SELF-ACCEPTANCE
We know that God lovingly watches over us. We know that when we turn to
Him, all will
be well with us, here and hereafter.
TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 105
I pray for the willingness to remember that I am a child of God, a
divine soul in human
form, and that my most basic and urgent life-task is to accept, know,
love and nurture
myself. As I accept myself, I am accepting God's will. As I know and
love myself, I am
knowing and loving God. As I nurture myself I am acting on God's
guidance. I pray for
the willingness to let go of my arrogant self-criticism, and to praise
God by humbly
accepting and caring for myself.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
When I think of all who have gone before me, I realize that I am only
one, not very
important, person. What happens to me is not so very important after
all. And A.A. has
taught me to be more outgoing, to seek friendship by going at least
half way; to have a
sincere desire to help. I have more self-respect now that I have less
sensitiveness. I
have found that the only way to live comfortably with myself is to take
a real interest in
others. Do I realize that I am not so important after all?
Meditation For The Day
As you look back over your life, it is not too difficult to believe
that what you went
through was for a purpose, to prepare you for some valuable work in
life. Everything in
your way may well have been planned by God to make you of some use in
the world. Each
person's life is like the pattern of a mosaic. Each thing that happened
to you is like one
tiny stone in the mosaic, and each tiny stone fits into the perfected
pattern of the mosaic
of your life, which has been designed by God.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may not need to see the whole design of my life. I pray
that I may trust the
Designer.
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As Bill Sees It
In
The
Sunlight At Last, p. 313
When the thought was expressed that there might be a God personal
to me, I didn't like the idea. So my friend Ebby made what then
seemed a novel suggestion. He said, "Why don't you choose your own
conception of God?"
That statement hit me hard. It melted the icy intellectual mountain in
whose shadow I had lived and shivered many years. I stood in the
sunlight at last.
<< << << >> >> >>
It may be possible to find explanations of spiritual experiences such as
ours, but I have often tried to explain my own and have succeeded only
in giving the story of it. I know the feeling it gave me and the results
it has brought, but I realize I may never fully understand its deeper
why and now.
1. Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 12
2. A.A. Comes Of Age, p. 45
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Walk In Dry Places
The
rewards
of
truth
Seeking the truth
"The punishment of the liar is that he cannot believe anyone
else," wrote one shrewd philosopher. This is another way of
saying that we reap what we sow, or that we tend to judge others by our
own actions.
But when we decide to be completely truthful, we are not immediately
given the ability to discern whether others are lying or not.
It's more important for us to realize that others' lies don't have the
power to hurt us permanently if we persevere in the program.
Some people would argue with this, pointing to lies that have hurt
innocent people in the past. But having no way of knowing all the facts
of these cases, we cannot be the judge.
In our own experience, we'll find that God alone is the source of all
truth and will give us the protection and care we need if we seek
truthfulness in everything we do. Any fear of being victimized by
lying, we'll learn, will melt away as we follow this conviction.
I'll be as discreet as possible today, but I'll also be truthful.
I'll find that this alone will lessen any fear of being victimized by a
liar.
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Keep It Simple
Have
the
courage
to
live;
anyone
can die.---Robert Cody
Living means facing all of life. Life is joy and sorrow. We used to be
people who wanted the joy without the sorrow. But we can learn from
hard
times, maybe more than we do in easy times. Often, getting through hard
times helps us grow. When things get tough, maybe we want to turn and
run. Then, a gentle voice from within us say, “I am with you. You have
friends who will help.” If we listen, we’ll hear our Higher Power. This
is what is meant by “conscious contact” in Step eleven. As this
conscious
contact grows, our courage grows. And we find the strength to face hard
times.
Prayer for the Day: I pray for the strength and courage to live.
I pray that I’ll never have
to face hard time alone again.
Action for the Day: I’ll list two examples of conscious contact”
in my life.
