A PRICELESS
REWARD
. . . . work with other alcoholics. . . . It works when
other activities fail.
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 89
"Life will take on a new meaning," as the Big Book says
(p. 89) This promise has helped me to avoid self-seeking
and self-pity. To watch others grow in this wonderful
program, to see them improve the quality of their lives,
is a priceless reward for my effort to help others.
Self-examination is yet another reward for an ongoing
recovery, as are serenity, peace and contentment. The
energy derived from seeing others on a successful path,
of sharing with them the joys of the journey, gives to
my life a new meaning.
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
A.A. Thought For The Day
The way of faith is of course not confined to A.A. It is
the way for everybody who wants to really live. But many
people can go through life without much of it. Many are
doing so, to their own sorrow. The world is full of lack
of faith. Many people have lost confidence in any meaning
in the universe. Many are wondering if it has any meaning
at all. Many are at loose ends. Life has no goal for many.
They are strangers in the land. They are not at home. But
for us in A.A. the way of faith is the way of life. We
have proved by our past lives that we could not live
without it. Do I think I could live happily without faith?
Meditation For The Day
"He maketh His sun rise on the evil and the good, and sends
the rain on the just and the unjust." God does not interfere with
the working of natural laws. The laws of nature are
unchangeable, otherwise we could not depend on them. As far
as natural laws are concerned, God makes no distinction
between good and bad people. Sickness or death may strike
anywhere. But spiritual laws are also made to be obeyed. On
our choice of good or evil depends whether we go upward to
true success and victory in life or downward to loss and
defeat.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may choose today the way of the spiritual life.
I pray that I may live today with faith and hope and love.
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As Bill Sees It
WHEN
CONFLICTS MOUNT, p. 289
Sometimes I would be forced to look at situations where I was
doing badly. Right away, the search for excuses would become
frantic.
"These," I would exclaim, "are really a good man's faults." When
that pet gadget broke apart, I would think, "Well, if those people
would only treat me right, I wouldn't have to behave the way I
do." Next was this: "God well knows that I do have awful
compulsions. I just can't get over this one. So He will have to
release me." At last came the time when I would shout, "This, I
positively will not do! I won't even try."
Of course, my conflicts went right on mounting, because I was
simply loaded with excuses, refusals, and outright rebellion.
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Walk In Dry Places
Looking
For
Protectors
Self-Reliance Many of us managed to survive while drinking by finding
protectors we could lean on. Sometimes the protector wasn't a very
strong person---only someone who was willing to support us in some way.
A protector could even be a person who gave us flattery or
companionship when we wanted it.
Such alliances are usually unhealthy and have no lasting place in
society. We cannot depend on protectors who will eventually betray us
or fail us through no fault of their own.
In sobriety, we must grow into a satisfactory form of self-reliance.
This is not reliance on our own resources; rather, it is really a way
of relying on our Higher Power, the group, our sponsors, and the higher
understanding we've found in the program. If we're still looking for
people willing to protect us, we need more growth in sobriety.
I've been given tools for understanding myself and my life. I can use
those tools effectively as I go through the day.
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Keep It Simple
The
rose
and
the
thorn,
and
sorrow and gladness are linked together.
--Saadi.
When we were drinking and drugging, we didn't have to deal much with
feelings. We turned them off. Then, when we let go of the alcohol and
other drugs, we started to come back to life. Now--we have feelings
again! But, even now, in recovery, we're scared of too much happiness.
It's true--we don't want sadness and pain at all. Yet, feelings--the
good
and the bad--keep on coming.
And we have to handle them. We are learning to handle our feelings.
We're
getting strong enough to deal with them. With the help of our friends
in
the program, and our Higher Power, we're ready for life.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, I want to be fully alive, but
I'm a little scared. Help me
know what to do with my feelings today.
Action for the Day: Today, I'll be open to feelings. I'll enjoy
my good feelings and
share them. I'll ask for help with hard feelings by praying, and by
calling my sponsor.
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Each Day a New Beginning
Give to the world the best you have, and the best will come back to you.
--Madeline Bridge
We do reap, in some measure, at some time, what we sow. Our respect for
others will result in kind. Our love expressed will return tenfold. The
kindness we greet others with will ease their relations with us. We get
from others what we give, if not at this time and place, at another. We
can be certain that our best efforts toward others do not go unnoticed.
And we can measure our due by what we give.
