we will not be able to maintain it.
Sharing our commitment out loud, with another person, reinforces it. We
need to stay in contact with our OA friends. It is during the busy
times that we especially need to remember our priorities. A phone call
plugs us in to the group strength, which sustains our individual
efforts.
The physical, emotional, and spiritual benefits, which come to us every
day as we abstain and work the Twelve Steps, are what nourish us. Being
committed to the OA program is our strength and our recovery.
Make firm my commitment to Your way.
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One Day At A Time
TRUTH
"The truth will set you free,
but first it will make you miserable."
James A. Garfield
After years of therapy, I thought I
knew myself fairly well. I prided myself on my integrity, honesty and
responsible nature; however, my morbid obesity and compulsive
overeating reflected the exact opposite of these values. After breaking
many resolutions to myself, starting and stopping countless diets, and
continuing to have no control over my eating, I began to doubt my
integrity. How could I keep a commitment to everyone I knew and yet
break my promises to myself over and over again? It wasn't until in a
moment of frustrated clarity I blurted out, "I'm acting like an
addict!" Finally I experienced my own truth.
I am an addict. I am addicted to food.
I use food to fill the gaping black hole within me. I use food to
anesthetize my pain. As a compulsive overeater, I stuff my face rather
than face my stuff.
Working the Steps allowed me to see
that even though I thought I valued honesty, I was constantly lying to
myself about my compulsive eating. Becoming abstinent from compulsive
eating removed the veils of delusion and dishonesty that I had over my
eyes. Living this program, one day at a time, freed me from compulsive
lying to myself as well as compulsive eating. Telling the truth, while
sometimes very difficult, has let me live happy, joyously, and free.
One day at a time...
I will work the Steps honestly, tell
the truth about my life, and be the person of integrity my Higher Power
always intended for me to be.
~ Bernadette B.
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
If we have been thorough about our
personal inventory, we have written down a lot. We have listed and
analyzed our resentments. We have begun to comprehend their futility
and their fatality. We have commenced to see their terrible
destructiveness. We have begun to learn tolerance, patience and good
will toward all men, even our enemies, for we look on them as sick
people. We have listed the people we have hurt by our conduct, and are
willing to straighten out the past if we can. - Pg. 70 - How It Works
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Service to another addict/alcoholic or
to our group can help calm us when the jitters get rough. Think of one
other fellow recoverer who also seemed jittery at the last meeting or
maybe didn't show up. You can get in touch with them today and ask if
you can help.
God, as I understand You, give me the
right words to comfort or to encourage a fellow recoverer.
Detaching With Love
I need to detach with love from those
I care about who are still mired in this disease. When I detach with
resentment, it is not detachment, it keeps me preoccupied and
connected. When I amputate it is not detachment, I get phantom limb, I
still hurt and am haunted by something missing. When I detach by
ignoring, shoving or running, it is simply the other side of enmeshment
and eventually I get hooked in again. Today I will detach with love. I
am grateful to have found recovery. I will allow others the dignity of
their own path. If I teach, it will be by example.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
Stop looking for the differences.
People who matter, don't mind; people who mind, don't matter.
No matter my age, race, religion or
chemical, I am more alike my fellow addicts than different.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
A signpost, like a peer, only warns
you about the road ahead. But a map, like a sponsor can show you how to
get where you want to go.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I can wait until all negative
and hostile feelings lose their power over me before I say or do
anything.
I can take the time to breathe in
peace and love, no matter what is going on in my life.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
I don't wish to become a member of any
club which will have me as a member. - Groucho Marx.
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AA
Thought for the Day
October 3
Circus Act
I realized I'd been living outside
myself for so long I'd almost become a walking vacancy.
In my prized AA sobriety, I was still
running a kind of circus
which had numerous, highly believable
posters plastered all over its outside --
See the Spectacular Non-Drinking
Person! Watch How Movingly He can Recite the Twelve Steps!
-- but which had nothing much going on
inside the tent.
I've been working hard to shut that
circus down ever since with varying degrees of success.
- The Best of the Grapevine [Vol. 3],
pp. 237-238
Thought to Ponder . . .
