SUIT UP AND
SHOW UP
In A.A. we aim not only for sobriety - we try again
to become citizens of the world that we rejected, and
of the world that once rejected us. This is the
ultimate demonstration toward which Twelfth Step work
is the first but not the final step.
AS BILL SEES IT, p. 21
The old line says, "Suit up and show up." That action
is so important that I like to think of it as my motto.
I can choose each day to suit up and show up, or not.
Showing up at meetings starts me toward feeling a part
of that meeting, I can talk with newcomers, and I can
share my experience; that's what credibility, honesty,
and courtesy really are. Suiting up and showing up are
the concrete actions I take in my ongoing return to
normal living.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
A.A. may be human in its organization, but it is divine
in its purpose. The purpose is to point me toward God and
the good life. My feet have been set upon the right path.
I feel it in the depths of my being. I am going in the
right direction. The future can be safely left to God.
Whatever the future holds, it cannot be too much for me
to bear. I have the Divine Power with me, to carry me
through everything that may happen. Am I pointed toward
God and the good life?
Meditation For The Day
Although unseen, the Lord is always near to those who
believe in Him and trust Him and depend on Him for the
strength to meet the challenges of life. Although veiled
from mortal sight, the Higher Power is always available to
us whenever we humbly ask for it. The feeling that God is
with us should not depend on any passing mood of ours, but
we should try to be always conscious of His power and love
in the background of our lives.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that today I may feel that God is not too far away
to depend on for help. I pray that I may feel confident of
His readiness to give me the power that I need.
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As Bill Sees It
Alone No More, p.252
Alcoholism was a lonely business, even though we were surrounded
by people who loved us. But when our self-will had driven
everybody away and our isolation became complete, we commenced
to play the big shot in cheap barrooms. Failing even in this, we
had to fare forth alone on the street to depend upon the charity of
passers-by.
We were trying to find emotional security either by dominating or by
being dependent upon others. Even when our fortunes had not totally
ebbed, we nevertheless found ourselves alone in the world. We still
vainly tried to be secure by some unhealthy sort of domination or
dependence.
For those of us who were like that, A.A. has a very special meaning. In
this Fellowship we begin to learn right relations with people who
understand us; we don't have to be alone any more.
12 & 12, pp. 116-117
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Walk In Dry Places
Rehearing Rejection
Fortitude
The possibility of rejection exists with almost everything we do, if we
are free to choose. We might not like rejection, but we want the same
freedom to reject others. As freely choosing people, we need to turn
down ideas or proposals we don't like.
One thing we should never do, however, is rehearse rejections before
they occur. If we do this, we may give up even before we have attempted
what we hope to accomplish. In effect, we will be killing our hopes
even before others have a chance to review them. This is always a
ticket to failure.
Rejection is really a feedback mechanism that reports information we
ought to have. It tells us either to change our approach or to seek
acceptance elsewhere. It is not evidence that we're completely
unacceptable.
Our problem with any single rejection may be that it causes us to
recall all the rejections we ever had. We can learn to see any
rejection as a normal event that can be beneficial if we accept it
properly.
I'll not let any fear or visualization of rejection keep me from
actions I ought to take today. I am an acceptable person, and there is
a place for what I have to offer.
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Each Day a New Beginning
The human heart dares not stay away too long from that which hurt it
most. There is a return journey to anguish that few of us are released
from making. --Lillian Smith
As the sore tooth draws our tongue, so do rejections, affronts, painful
criticisms, both past and present draw our minds. We court self-pity,
both loving and hating it. But we can change this pattern. First we
must decide we are ready to do so. The program tells us we must become
"entirely ready." And then we must ask to have this shortcoming removed.
The desire to dwell on the injustices of our lives becomes habitual. It
takes hours of our time. It influences our perceptions of all other
experiences. We have to be willing to replace that time-consuming
activity with one that's good and healthy.