A major element of our recovery is the focus we place on our behavior,
the seriousness with which we tackle our inventories. We can look at
ourselves and how we reach out and act toward others; it is a far cry
from where we were before entering this program. Most of us obsessed on
"What he did to me," or "What she said." And then returned their
actions in kind.
How thrilling is the knowledge that we can invite loving behavior by
giving it! We have a great deal of control over the ebb and flow of our
lives. In every instance we can control, our behavior. Thus never
should we be surprised about the conditions of our lives.
What goes around comes around. I will look for the opportunities to be
kind and feel the results.
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition
BILL'S STORY
Had this power originated in him? Obviously it had not. There had been
no more power in him than there was in me at that minute; and this was
none at all.
That floored me. It began to look as though religious people were right
after all. Here was something at work in a human heart which had done
the impossible. My ideas about miracles were drastically revised right
then. Never mind the musty past; here sat a miracle directly across the
kitchen table. He shouted great tidings.
p. 11
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Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth
Edition Stories
Because I'm An
Alcoholic
This drinker finally found the answer to her nagging question,
"Why?"
Europe hadn't proved to be the change that would repair my life, and I
started west again. It was in Cambridge that I pronounced my first
resolutions about cutting down--New Year's resolutions I recycled for a
dozen years while my drinking and my life kept getting worse. Alcohol
had enslaved me. I was in bondage to it, although I kept assuring
myself that drinking was a pleasure and a choice.
p. 340
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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
Step Four -
"Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves."
At this stage of the inventory proceedings, our sponsors come to the
rescue. They can do this, for they are the carriers of A.A.'s tested
experience with Step Four. They comfort the melancholy one by first
showing him that his case is not strange or different, that his
character defects are probably not more numerous or worse than those of
anyone else in A.A. This the sponsor promptly proves by talking freely
and easily, and without exhibitionism, about his own defects, past and
present. This calm, yet realistic, stocktaking is immensely reassuring.
The sponsor probably points out that the newcomer has some assets which
can be noted along with his liabilities. This tends to clear away
morbidity and encourage balance. As soon as he begins to be more
objective, the newcomer can fearlessly, rather than fearfully, look
at his own defects.
p. 46
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"Enthusiastic
people
experience
life
from
the
inside out."
--Nido Qubein
There are two days about which nobody should ever worry, and these are
yesterday and
tomorrow.
--Robert J. Burdette
What people really need is a good listening-to.
--Mary Lou Casey
When I have done all the footwork I know to do and things are still not
working out, I
know today that it is time to meditate. I have faith that my answer is
still to come.
--Ruth Fishel
No one else's opinion about me can determine my worth.
--Mary Manin Morrissey
"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into
enough, and more. It
turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It
can turn a meal into a
feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes
sense of our past,
brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow."
--Melody Beattie
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Father Leo's Daily Meditation
FEAR
"Nothing in life is to be feared. It
is only to be understood."
-- Marie Curie
God is on my side. Today I really believe and understand this truth,
and it helps me
cope with my fears. Now I am beginning to understand that I was the
only real enemy
in my life. With this new understanding of God I have the power of
choice back in my
life.
I do not have to stay in a sick process. I do not need sick and
negative people in my
life. I do not have to place myself in destructive relationships or in
fearful situations.
God is alive in my life and I am discovering the spiritual power of
choice.
God, give me the courage to confront my fear and be willing to make
changes in my
life.
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"Behold
now
is
the
accepted
time,
behold now is the day of salvation."
2 Corinthians 6:2
"Every word of God is flawless; he is a shield to those who take refuge
in him.
Proverbs 30:5
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Daily Inspiration
Treat your family as you would treat a best friend. Lord, help me to
treasure my family with all of their imperfections as well as my own
and cherish the time we have together.
Let nothing that others do alter how you treat them. Lord, may I treat
all with love and consideration.
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NA Just For Today
Service Motives
"Everything that occurs in the course
of NA service must be motivated
by the desire to more successfully carry the message of recovery to the
addict who still suffers."
Basic Text pg. xvi
Our motives are often a surprise to
us. In our early days of recovery,
they were almost always a surprise! We've learned to check our motives
through prayer, meditation, the steps, and talking to our sponsor or
other addicts. When we find ourselves with an especially strong urge to
do or have something, it's particularly important to check our motives
to find out what we really want.
In early recovery, many of us throw
ourselves into service with great
fervor before we have started the regular practice of motive-checking.