The monkey’s asleep but the circus
hasn’t left town.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
H A L T = Honesty, Acceptance, Love,
Trust.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Demonstration
"Men and women who use alcohol as an
escape
are not the only ones who are afraid
of life,
hostile to the world, fleeing from it
into loneliness.
Millions who are not alcoholics
are living today in illusory worlds,
nurturing the basic anxieties and
insecurities
of human existence
rather than face themselves with
courage and humility.
To these people, AA can offer as a
cure no magic potion,
no chemical formula, no powerful drug.
But it can demonstrate to them how to
use the tools
of humility, honesty, devotion, and
love,
which indeed are the heart of the
Twelve Steps
of our recovery."
c.1957AAWS, Alcoholics Anonymous Comes
of Age, p. 279
Thought to Consider . . .
AA Is like an adjustable wrench, it
fits almost any nut.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
H O P E = Help Open People's Eyes
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Searching for the Positives
From: "Changing Beliefs"
Slowly and painfully, I became aware
of myself. I began to see it wasn't true that I didn't believe in
anything. Rather, I had believed in the wrong things:
I had believed I needed a drink for
confidence.
I had believed I was unattractive.
I had believed I was unworthy.
I had believed no one loved me.
I had believed I never had a break.
Someone said at a closed meeting,
There is good in all of us. Seek it out, nurture it, tend it, and it
will flourish. So I began searching for the positives within me. I
realized that my feeling of inferiority was just one aspect of ego, and
the arrogance I projected was the other. I must find the center median.
So I tried to act as if:
AA was giving me confidence.
I had an attractive personality, even
though I was not beautiful.
I was worthy, like all others.
I loved myself and could therefore
love others.
Faith was freeing me from the fear
that had always gripped me.
1973, AAWS, Inc., Came to Believe,
pages 103-104
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"The measure of my sobriety isn't the
distance between now and the last drink -- the measure of my sobriety
is the distance between now and the next drink."
White Rock, British Columbia, May 2005
"Life -- It Happens"
No Matter What: Dealing with Adversity
in Sobriety
*~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N'
Twelve Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"Another principle we observe
carefully is that we do not relate
intimate experiences of another person
unless we are sure he would
approve. We find it better, when
possible, to stick to our own
stories. A man may criticize or laugh
at himself and it will affect
others favorably, but criticism or
ridicule coming from another often
produces the contrary effect."
Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, The
Family Afterward, pg. 125
We know that while the alcoholic keeps
away from drink , as he may do for months or years , he reacts much
like other men . We are equally positive that once he takes any alcohol
whatever into his system , something happens , both in the bodily and
mental sense , which makes it virtually impossible for him to stop .
The experience of any alcoholic will abundantly confirm this .
Alcoholics Anonymous Page 22-23
It reminds us that we are to place
principles before personalities; that we are actually to practice a
genuine humility.
-Alcoholics Anonymous p.566
For we had started to get perspective
on ourselves, which is another way of saying that we were gaining in
humility.
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions p.
48
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
I have had many experiences with
atheists, mostly good. Everybody in A.A. has the right to his own
opinion. It is much better to maintain an open and tolerant society
than it is to suppress any small disturbances their opinions might
occasion. Actually, 1 don't know of anybody who went off and died of
alcoholism because of some atheist's opinions on the cosmos.
'But I do always entreat these folks
to look to a 'Higher Power' - namely, their own group. When they come
in, most of their A.A. group is sober, and they are drunk. Therefore,
the group is a 'Higher Power.' That's a good enough start, and most of
them do progress from there. I know how they feel, because I was once
that way myself.
Prayer for the Day: Take Time - Take Time to think; it is the
source of power. Take Time to play; it is the secret of perpetual
young. Take Time to read; it is the foundation of wisdom. Take Time to
pray; it is the greatest power on earth. Take Time to be friendly; it
is the road to happiness. Take Time to laugh; it is the music of the
soul. Take Time to give; it is too short a day to be selfish. Take Time
to work; it is the price of success. Take Time to do charity; it is the
key to heaven. Take Time to be quiet; it is the moment to seek God.
Take Time to be aware; it is the opportunity to help others. Take Time
to love and be loved; it is God's greatest gift. Take Time to dream; it
is what the future is made of.