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Each Day a New Beginning
Life has got to be lived--that's all there is to it. At 70 I would say
the advantage is that you take life more calmly. You know that, "This,
too, shall pass!" --Eleanor Roosevelt
Wisdom comes with age, but also with maturity. It is knowing that all
is well in the midst of a storm. And as our faith grows, as we trust
more that there is a power greater than ourselves which will see us
through, we can relax, secure that a better time awaits us.
We will come to understand the part a difficult circumstance has played
in our lives. Hindsight makes so much clear. The broken marriage, the
lost job, the loneliness have all contributed to who we are becoming.
The joy of the wisdom we are acquiring is that hindsight comes more
quickly. We can, on occasion, begin to accept a difficult situation's
contribution to our wholeness while caught in the turmoil.
How far we have come! So seldom do we stay caught, really trapped, in
the fear of misunderstanding. Life must teach us all we need to know.
We can make the way easier by stretching our trust--by knowing fully
that the pain of the present will open the way to the serenity of the
future.
I know that this too shall pass.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
The Doctor's Opinion
All these, and many others, have one symptom in common: they cannot
start drinking without developing the phenomenon of craving. This
phenomenon, as we have suggested, may be the manifestation of an
allergy which differentiates these people, and sets them apart as a
distinct entity. It has never been, by any treatment with which we are
familiar, permanently eradicated. The only relief we have to suggest is
entire abstinence.
This immediately precipitates us into a seething caldron of debate.
Much has been written pro and con, but among physicians, the general
opinion seems to be that most chronic alcoholics are doomed.
p. xxx
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
Student Of Life
Living at home with her parents,
she tried using willpower to beat the obsession to drink. But it
wasn't until she met another alcoholic and went to an A.A. meeting that
sobriety took hold.
It was the second meeting that clinched my resolve to
pursue sobriety. There were about thirty-five people in attendance, but
the space was small, so the meeting seemed very crowded. Being from out
of town, I stood up and introduced myself when asked to by the
chairperson. Later on in the meeting, the chairperson called on me to
share. I got up and somehow walked over to the microphone and
podium--I've never been so nervous in my life. But the words came out
naturally as I described the events that led up to the meeting that
night.
pp. 325-326
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Step Two -
"Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us
to sanity."
"As material success founded upon no more than these ordinary
attributes began to come to us, we felt we were winning at the game of
life. This was exhilarating, and it made us happy. Why should we be
bothered with theological abstractions and religious duties, or with
the state of our souls here or hereafter? The here and now was good
enough for us. The will to win would carry us through. But then alcohol
began to have its way with us. Finally, when all our score cards read
`zero,' and we saw that one more strike would put us out of the game
forever, we had to look for our lost faith. It was in A.A. that we
rediscovered it. And so can you."
p. 29
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I
can't have a better tomorrow if I am
thinking about yesterday all the
time.
--unknown
"You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest, that it leaves your
arms too full to
embrace the present."
--Jan Glidewell
Jesus is a friend who walks in when the world has walked out.
--unknown
When God leads, He provides.
--unknown
The times that are the most difficult for me are when God's answer is
"wait" (rather than "yes" or "no"). I can even take His "You've got
to be kidding!" or "You want WHAT??????" easier than "wait."
--unknown
You can choose to worry about something or you can realize that there
are actually very
few circumstances in life you can control, and just let things be. This
is not an "I don't
care" attitude, this is simply accepting what is.
--unknown
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
PEACE
"Peace without justice is tyranny."
-- William Allen White
Peace at any price! Not for me today. For years I sought a peace that
was based upon
the "no-talk" principle remaining quiet, rather than causing upset or
risking
embarrassment. Such a peace was unjust. It only fed the disease and
helped to keep
me sick.
Today I seek a peace that involves discussing or confronting painful
situations, often
making me and others uncomfortable. Serenity is a peace that is arrived
at after
periods of pain but a necessary pain.
In my life today I have the courage to speak out and make choices that
are good for me;
God is alive in my choice.