We must be prepared for all of life to change. Our overriding self-pity
has so tarnished our perceptions that we may never have sensed all the
good that life daily offers. How often we see the glass as half-empty
rather than half-full!
A new set of experiences awaits me today. And I can perceive them
unfettered by the memories of the painful past. Self-pity need not cage
me, today.
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Keep It Simple
If You Walk With Lame Men You'll soon Limp Yourself. Seaman McManus
Before recovery, we kept company with people who were as sick as us, or
worse. We got angry and made fun of people who were trying to improve
their lives. They scared us. They were like mirrors that reflected how
spiritually lost we were becoming. Now we walk in the crowd we avoided.
Now we have values. We have spiritual beliefs. Living up to these
values and beliefs can be hard. We need to be around people who live by
their values. In recovery, we learn that we need others. Remember, the
first word in Step One is we. We need good people in our lives. We need
friends who will not tell us what we want to hear, but what we are
doing wrong.
Prayer for the Day: Sometimes I act like I need no one. Help me pick my
friends wisely, for my life is at stake.
Action for the Day: Today, I'll pick one friend, and we'll talk about
how we can better help each other.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
BILL'S STORY
My wife and I abandoned ourselves with enthusiasm to the idea of
helping other alcoholics to a solution of their problems. It was
fortunate, for my old business associates remained skeptical for a year
and a half, during which I found little work. I was not to well at the
time, and was plagued by waves of self-pity and resentment. This
sometimes nearly drove me back to drink, but I soon found that when all
other measures failed, work with another alcoholic would save the day.
Many times I have gone to my old hospital in despair. On talking to a
man there, I would be amazingly lifted up and set on my feet. It is a
design for living that works in rough going.
p. 15
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
Because I'm An
Alcoholic
This drinker finally found the answer to her nagging question,
"Why?"
My resolution had endured three days and I protested, "I'm not an
alcoholic!" That was my very last denial.
"Say it the other way," he suggested. "I am an alcoholic." It came out
in a whisper, but it sounded right. I've said it a thousand times since
then, and with gratitude. What I was most afraid to admit that evening
was what would set me free.
p. 343
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Twelve Steps and Twelve
Traditions
Step
Four - "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves."
By now the newcomer has probably arrived at the following conclusions:
that his character defects, representing instincts gone astray, have
been the primary cause of his drinking and his failure at life; that
unless he is now willing to work hard at the elimination of the worst
of these defects, both sobriety and peace of mind will still elude him;
that all the faulty foundation of his life will have to be torn out and
built anew on bedrock. Now willing to commence the search for his own
defects, he will ask, "Just how do I go about this? How do I take
inventory of myself?"
p. 50
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"When it is dark enough, you can see the stars."
--Charles A. Beard
"Learn from the negative as well as the positive, from the failures as
well as the
successes."
--Jim Rohn
"Write it on your heart that every day is the best day of the year."
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
"If you want to be listened to, you should put in time listening."
--Marge Piercy
"In every crisis there is a message. Crises are nature's way of forcing
change--breaking
down old structures, shaking loose negative habits so that something
new and better can take
their place."
--Susan Taylor
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
HUMOR
"Humor is an affirmation of
dignity, a declaration of man's
superiority to all that befalls
him."
-- Romain Gary
Today I laugh at myself. Today I need to laugh at myself in order to
stay sane. Today
I choose not to take myself too seriously.
When I tell jokes about the alcoholic, I am not belittling the person.
I am making fun of
the disease that nearly killed me. For me to live with the disease, I
need to be able to
laugh at the disease in this way I stop it from having power in my life.
Also I catch something of the symptoms of the disease in the jokes: the
grandiosity,
arrogance, manipulation, insanity, ego, selfishness and exaggeration.
The joke allows
me to face reality with a smile.
O God, thank You for the healing gift of humor.
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"For you are my lamp, O Lord; the Lord shall enlighten my darkness."
II Samuel 22:29
"Seek the Lord and His strength; seek His face evermore!"