It takes awhile before we become aware of the real reasons for our
zeal. We may want to impress others, show off our talents, or be
recognized and important. Now, these desires may not be harmful in
another setting, expressed through another outlet. In NA service,
however, they can do serious damage.
When we decide to serve NA, we make a
decision to help addicts find and
maintain recovery. We have to carefully check our motives in service,
remembering that it's much easier to frighten away using addicts than
to convince them to stay. When we show them game-playing, manipulation,
or pomposity, we present an unattractive picture of recovery; However,
the unselfish desire to serve others creates an atmosphere that is
attractive to the addict who still suffers.
Just for today: I will check my
motives for the true spirit of service.
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You are reading from the book Today's
Gift.
Volunteers are the only human beings
on the face of the earth who
reflect this nation's compassion, unselfish caring, patience, and just
plain loving one another. --Erma Bombeck
The most precious time we will ever
have we give away by doing
volunteer chores to help others get more out of life. There is no
material wage for this kind of work, but a host of emotional rewards.
The height of volunteer giving is doing an act of kindness or love so
quietly that none but ourselves will ever know we had a part in it.
What great humility this can bring to
us, who live in a world where
selfish people often insist on credit for all their deeds--often things
they had nothing to do with.
All we need do is think of all we have
received without deserving it or
asking for it. By taking part in the giving end of life, we find the
true wealth of our own generosity.
What secret gift can I give today?
You are reading from the book
Touchstones.
The purpose of man's life is not
happiness but worthiness. --Felix Adler
When we pursue happiness as a goal for
its own sake, we usually reach
the opposite point of emptiness. Feeling happy is a by-product of other
life experiences. Happiness comes and goes. We welcome it but cannot
capture and hold it, nor can we create a recipe for achieving happiness.
We will lead far more successful lives
pursuing other values which we
do have control over, such as honesty, respect for others and
ourselves, seeking loving relationships, and making a contribution to
the well being of others. We can accept unhappiness and difficulties
without struggle when we know we are doing something that has greater
meaning. Our Eleventh Step tells us we pray only for knowledge of God's
will for us and the power to carry that out. This helps us focus on
God's purpose for us. We can have an inner sense of joy knowing we are
leading meaningful lives, even when we aren't having a particularly
happy day.
I will seek the goals that make my
life worthwhile and welcome
happiness when
it comes.
You are reading from the book Each Day
a New Beginning.
Give to the world the best you have,
and the best will come back to you.
--Madeline Bridge
We do reap, in some measure, at some
time, what we sow. Our respect for
others will result in kind. Our love expressed will return tenfold. The
kindness we greet others with will ease their relations with us. We get
from others what we give, if not at this time and place, at another. We
can be certain that our best efforts toward others do not go unnoticed.
And we can measure our due by what we give.
A major element of our recovery is the
focus we place on our behavior,
the seriousness with which we tackle our inventories. We can look at
ourselves and how we reach out and act toward others; it is a far cry
from where we were before entering this program. Most of us obsessed on
"What he did to me," or "What she said." And then returned their
actions in kind.
How thrilling is the knowledge that we
can invite loving behavior by
giving it! We have a great deal of control over the ebb and flow of our
lives. In every instance we can control, our behavior. Thus never
should we be surprised about the conditions of our lives.
What goes around comes around. I will
look for the opportunities to be
kind and feel the results.
You are reading from the book The
Language Of Letting Go.
Nurturing Ourselves
Many of us have been so deprived of
nurturing that we think it's silly
or self-indulgent. Nurturing is neither silly nor self-indulgent; it's
how we show love for ourselves. That's what we're striving for in
recovery - a loving relationship with ourselves that works, so we can
have loving relationships with others that work.
When we hurt, we ask ourselves what we
need to help us feel better.
When we feel alone, we reach out to someone safe. Without feeling that
we are a burden, we allow that person to be there for us.
We rest when we're tired; eat when
we're hungry; have fun or relax when
our spirits need a lift. Nurturing means giving ourselves gifts - a
trip to the beauty salon or barbershop, a massage, a book, a new
jacket, or a new suit or dress. It means a long, hot bath to forget
about our problems and the world for a few moments when that would feel
good.
We learn to be gentle with ourselves
and to open up to the nurturing
that others have to offer us.
As part of nurturing ourselves, we
allow ourselves to give and receive
positive touch - touch that feels appropriate to us, touch that is
safe. We reject touch that doesn't feel good or safe and is not
positive.