May I forever search for the "peace" that is real. May I find "peace"
in the justice of
my lifestyle.
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O Lord
I say to you "You are my God" Hear O Lord my cry for mercy.
Psalm 140:6
"Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what
it says."
James 1:22
Jesus said, "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and
I will give you
rest."
Matthew 11:28
"The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life."
Proverbs 15:4
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Daily Inspiration
Choose the direction of your day and then make a point of enjoying your
choices. Lord, help me to do what I can when I can, but also, help me
to know when doing nothing is the better choice.
Take care of yourself so that you may give care to others. Lord, may I
never totally ignore myself and my feelings for the sake of others and
fit in time daily to refresh my spirit.
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NA Just For Today
From Surrender To Acceptance
"We surrender quietly and let the God
of our understanding take care of us."
Basic Text p. 26
Surrender and acceptance are like
infatuation and love. Infatuation begins when we encounter someone
special. Infatuation requires nothing but the acknowledgement of the
object of our infatuation. For infatuation to become love, however,
requires a great deal of effort. That initial connection must be
slowly, patiently nurtured into a lasting, durable bond.
It's the same with surrender and
acceptance. We surrender when we acknowledge our powerlessness. Slowly,
we come to believe that a Power greater than ourselves can give us the
care we need. Surrender turns to acceptance when we let this Power into
our lives. We examine ourselves and let our God see us as we are.
Having allowed the God of our understanding access to the depths of
ourselves, we accept more of God's care. We ask this Power to relieve
us of our shortcomings and help us amend the wrongs we've done. Then,
we embark on a new way of life, improving our conscious contact and
accepting our Higher Power's continuing care, guidance, and strength.
Surrender, like infatuation, can be
the beginning of a lifelong relationship. To turn surrender into
acceptance, however, we must let the God of our understanding take care
of us each day.
Just for today: My recovery is more
than infatuation. I have surrendered. Today, I will nurture my
conscious contact with my Higher Power and accept that Power's
continuing care for me.
pg. 329
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
We shall not cease from exploration,
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive from where we started
And know the place for the first time.
--T. S. Eliot
We spend much of our lives looking
forward to milestones we hope will mark our passage into wisdom--that
time and place when once and for all we will know all there is to know.
When I am thirteen, I'll be grown up,
we say. When I am sixteen, eighteen, 21, drive a car, graduate, marry,
write a book, own a house, find a job, or retire; then I'll be grown up.
When we seek complete transformation,
mere insight is disappointing. We find we don't know all there is to
know--not at thirteen or 35 or 80. We are still growing up.
The baby, the child, the younger
person each of us was yesterday is still with us; we continue to love,
hate, hurt, grieve, startle, delight, feel.
There is no magic moment of lasting
enlightenment, simply a series of fleeting moments lived one at a time
each day. They bring us home to who we've always been.
What small thing have I learned today?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody
can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take
it. --Malcolm X
It does little good to complain about
our wives or parents or lovers. We only accentuate our role as victims
when we say, "I would be happier if she were different." "If he would
just get off my back, I would act better." We each have a side, which
is loyal to the victim within. Some of us take comfort in acting
helpless and being taken care of; some of us relish the power of being
catered to; some of us wallow in self-pity. These patterns of thought
retard our recovery and put a drag on our relationships. When we decide
that we aren't willing to live this way any longer, we are ready to
assert our independence.
Real emancipation can't come at
someone else's initiative or as a gift. It can only begin from within,
by saying, "I will take my independence." Then we begin to be
responsible men because we own it on the inside.
Today, I will not wait for others to
set me free. I will do what is within my own power to be a free man.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
Life has got to be lived--that's all
there is to it. At 70 I would say the advantage is that you take life
more calmly. You know that, "This, too, shall pass!" --Eleanor Roosevelt
Wisdom comes with age, but also with
maturity. It is knowing that all is well in the midst of a storm. And
as our faith grows, as we trust more that there is a power greater than
ourselves which will see us through, we can relax, secure that a better
time awaits us.