1 Chronicles 16:11
See how great a love the Father has bestowed upon us, that we should be
called
children of God.
1 John 3:1
"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in
him, so that you
may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit."
Romans 15:13
"Then you will know that I am the LORD; those who hope in me will not be
disappointed."
Isaiah 49:23
"Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God; everyone
who loves is
born of God and knows God."
1 John 4:7
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Daily Inspiration
Do not run ahead of the Lord, but walk with Him, pray for His guidance
and listen to His answers. Lord, let me put Your will first in my life.
Do what is right and good in the eyes of the Lord and receive the
fullness of His blessings. Lord, I thank You for the gifts that I have
received and ask forgiveness for all that I have done wrong.
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NA Just For Today
Depression
"We are no longer fighting fear anger
guilt, self-pity, or depression."
Basic Text pg. 26
As addicts, many of us experience
depression from time to time. When we feel depressed, we may be tempted
to isolate ourselves. However, if we do this, our depression may turn
to despair. We can't afford to let depression lead us back to using.
Instead, we try to go about the
routine of our lives. We make meeting attendance and contact with our
sponsor top priorities. Sharing with others about our feelings may let
us know we aren't the only ones who have been depressed in recovery.
Working with a newcomer can work wonders for our own state of mind.
And, most importantly, prayer and meditation can help us tap the power
we need to survive depression.
We practice acceptance and remember
that feelings like depression will unquestionably pass in time. Rather
than struggle with our feelings, we accept them and ask for the
strength to walk through them.
Just for today: I accept that my
feelings of depression won't last forever. I will talk openly about my
feelings with my sponsor or another person who understands.
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
I'll walk where my own nature would be
leading--It vexes me to choose another guide. . . . --Emily Bronte
We journey across many intersections
in our lives. Some may point in two directions, while others lead off
in several. Our choice of direction can be difficult, especially when
our friends choose a road we know to be dangerous. When this happens,
we can choose to go our own way without them. If they begin to tease
and taunt us about our decisions, may we remember that they are as
scared as we were about their friends' reaction. We are not, after all,
living for someone else. If we would be leaders, we can be assured that
true leadership comes from following our own directions with confidence
that it's right for us, not from fear of losing others' company.
We can let others live their own lives
without us, if their direction is not for us. We can walk away with
pride, satisfied in the knowledge that we refused to allow other
people's fears change our decisions.
How have I gone my own way recently?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
He is a man whom it is impossible to
please, because he is never pleased with himself. --Goethe
Many of us grew up trying to please
our fathers and feeling we never got the approval we needed. Perhaps
our fathers couldn't feel pleased with themselves. Now it is time to
take stock of ourselves and ask whether we are perpetuating the pattern
in our own lives. If we still feel unhappy with ourselves, we may never
be satisfied with anyone else either. Spouses, children, bosses, even
the parking lot attendant may receive the brunt of our
self-disapproval. We don't totally change these patterns in an instant.
We change them one day at a time.
Today, we have before us a small piece
of the future. We can begin by treating ourselves decently. Maybe we
can't feel a strong sense of personal approval yet, but we can give
ourselves some basic respect. We can start by remembering we have the
love of God. We can affirm at least one positive thing about ourselves.
After some positive reflection, we will have more to give to others.
Today, I will give myself approval for
at least one thing.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
The human heart dares not stay away
too long from that which hurt it most. There is a return journey to
anguish that few of us are released from making. --Lillian Smith
As the sore tooth draws our tongue, so
do rejections, affronts, painful criticisms, both past and present draw
our minds. We court self-pity, both loving and hating it. But we can
change this pattern. First we must decide we are ready to do so. The
program tells us we must become "entirely ready." And then we must ask
to have this shortcoming removed.
The desire to dwell on the injustices
of our lives becomes habitual. It takes hours of our time. It
influences our perceptions of all other experiences. We have to be
willing to replace that time-consuming activity with one that's good
and healthy.