We learn to give ourselves what we
need in a gentle, loving,
compassionate way. We do this with the understanding it will not make
us lazy, spoiled, self centered, or narcissistic. Nurtured people are
effective in their work and in their relationships.
We will learn to feel loved by
ourselves so much that we can truly love
others and let them love us.
Today, I will nurture myself. I will
also be open to the nurturing that
I can give to others and receive from them.
When I have done all the footwork I
know to do and things are still not
working out, I know today that it is time to meditate. I have faith
that my answer is still to come. --Ruth Fishel
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Journey To The Heart
Don’t Complicate Things
The simple, clear answer to life’s
situations can be easily found in
the heart. Don’t limit its wisdom to just one or two areas; let it
guide you through all of your life.
Are you struggling with finances?
Feeling overwhelmed by taxes? Not
certain what to do to help someone you love? Do you have a problem with
a friend? Has a business relationship gotten sticky, maybe hopelessly
adversarial? Are you at war with the person you love? Problems with
children? Problems with parents? A landlord who just won’t get the job
done? All of these areas, and more, can be brought to your heart.
Do you need to find a new hobby? Are
you stuck on a project? Do you
need an idea, some creative inspiration? Do you need a new place to
live, or a way to fix your current home? Take it all back to your heart.
Calm your mind. Let go. Get quiet. You
don’t have to know the plan.
Just put out the question, then listen to your inner voice. It will
guide you through any maze you’ve been lost in.
Don’t complicate things or try to
figure it all out. The answer is
simple: look in your heart.
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More Language Of Letting Go
Take another look at your world
Oh, the glory of the ordinary!
I wake up, roll over, and look out the
sliding glass door at the sun
rising over the distant layers of hills.
Today will be a day of errands. We’re
out of milk, so we’ll make a run
to the grocery store, probably returning home with too much chocolate
and no milk. The pictures from the last trip needed to be dropped off.
We have a flying lesson at 2:00. Then it will be supper at the Lodge
with our friend Andy. It’ll probably be something simple, like burgers
on the grill.
An ordinary day.
I remember a time when the ordinary
meant searching for another high,
searching for money to get drugs. I’m grateful for the ordinary life
that I lead.
“When we have a toothache, we know
that not having a toothache is
happiness. But later, when we don’t have a toothache, we don’t treasure
our non-toothache,,” Thich Nhat Hanh gently reminds us in his book The
Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching.
Take another look at your ordinary
world.
See how glorious it is.
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Sharing Your Gifts
Gift Giveaway by Madisyn Taylor
We all know how to give the gift of a
present, but it is more important
to share your gifts that you were born with.
When the holidays come around, most of
us join the masses in shopping
for gifts, wrapping them, and giving them away. Once we are in the
mind-set that this is what we are going to do, we don’t hold back or
struggle with the process. We simply give the presents we have
acquired, letting them go in the awareness that they were never ours
anyway. If we could apply some of this unquestioning generosity with
our own inner resources and gifts, we might be able to give of
ourselves more freely.
In truth, our gifts only make sense
when we give them away. Imagine
carefully procured and wrapped presents that remain in the house of the
giver, never getting to the people who were meant to have them. If we
hold back, not knowing quite when to share our gifts, we all lose.
Ironically, the more we give of ourselves, the more we have to offer.
For example, if we have a talent for singing but we hold it back, we
sing less and have less experience. On the other hand, if we offer the
gift of our voice to the world at every opportunity, our talent
develops and becomes still greater, and we have that much more to give.
How we present our gifts can be
likened to wrapping paper and ribbons.
When we truly value what we have to offer, our presentation honors what
lies inside it. We speak well of our talents and introduce them with
confidence and panache. Like a performer who chooses carefully what to
wear and how to set the stage, we provide an environment that
complements and enhances what we have to offer. Far from being
superficial, a beautiful presentation is as much a part of the energy
of gift giving as the gift itself. All these things together—the gift,
the presentation, and the giving away—make up the joyful experience of
bestowing our offerings upon the world. Published with permission from
Daily OM
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A Day At A Time
Reflection For The Day
More and more these days, as I
progress in my recovery, I seem to do a
lot of listening — quietly waiting to hear God’s unmistakable voice
within me. Prayer is becoming a two-way street — of seeking and
listening, of searching and finding. A favorite bit of Scripture for me
is, “Be still and know that I am God.” Do I pay quiet and loving
attention to Him, ever more confident of an enlightened knowledge of
His will for me?