We will come to understand the part a
difficult circumstance has played in our lives. Hindsight makes so much
clear. The broken marriage, the lost job, the loneliness have all
contributed to who we are becoming. The joy of the wisdom we are
acquiring is that hindsight comes more quickly. We can, on occasion,
begin to accept a difficult situation's contribution to our wholeness
while caught in the turmoil.
How far we have come! So seldom do we
stay caught, really trapped, in the fear of misunderstanding. Life must
teach us all we need to know. We can make the way easier by stretching
our trust--by knowing fully that the pain of the present will open the
way to the serenity of the future.
I know that this too shall pass.
You are reading from the book The
Language of Letting Go.
Discipline
Children need discipline to feel
secure; so do adults.
Discipline means understanding there
are logical consequences to our behavior. Discipline means taking
responsibility for our behavior and the consequences.
Discipline means learning to wait for
what we want.
Discipline means being willing to work
for and toward what we want.
Discipline means learning and
practicing new behaviors.
Discipline means being where we need
to be, when we need to be there, despite our feelings.
Discipline is the day to day
performing of tasks, whether these are recovery behaviors or washing
the dishes.
Discipline involves trusting that our
goals will be reached though we cannot see them.
Discipline can be grueling. We may
feel afraid, confused, and uncertain. Later, we will see the purpose.
But this clarity of sight usually does not come during the time of
discipline. We may not even believe we're moving forward.
But we are.
The task at hand during times of
discipline is simple: listen, trust, and obey.
Higher Power, help me learn to
surrender to discipline. Help me be grateful that You care enough about
me to allow these times of discipline and learning in my life. Help me
know that as a result of discipline and learning, something important
will have been worked out in me.
Today I am taking the time that I need
to look at my growth and progress. I celebrate being alive. I celebrate
the good in me. Today I celebrate me. --Ruth Fishel
*****
journey to the heart
You're Not a Victim Anymore
Sometimes people have problems that
make it extremely draining to be around them, problems like alcoholism,
other addictions, other issues. No matter where we go, who we are, how
long we've been working on ourselves, a lot of people have these
problems. That hasn't changed.
What has changed is us.
We've learned our lessons. We can't
control the addictions, the problems of others. They may be the very
problems they came here to solve. We've also learned, and learned well,
that we don't have to stand and absorb the energy from these problems,
energy that isn't ours, that no longer holds lessons or payoffs. We no
longer need the payoffs of the past-- that we're victims and can't take
care of ourselves.
We're free to walk away with
compassion and love.
But most of all, we're free.
*****
more language of letting go
Create a path with heart
"I've reached my career and family
goals," a successful woman in her late thirties said. Now it's time to
start taking care of myself. I'm going to begin by resolving to spend
one hour each week doing something I want to do."
One hour? What a small percentage of
time to devote to doing what we want. Yet, how easy it is to fall into
the trap of denying what we want to do. We may call it God's will for
our lives. We may legitimately be in a situation where our
responsibilities, including our commitments to other people, consume
much of our time. And sometimes we have to do things we don't want to
do to accomplish the things we want.
The trap is when our entire life
begins to shift over to the "should be doing" category. This is what I
should be doing in my career, this is what I should be doing for my
family; this is where I should live; and this is probably how I should
spend my spare time. This is what I should be doing in my religion, or
spirituality; this is what I should be doing with my money, time, and
energy.
Who said?
Take a moment. Examine whose should's
are running your life. Are the things you tell yourself you need to be
doing true expressions of your legitimate goals, responsibilties, and
commitments? Or have you wandered so far away from yourself that your
life is no longer a genuine expression of who you are, and what you
want, in your heart?
How many hours a week do you spend
doing what you want to be doing or doing what you need to be doing to
have what you want-- whether that's sobriety, a family, or the career
that's right for you? How many hours each week are spent doing what you
think you should be doing, whether you need to or not?