We must be prepared for all of life to
change. Our overriding self-pity has so tarnished our perceptions that
we may never have sensed all the good that life daily offers. How often
we see the glass as half-empty rather than half-full!
A new set of experiences awaits me
today. And I can perceive them unfettered by the memories of the
painful past. Self-pity need not cage me, today.
You are reading from the book The
Language Of Letting Go.
Panic
Don't panic!
If panic strikes, we do not have to
allow it to control our behaviors. Behaviors controlled by panic tend
to be self-defeating. No matter what the situation or circumstance,
panic is usually not a good foundation. No matter what the situation or
circumstance, we usually have at least a moment to breathe deeply and
restore our serenity and peace.
We don't have to do more than we can
reasonably do - ever! We don't have to do something we absolutely
cannot do or cannot learn to do!
This program, this healthy way of life
we are seeking, is built on a foundation of peace and quiet confidence
- in ourselves, in our Higher Power, in the recovery process.
Do not panic. That takes us away from
the path. Relax. Breathe deeply. Let peace flow through our body and
mind. From this base, our Source shall supply the necessary resources.
Today, I will treat panic as a
separate issue that needs immediate attention. I will refuse to allow
panicky thoughts and feelings to motivate me. Instead, I will let peace
and trust motivate my feelings, thoughts, and behaviors.
Today I am slowing down my pace. I do
not have to accomplish the entire world in this day. It is one day.
Today I have time to stop and smell the flowers. --Ruth Fishel
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Journey To The Heart
Heal Yourself
Infuse healing energy into yourself,
into your being. For too long, we’ve been attracted to things that
drain us, exhausting our body, depleting our soul. That time has passed.
The world is a spa, a nature retreat,
a wealth of healing resources. Pour Epsom salts and essential oils into
your bath. Sit quietly by a tree or in a garden. Walk around the block
in your neighborhood. Spend an afternoon in a nearby park or a day at
the lake or beach. Throw stones into the river while you sit on the
bank contemplating the eternal stream of life. Allow beautiful music to
quietly imbue the stillness with healing instead of the pounding of
your mind. Light a fire and awaken the darkened hearth to glowing
flames and soothing warmth.
Rise from your bed early in the
morning. Open the curtains. Watch the sunrise. Feel the sunrise. Let it
infuse you with its message. Let it energize you, invigorate you, fill
you with life. At day’s end return to the window. Or step outside.
Watch the sunset. Absorb its changing colors spreading out beyond the
horizon. Feel how it changes the earth and all it touches.
Pet a puppy, stroke a piece of velvet,
listen to a symphony. If you can’t slow down long enough to absorb the
energy the first time, do it a second and a third. Absorb revitalizing
energy until you can hear your voice, hear your heart tell you what
would feel good, what would bring peace, what would bring stillness and
joy. Before long, doing what brings healing and joy will become as
natural as it used to be to do what drains, tires, depletes, and
exhausts.
It isn’t enough to draw near to the
light. Absorb it into you. Let it charge you and change you with its
energy and its power. Healing is all around you. Wherever you are,
whatever your resources, healing, energy, and joy are there.
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More Language Of Letting Go
Risk being alive
“I know nothing is going to lasr
forever,” Charlie said. “But the key to life and being happy is acting
as though it is.”
Many of us have had our illusions
about security and permanency shattered. The longer we’re alive, the
more it gets beat into us: nothing is forever. We can plan on many
things, but the only thing we can plan on with any certainty is change.
At some time in our lives, we may have
convinced ourselves otherwise. We surrendered ourselves to that job,
that project, or that relationship with all our hearts, only to have it
crash to an end.
Some of us may have decided, after
enough cycles of beginnings, middles, and endings, that the way to deal
with this was never to fully give our hearts to any person or
circumstance, never to let ourselves fully be present and enjoy the
moment.
If I don’t get in completely, I won’t
get hurt when it ends, we think. Maybe. But you won’t experience the
pleasure and joy, the rich, sweet full taste of those moments, either.