Today I Pray
As I seek to know my Higher Power, may
I learn the best ways — for me —
to reach and hear Him. May I begin to feel prayer, not just listening
to the sound of my own verbalizing. May I feel the sharp outlines of my
humanness fading as His Godliness becomes a part of me. May I feel that
I am one with Him.
Today I will Remember
Feel the stillness of God.
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One More Day
Sadness flies on the wings of the
morning and out of the heart of
darkness comes the light.
– Jean Giraudoux
Many people — not just the chronically
ill — experience a sense of
sadness or longing at this time of year. Perhaps the season stirs
memories of carefree, happier times or, instead, of holidays long ago
that were unhappy and without fantasy.
Knowing that this sadness is not
uncommon can be comforting and so is
knowing we can resist sadness. If we’re unhappy with old traditions, we
can introduce new ones. If we’ve isolated ourselves, we can join in
some group activities. And if we’re tired, we can give ourselves
permission to say no and to have time alone. We might also examine our
expectations and remember that special days are not copies of earlier
ones. Each is new.
In the holidays ahead, I will continue
to do the things that have been
special. I will abandon any pattern that gives me no joy.
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Food For Thought
Remembering
We remember what we were like before we joined OA. We remember the
confusion and despair, which threatened to overwhelm us. We remember
the agony of eating binges which started so innocently and which ended
in such pain.
As we recover from compulsive overeating, we remember events from the
past in a new light. We see how our disease contributed to seemingly
unrelated problems. We recognize feelings, which we were not aware of
at the time. We understand the real reasons for some of our strange
actions and mysterious fears.
At the same time that it keeps us anchored in the present, abstinence
helps us to understand the past. Integrating our memories gives us
strength and confidence for the future. What we always need to remember
is that we are compulsive overeaters still, no matter how long we have
abstained. Remembering this fact protects us from allowing our disease
to become active again.
Today, I remember I am a compulsive overeaten.
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One Day At A Time
PEACE
"We cannot find peace if we are
afraid of the windstorms of life."
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
(Psychiatrist and author of 'On Death
and Dying')
My life always seemed so filled with
difficulty. I seemed to have more
than my fair share of traumas and losses. Why was I always being tested
like this? It just didn't seem fair. I was so wrapped up in myself and
the unfairness of my difficult life that I couldn't see that each of
these harsh experiences had been opportunities for growth. Instead of
bemoaning my fate and blaming people or situations for what seemed to
me to be the cause of the current difficulty, I never looked at what
part I had played in the whole situation, or the lessons I could learn
from each of these experiences.
It has often been said that God
doesn't give us more than we can cope
with. What I realized later, once I'd come into the program, was that
each of these experiences had been a unique learning opportunity for
me; they were a chance to grow and mature. I had been too stuck in
self-pity and blame that I hadn't seen the wonderful gifts that I was
being given with each new life experience. When I was able to open
myself up fully to the lessons that I could learn from life, I became a
whole person. It was then that the promises of the program begin to be
fulfilled in my life, and I began to know serenity and peace.
One Day at a Time . . .
I will look for what lesson my Higher
Power wants me to learn from
life. I am then able to grow and change, and by doing so, I will come
to know serenity and peace.
Sharon S.
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AA 'Big Book' - Quote
The terms 'spiritual experience' and
'spiritual awakening' are used
many times in this book which, upon careful reading, shows that the
personality change sufficient to bring about recovery from alcoholism
has manifested itself among us in many different forms. - Pg. 567 -
4th. Edition - Appendices II - Spiritual Experience
Hour To Hour - Book - Quote
Are we remembering the so-called 'good
times' right now? How nice a
'high' would be? We use this hour to REALLY think about what got us to
this fight for sobriety. It wasn't because we were having a lot of fun!
Help me to think a drink and drug all
the way through, not just the
high but the hell it leads to.
A Return to Living
Today, I keep my house clean and let
go of the rest - some of the ways
that I wish to live as a recovered person will not be readily
understood by others. I will keep my own scorecard clean and not worry
about the results. I will act in a way that makes it easier for me to
live with myself - that keeps my own conscience clear. Other people's
negative projections of me no longer run me. I am the one who makes the
decisions about who I want to be. I need not defend and explain myself
again and again. I need not ask permission to be who I am. I allow
myself to be happy in my own skin today. I think well of myself, no
matter what others think of me.
I create my own self.
- Tian Dayton PhD
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
The people you most need to give love
to will seem like the ones who
deserve it the least.