Getting the things we want in life
entails responsibility. We need to tend to our liberations-- the career
we want, the family life we want, and our avocations, as well. Tend to
the things we've set free. But don't forget to tend to the liberation
of yourself,too. Maybe the things you're grumbling about doing are part
of doing what you want. If that's the case, stop grumbling and thank
God. Maybe you've forgotten the things you're doing are what you really
want to do. But maybe when you assess your daily life, you'll realize
that some of the things you're doing aren't necessary, aren't what you
want, and won't lead to where you want to go. You're telling yourself
you have to, but you don't.
Start today by spending one hour doing
something you want to do. In time, you may want to increase that to two
hours a day. Eventually, you may get to that place where your should's
intersect with your wants. That's when you've created and are walking a
path with heart.
God, help me find a path with heart;
help me walk the one I'm on with heart.
*****
Echoes of Happiness
Belly Laughs
As children, we laugh hundreds of
times each day, delighted by the newness of living. When we reach
adulthood, however, we tend to not allow ourselves to let go in a good
belly laugh. Inviting laughter back into our lives is simply a matter
of making the conscious decision to laugh. Though most of us are
incited to laugh only when exposed to humor or the unexpected, each of
us is capable of laughing at will. A laugh that comes from the belly
carries with it the same positive effects whether prompted by a funny
joke or consciously willed into existence. When our laughter comes from
the core of our being, it permeates every cell in our physical selves,
beginning in the center and radiating outward, until we are not merely
belly laughing but rather body laughing.
Laughter has been a part of the human
mode of expression since before evolution granted us the art of speech.
Through it, we connected with allies while demonstrating our connection
with people we didn’t know. In the present, laughter allows us to enjoy
positive shared experiences with strangers and loved ones alike. Yet
solitary laughter carries with it its own slew of benefits. An
energetic and enthusiastic bout of whole-body laughter exercises the
muscles, the lungs, and the mind in equal measure, leaving us feeling
relaxed and content. When we laugh heartily at life’s ridiculousness
instead of responding irritably, our focus shifts. Anger, stress,
guilt, and sadness no longer wield any influence over us, and we are
empowered to make light of what we originally feared. Laughter also
opens our hearts, letting love and light in, changing our perspective,
and enabling us to fix our attention on what is positive in our lives.
It is easy to laugh when we feel good,
but it is when the world appears dim that we most need laughter in our
lives. Our laughter then resonates through our hearts, filling the
empty spaces with pure, unadulterated joy. We regain our footing in the
moment and remember that no sorrow is powerful enough to rob us of our
inborn happiness. When we understand that uninhibited laughter is the
food of the soul, nourishing us from within, we know instinctively that
life is worthwhile. Published with permission from Daily OM
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A Day at a Time
Reflection for the Day
What, exactly, is humility? Does it
mean that we are to be submissive, accepting everything that comes our
way, no matter how humiliating? Does it mean surrender to ugliness and
a destructive way of life? To the contrary. The basic ingredient of all
humility is simply a desire to seek and do God's will.
Am I coming to understand that an
attitude of true humility confers dignity and grace on me,
strengthening me to take intelligent spiritual action in solving my
problems?
Today I Pray
May I discover that humility is not
bowing and scraping, kowtowing or letting people walk all over me - all
of which has built-in expectations of some sort of personal reward,
like approval or sympathy. Real humility is awareness of the vast love
and unending might of God. It is the perspective that tells me how I,
as a human being, relate to that Divine Power.
Today I Will Remember
Humility is awareness of God.
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One More Day
Pray that your loneliness may spur
you into finding something to live for, great enough to die for.
– Dag Hammarskjold
The first time we go through a festive
season without our spouse or a dear friend or beloved child, we may
wonder if we can get through it. Pity overwhelms us as we think,.
Surely no one has felt as bad as I do right now. Pain increases our
loneliness, and we feel crushed by the holiday preparations the rest of
the world seems to be making.