Okay, so you’re wiser now. You know
nothing lasts forever. You know the moment something happens, the
ending has already been written,too. People are born. They die. A job
or project begins. Then it ends. But there’s an entire luscious middle
waiting, inviting you to jump in fully and see how sweet life can be.
Besides, when the ending does come, you’ll also have been given enough
wisdom, courage, and grace to deal with that,too.
What are you waiting for?
Go ahead. Stop holding back. Jump in.
Live your life.
God, give me enough faith and a well
of letting go so I can live each moment fully.
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Useful Transformation
Make Change Work for You by Madisyn
Taylor
When we experience change in our life
we can control our response and reaction to the changes that are
happening.
Transformation is a universal constant
that affects our lives from the moment we are born until we leave
earthly existence behind. At the root of all growth, we find change.
Occasionally, change and the circumstances leading up to it are a
source of extraordinary joy, but more often than not they provoke
feelings of discomfort, fear, or pain. Though many changes are
unavoidable, we should not believe that we are subject to the whims of
an unpredictable universe. It is our response to those circumstances
that will dictate the nature of our experiences. At the heart of every
transformation, no matter how chaotic, there is substance. When we no
longer resist change and instead regard it as an opportunity to grow,
we find that we are far from helpless in the face of it.
Our role as masters of our own
destinies is cemented when we choose to make change work in our favor.
Yet before we can truly internalize this power, we must accept that we
cannot hide from the changes taking place all around us. Existence as
we know it will come to an end at one or more points in our lives,
making way for some new and perhaps unexpected mode of being. This
transformation will take place whether or not we want it to, and so it
is up to us to decide whether we will open our eyes to the blessings
hidden amidst disorder or close ourselves off from opportunities hiding
behind obstacles.
To make change work for you, look
constructively at your situation and ask yourself how you can benefit
from the transformation that has taken place. As threatening as change
can seem, it is often a sign that a new era of your life has begun. If
you reevaluate your plans and goals in the days or weeks following a
major change, you will discover that you can adapt your ambition to the
circumstances before you and even capitalize on these changes.
Optimism, enthusiasm, and flexibility will aid you greatly here, as
there is nothing to be gained by dwelling on what might have been.
Change can hurt in the short term but, if you are willing to embrace it
proactively, its lasting impact will nearly always be physically,
spiritually, and intellectually transformative. Published with
permission from Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
The Program, for me, is not a place
nor a philosophy, but a highway to freedom. The highway leads me toward
the goal of a “spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps.” The
highway doesn’t get me to the goal as quickly as I some wish, but I try
to remember that God and I work from different timetables. But the goal
is there, and I know that the Twelve Steps will help me reach it. Have
I come to the realization that I — and anyone — can now do what I had
always thought impossible?
Today I Pray
As I live The Program, may I realize
more and more that it is a means to an end rather than an end in
itself. May I keep in mind that the mind of spirituality it calls for
is never complete, but is the essence of change and growth, a drawing
nearer to an ideal state. May I be wary of setting time-oriented goals
for myself to measure my spiritual progress.
Today I Will Remember
Timetables are human inventions.
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One More Day
Sadness flies away on the wings of
time.
– Jean De La Fontaine
When we’re sad, it’s hard to believe
that time will heal all our wounds. An old family-practice doctor used
to call it the TOT Treatment — Tincture of Time.
Our sadness may be due to a change in
living patterns or even in the weather. It might be due to loss of a
loved one, of good health, or even of a cherished object. And our grief
takes time.
Whatever the reason for our sadness,
after a self-imposed period of time alone, we begin to venture out once
again into our world. We work our way, ever so slowly, back into some
pattern of normalcy. TOT has done it’s work once again. Laughter
surfaces, and we know we have put enough time and space between us and
our sadness. We are whole again.
A time of sadness is natural, just as
natural as the rediscovered joy that follows it.