It begins with me.
"Walk Softly and Carry a Big Book" - Book
Going to any lengths are our strengths.
Time for Joy - Book - Quote
Today I am doing the best that I can
with the guidance that I get. I
leave the results to my Higher Power and trust that they are for the
greatest good.
Alkiespeak - Book - Quote
It's not just the 'yets' I worry about
if I pick up a drink - it's also
the 'agains'. - Anon.
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AA Thought for the Day
December 17
Resentments
This business of harboring resentments
is infinitely grave. For then we
shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the
spirit.
The insanity of alcohol returns and we
drink again. And with us, to
drink is to die.
- - As Bill Sees It, p. 5
Thought to Ponder . . .
Resentment is like acid, eating away
at the vessel it is stored in.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Avoid Anger.
~*~A.A. Thoughts For The Day~*~
Meetings
Through going to meetings and
listening,
and occasionally speaking,
through doing Twelfth Step work,
whereby in helping others you are both
the teacher
and the student,
by making many wonderful AA friends,
I have been taught all the things in
life that are worth having.
c. 1976AAWS, Alcoholics Anonymous,
(3rd Edition), p. 416
Thought to Consider . . .
Meetings: A checkup from the neck up
*~*~*AACRONYMS*~*~*
H E A R T = Healing, Enjoying, And
Recovering, Together
*~*~*~*~*^Just For Today!^*~*~*~*~*
Expansion
>From "A Vision for You":
"Every few days this doctor suggests
our approach to one of his
patients. Understanding our work, he can do this with
an eye to selecting those who are
willing and able to recover on a
spiritual basis. Many of us, former patients, go there to
help. Then, in this eastern city,
there are informal meetings such as
we have described to you, where you may now see
scores of members. There are the same
fast friendships, there is the
same helpfulness to one another"
2001 AAWS, Inc., Fourth Edition;
Alcoholics Anonymous, pg. 163
*~*~*~*~*^ Grapevine Quote ^*~*~*~*~*
"More than a million of us who suffer
from the disease of alcoholism
have found not just the ability to live with or survive this insidious
disease, but a joyful way of life as new as this morning and as old as
mankind. We can gain sobriety, aspire to serenity, at no greater price
than caring for our fellow sufferers and sharing with them what has
been freely given to us. We can experience the true joy of love that we
once tried to destroy by not giving it away, and we can learn the truth
that the more we give away, the more we will have."
Brick Town, N.J., January 1977
Because One Man Was Lonely,"
AA Grapevine
~*~*~*~*^ Big Book & Twelve N' Twelve
Quotes of the Day
^*~*~*~*~*
"If there be divorce or separation,
there should be no undue haste
for the couple to get together. The
man should be sure of his
recovery. The wife should fully
understand his new way of life. If
their old relationship is to be
resumed it must be on a better basis,
since the former did not work. This
means a new attitude and spirit
all around. Sometimes it is to the
best interests of all concerned
that a couple remain apart. Obviously,
no rule can be laid down.
Let the alcoholic continue his program
day by day. When the time for
living together has come, it will be
apparent to both parties."
Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
Working With Others, Page 99
" I had always believed in a Power
greater that myself. I had often
pondered these things. I was not an
atheist. Few people really are, for
that means blind faith in the strange
proposition that this universe
originated in a cipher and aimlessly
rushes no where."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition,
Bill's Story, pg. 10~
Here we ask God for inspiration, an
intuitive thought or a decision.
-Alcoholics Anonymous p.86
All we need is a key, and the decision
to swing the door open.
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
p.34
Misc. AA Literature - Quote
Many newcomers, having experienced
little but constant deflation, feel
a growing conviction that human will is of no value whatever. They have
become persuaded, sometimes rightly so, that many problems besides
alcohol will not yield to a headlong assault powered only by the
individual's will.
However, there are certain things
which the individual alone can do.
All by himself, and in the light of his own circumstances, he needs to
develop the quality of willingness. When he acquires willingness, he is
the only one who can then make the decision to exert himself along
spiritual lines. Trying to do this is actually an act of his own will.
It is a right use of this faculty.
Indeed, all of A.A.'s Twelve Steps
require our sustained and personal
exertion to conform to their principles and so, we trust, to God's will.
Prayer for the Day: Mychal's Prayer - Lord, take me where You
want me to go; Let me meet who You want me to meet; Tell me what You
want me to say; And keep me out of Your way.