We can struggle out of this
self-imposed misery by using the strategies that have helped us cope
with our chronic illnesses. Patience tells us that this too shall pass.
Selflessness shows us others who need compassion more than we do.
Spiritually reminds us that our pain and sadness can be entrusted to
the loving care of our Higher Power.
I know the holidays can be difficult,
and if I take them one day at a time. I will do just fine.
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Food For Thought
Asking Directions
When we do not know which way to turn, let us not be too proud to ask
for directions. We have found our way to a program, which can guide us
out of the confusion of compulsive overeating into an ordered,
satisfying way of life. In OA, there are people who can give us the
directions we need, if we will ask for help.
There is much that we can do on our own thoroughly studying the
literature, planning our three meals a day, establishing firm contact
with our Higher Power. When we hit a snag, however, or are unsure of
how to handle a difficult situation, we need to promptly seek the
assistance our group provides. In order to receive help, we usually
need to ask for it.
The illusion that we knew how to manage our lives and did not have to
follow anyone else's directions was one of the causes of our
difficulties with food and with life in general. Admitting that by
ourselves we are powerless enables us to ask for the directions we need.
I ask for Your directions. Lord.
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One Day At A Time
Humor
Don't take yourself too damned
seriously.
Rule #62, AA's Twelve Steps and Twelve
Traditions
In the years of my existence, before I
got into recovery, I would run from one self-important crisis to
another. Everything was so important, so heavy! What laughter there was
ended up directed derisively at others. I treated my life with
self-importance and pomposity.
It took sitting in the rooms, day
after day and night after night, listening to how recovering people
were able to laugh at themselves. Oh, they were deadly serious when it
came to working the Steps and the traditions. After all, if not for
them, they'd be dead or crazy. But as they would share things where
they had shown the heavy-does-it attitude, they would see the folly of
their ways and start a good belly laugh that would cascade through the
room and have us all wiping our eyes.
As I work my program, I realize that
there are some things that need more prayer and meditation than others.
Then there are those things in my life that, under the light of my
recovery, are just plain flat-out silly. My Higher Power gives me the
ability to cry and grieve where appropriate. My Higher Power also has
taught me that laughter, indeed, is often the best medicine.
One day at a time ....
I learn that healthy laughter is just
as important to my recovery as are the healthy tears.
~ Mark Y.
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
Follow the dictates of a Higher Power
and you will presently live in a new and wonderful world, no matter
what your present circumstances! - Pg. 100 - Working With Others
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Another day of sobriety begins. In our
new recovery, we continue to welcome with open arms, those now newer
than us. Today we DO one kind thing for someone: get them a cup of
coffee, escort a newcomer to a chair, empty an ashtray after a meeting.
God, as I understand You, show me each
day some kind thing I can DO for someone else.
Inner Hearing, Inner Sight
Today, I will trust my own heart. The
clear message that whispers within me has more to tell me than a
thousand voices. I have a guide within me who knows what is best for
me. There is a part of me that sees the whole picture and knows how it
all fits together. My inner voice may come in the form of a strong
sense, a pull from within, a gut feeling or a quiet knowing. However my
inner voice comes to me, I will learn to pay attention. In my heart I
know what is going on. Though I am conditioned by the world to look
constantly outside myself for meaning, today I recognize that it is
deeply important for me to hear what I am saying from within.
I will trust my inner voice.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
When you're being nice, it's OK to
over do it. During the HALT moments, when you're too hungry, angry,
lonely, and tired, it's not.
When I go too far, it is seldom in the
right direction.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
Worry gives a small thing a big shadow.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I am taking the time I need to
look at my growth and progress. I celebrate being alive. I celebrate
the good in me. Today I celebrate me.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
You don't have to want what we have -
You just have to not want what you have. - Eddie C.
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AA Thought for the Day
November 11
Seduction
Although alcohol is not a part of my
life and I no longer have the compulsion to drink,
it can still occur to me what a good
drink tastes like and what it can do for me,
from my stand-at-attention alcoholic
taste buds right down to my stretched out tingling toes.