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Food For Thought
Minimizing Temptation
There are things we can do to minimize the temptations that are around
us. We are constantly exposed to food advertisements if we watch
television and read magazines. Most of us need to spend a certain
amount of time purchasing and preparing food. Social gatherings usually
involve refreshments. All of this exposure to food can be uncomfortable
for compulsive overeaters if we do not find ways to minimize it.
It is a good idea to skip the recipe sections in the magazines we read.
Unnecessary thinking about food only intensifies our obsession. Moving
away from the television set during a food commercial is a way to
minimize that kind of temptation. Grocery shopping is expedited by not
considering any items other than those on a prepared list and by
spending as little time as possible in the grocery store. Meal
preparation can be simplified so that less rather than more time is
spent in the kitchen. At parties, we can concentrate on people and
conversation instead of food.
The best way to handle temptation is by remembering that we are
compulsive overeaters and that nothing is worth activating our disease.
Guide us as we avoid temptation.
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One Day At A Time
~MEDITATION~
God is the mirror of silence
in which all creation is reflected.
Paramahansa Yogananda
The disease of compulsive overeating
is a devious one. It tries to tell me that I'm not a worthwhile person.
It tries to tell me that I'm never going to recover, so I may as well
eat. The disease tries to make me feel like I'm the lowest of the low.
Fortunately, there are many things in
this recovery program that counteract the disease. I can use a food
plan to make sure I don't eat what I'm not supposed to eat. I can read
program literature to show me how to live triumphantly. I can work the
Steps, do service, make outreach calls; there's so much I can do which
can bring recovery from compulsive overeating.
Another of the things I can do to
counteract my disease is meditation. When I meditate, I come into
conscious contact with my Higher Power. Meditation helps me to see that
I am a worthwhile person, that God loves me just as I am. When I
meditate I gain insights into the program literature I'm reading, I
learn the things I need to do to further my recovery. I also learn the
things that stifle my growth, so I can stop doing them. Meditation is
very important to my recovery program.
One Day at a Time . . .
I remember the importance of
meditation, and I meditate every day.
Jeff
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
Here is the fellow who has been
puzzling you, especially in his lack of control. He does absurd,
incredible, tragic things while drinking. He is a real Dr. Jekyll and
Mr. Hyde. He is seldom mildly drunk. His disposition while drinking
resembles his normal nature but little. He may be one of the finest
fellows in the world. Yet let him drink for a day, and he frequently
becomes disgustingly, and even dangerously anti-social. He has a
positive genius for getting tight at exactly the wrong moment,
particularly when some important decision must be made or engagement
kept. He is often perfectly sensible and well balanced concerning
everything except liquor, but in that respect he is incredibly
dishonest and selfish. He often possesses special abilities, skills,
and aptitudes, and has a promising career ahead of him. He uses his
gifts to build up a bright outlook for his family and himself, and then
pulls the structure down on his head by a senseless series of sprees. -
Pg. 21 - There Is A Solution
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Our 12 steps are dedicated primarily
to the cultivation of principle in the befuddled addict's mind.
Spiritual soundness leads to mental soundness. Even though we don't
understand the process of our program to stop our cravings, we must
trust that IT WORKS.
I look at those around me, at their
success and know that this process WORKS even if it isn't clear how.
Self Importance
I will get my mind off of the
treadmill. There is more to life than my worries and obsessions. Just
for today I won't give every little thing more importance than it
deserves. In the scheme of things, all of my petty annoyances aren't
all that important. I don't have to take them so seriously that they
disturb my inner peace. When I am constantly preoccupies with all
that's wrong, I forget to remember all that's right. Self importance is
different from valuing myself. Self importance gets me tied up in
mental knots, valuing myself is nourishing and loving.
I will get out of my own way today
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
The reason people blame other people
is because there is only one alternative.
I do not point a finger at another
because there are always three pointing back at me.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
When you look in the mirror, you are
looking at the problem, but, remember, you are also looking at the
solution.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I am slowing down my pace. I do
not have to accomplish the entire world in this day. It is one day.