As my sponsor used to point out, such
thoughts are like red flags, telling me that something is not right,
that I am stretched beyond my sober
limit. It's time to get back to basic AA and see what needs changing.
That special relationship with alcohol
will always be there, waiting to seduce me again.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 396-397
Thought to Ponder . . .
Alcohol -- cunning, baffling, powerful!
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Always Aware.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Amends
"Though the variations were many,
my main theme was always 'How godawful
I am!'
Just as I often exaggerated my modest
attainments by pride,
so I exaggerated my defects through
guilt.
I would race about, confessing all
(and a great deal more)
to whoever would listen.
Believe it or not, I took this
widespread exposure
of my sins to be great humility on my
part,
and considered it a great spiritual
asset and consolation!
But later on I realized at depth that
the great harms I had done others were
not truly regretted.
These episodes were merely the basis
for
storytelling and exhibitionism."
Bill W., AAGrapevine, June 1961
c. 1967AAWS, As Bill Sees It, p. 311
Thought to Consider . . .
Don't mess up an amends with an excuse.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
W H O M E ? =
Willingness, Honesty, Open-mindedness,
Must Exist
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Aim Toward Perfection
Step Six: Were entirely ready to have
God remove all these defects of character
Let's dispose of what appears to be a
hazardous open end we have left. It is suggested that we ought to
become entirely willing to aim toward perfection. We note that some
delay, however, might be pardoned. That word, in the mind of a
rationalizing alcoholic, could certainly be given a long term meaning.
He could say, "How very easy! Sure, I'll head toward perfection, but
I'm certainly not going to hurry any. Maybe I can postpone dealing with
some of my problems indefinitely." Of course, this won't do. Such a
bluffing of oneself will have to go the way of many another pleasant
rationalization. At the very least, we shall have to come to grips with
some of our worst character defects and take action toward their
removal as quickly as we can.
1981, AAWS, Inc., Twelve Steps and
Twelve Traditions, page 69
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"We can't grow without giving
ourselves space for silence and the voice within."
Greenwich Village, N.Y., December 1997
"Oh God, You Again?"
I Am Responsible: The Hand of AA
~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N' Twelve
Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"If we are sorry for what we have
done, and have the honest desire to
let God take us to better things, we
believe we will be forgiven and
will have learned our lesson. If we
are not sorry, and our conduct
continues to harm others, we are quite
sure to drink. We are not
theorizing. These are facts out of our
experience."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
How It Works, pg. 70~
We do not like to pronounce any
individual as alcoholic, but you can
quickly diagnose yourself, Step over
to the nearest barroom and try
some controlled drinking. Try to drink
and stop abruptly. Try it
more than once. It will not take long
for you to decide, if you are
honest with yourself about it. It may
be worth a bad case of jitters
if you get a full knowledge of your
condition.
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
More About Alcoholism, pg. 31~
We alcoholics see that we must work
together and hang together, else most of us will finally die alone.
-Alcoholics Anonymous p.561
Surrounded by so many A.A. friends,
these so-called loners tell us they no longer feel alone.
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
p.120
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
If a mere code of morals or a better
philosophy of life were sufficient to overcome alcoholism, many of us
would have recovered long ago. But we found that such codes and
philosophies did not save us, no matter how much we tried. We could
wish to be moral, we could wish to be philosophically comforted, in
fact, we could will these things with all our might, but the power
needed for change wasn't there. Our human resources, as marshaled by
the will, were not sufficient; they failed utterly.
Lack of power: That was our dilemma.
We had to find a power by which we could live - and it had to be a
Power greater than ourselves.
Prayer for the Day: Your Gift - Thank You, Higher Power, for
Your gift of recovery; that through this Program I have come to know
myself better than ever before, and that I have come to know others
better as well. I pray that I may be eternally grateful for this, Your
blessing.