Today I have time to stop and smell the flowers.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
When in deep water; become a diver. -
Unknown origin.
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AA Thought for the Day
December 28
The Circle and Triangle
Above us, at the International
Convention in St. Louis in 1955, floated a banner
on which was inscribed the then new
symbol for AA, a circle enclosing a triangle.
The circle stands for the whole world
of AA, and the triangle stands for AA's Three Legacies: Recovery,
Unity, and
Service.
It is perhaps no accident that priests
and seers of antiquity regarded this symbol as a means of warding off
spirits of
evil.
- As Bill Sees It, p. 307
Thought to Ponder . . .
Within our wonderful new world, we
have found freedom from our fatal obsession.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A's - R - U S = Alcoholics Anonymous
Recovery, Unity, Service.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Keynotes
We can try to stop making unreasonable
demands
upon those we love.
We can show kindness where we had
shown none.
With those we dislike we can begin to
practice
justice and courtesy,
perhaps going out of our way to
understand and help them.
Whenever we fail any of these people,
we can promptly admit it -- to
ourselves always,
and to them also, when the admission
would be helpful.
Courtesy, kindness, justice, and love
are the keynotes by which we may come
into harmony
with practically anybody.
c. 1952AAWS, Twelve Steps and Twelve
Traditions, p. 93
Thought to Consider . . .
Let us always love the best in others
--
and never fear their worst.
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
H E L P = Hope, Encouragement, Love,
Patience
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Apology
>From "Our Side of the Street":
I made amends to my dad soon after I
quit drinking. My words fell on deaf ears since I had blamed him for my
troubles. Several months later I made amends to my dad again. This time
I wrote a letter in which I did not blame him or mention his faults. It
worked, and at last I understood! My side of the street is all that I'm
responsible for and thanks to God and A.A. it's clean for today."
1990 AAWS, Inc.; Daily Reflections,
pg. 259
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"It feels good to be trusted."
Nipawin, Saskatchewan, November 2003
"Nobody's Fault but Mine"
Beginner's Book: Getting and Staying
Sober
~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N' Twelve
Quotes of the Day ^*~*~*~*~*
"Sometimes we hear an alcoholic say
that the only thing he needs to
do is to keep sober. Certainly he must
keep sober, for there will be
no home if he doesn't. But he is yet a
long way from making good to
the wife or parents whom for years he
has so shockingly treated."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
Into Action, pg. 82~
"Our hope is that when this chip of a
book is launched on the world
tide of alcoholism, defeated drinkers
will seize upon it, to follow
its suggestions. Many, we are sure,
will rise to their feet and march
on. They will approach still other
sick ones and fellowships of
Alcoholics Anonymous may spring up in
each city and hamlet, havens
for those who must find a way out."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, A
Vision For You, Page 153~
These fears are the termites that
ceaselessly devour the foundations of whatever sort of life we try to
build.
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
p.49
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
It is possible for us to use the
alleged dishonesty of other people as a plausible excuse for not
meeting our own obligations.
Once, some prejudiced friends exhorted
me never to go back to Wall Street. They were sure that the rampant
materialism and double-dealing down there would stunt my spiritual
growth. Because this sounded so high-minded, I continued to stay away
from the only business that I knew.
When, finally, my household went
broke, I realized I hadn't been able to face the prospect of going back
to work. So I returned to Wall Street, and I have ever since been glad
that I did. I needed to rediscover that there are many fine people in
New York's financial district. Then, too, I needed the experience of
staying sober in the very surroundings where alcohol had cut me down.
A Wall Street business trip to Akron,
Ohio, first brought me face to face with Dr. Bob. So the birth of A.A.
hinged on my effort to meet my bread-and-butter responsibilities.
Prayer for the Day: God I feel your peace as it moves gently
through my soul. I feel a sense of serenity now as I let go of all
cares and challenges. All tension is released. I am filled with inner
peace that overflows into everything I do. Throughout this day I will
be unfolding in your loving care.